Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgendered people: Where's the love...?

Question

I have no objections to homosexuality but whenever I hear people speak about homosexuality being right or wrong, these conversations are always oriented towards sexual acts and not love. A lot of justification for homosexuality being wrong revolves around "flawed biology" and or "flawed psychology" that influences a person to commit lustful acts with people of their own gender. These "theories" then go on to explain how this is counter productive to society properly functioning. I look at these kind of statements and wonder, Where's the love? These 'theories" are completely detached from the concept of love, which I think is pretty important for society to function. People have lustful relationships that are devoid of love and commitment, this is destructive.

So for the Hypothetical reason that I need convincing, would people share some convincing evidence that homosexuals can be in loving committed relationships just as heterosexuals can?

I think homophobic people need to see this.

Answer 1

I have been with my partner for 16 years. We love each other very deeply. I know about 10 other couples, lesbian and gay, who have at least this much time under their belts.

I highly urge you to find a screening of the movie Inlaws and Outlaws. It is a wonderful documentary that shows the simple fact that love is love, and it comes in many different flavors.

http://inlawsandoutlawsfilm.com/

I saw this film in LA, and again in Seattle. It is truly wonderful. I think you can buy a DVD of it online now.

ALSO

There is evidence that supports the ideas that long-term gay relationships can be as stable as straight relationships. Here is an interesting article on the subject:

http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2004/02/27/MNG1H59R5Q1.DTL

Answer 2

I don't know where they get such ideas, but maybe because they are afraid that someone is getting more than they are. Or are happier.

One of my happiest events I ever went to, was a fiftieth wedding anniversary for two gay married men who met in the marines during world war 2.

I as a homosexual, I cannot imagine having sex without love.. I was gay married to the most wonderful man in the world for 18 of the best years of my life.

We went to work every day, paid the mortgage, taxes and were very close to both families and contributed to society. After the first few years we dwindled down to the national average of having sex 3.5 times a month. Sounds boring, but we were just like straight married couples, and you know, we never had an argument in all those 18 years. Now that is unusual !

Sometimes to this day I will wake up in the middle of the night and do so wish I could hear his breathing in the darkness.

But I do know that the day will come, sooner or later, when we will be together again.

Answer 3

Not knowing you I don't know if you can understand this but try this on for love.

A gay couple friend of mine have been together for 24 years. They raised the one mans children as their own. The children turn out to be nice, upstanding citizens who for the most part received a college education or joined the armed forces. These two men spent many years together laughing, loving and working through hardships. After 24 YEARS together Larry the older of the two developed emphysema and his health deteriorated quickly. Being from a rural town in central ILL they were well know as 'that gay couple' - some people loved them for who they were - some people hated them without ever even speaking to them.

The local hospital would not allow Mark to visit Larry in ICU as he was not family so as his lover of 24 years lay dying in a sterile hospital room I sat on the front steps of the hospital with Mark and held him while his heart broke and he cried his eyes out wanting desperately to spend the final moments of Larry life with him.

The hospital call the local police and we were forcibly removed form the property while Larry breathed his last breath.

If you think for one moment that their is no love in a gay relationship you are a fool for many many times that is ALL there is...there is no marriage, there is no acceptance, there is no social understanding, there is no celebrating a 50th wedding anniversary at the Plaza...there is just love.

Answer 4

Soon 18 years :) From teenage to here, without a bump. If love can last that long, it must be love, no ?

When GLTB's seem to talk a lot about sex, then that is only because that is what binds us : our sexuality. Not our religion, politics, culture, opinions, or anything other. Just our sexuality and how that often puts in the same situations.

Answer 5

If anecdotal evidence matters, I personally know of five couples who have had relationships last for over twenty years. One couple met in the 1940's during WWII and are still together today. Another lesbian couple were together for thirty years until one partner died. It has been proven that if partners are accepted as couples, hetero or homosexual, said couples will last longer.

Answer 6

We owe no explanation to homophobes. Statistics, personal life stories and opinions will not affect their mindset. Homosexuals are gradually making progress as they strive for equal rights and they will prevail. It's just a matter of time.

Answer 7

Attraction is the start. Love takes time, but it's there. I know that we love just as deep and just as long as straights. It seems like here lately, even longer. I know that there are different types of love. I love my friends one way. I love my children another way. The more you love, the more you can love and be loved in return.

Answer 8

I agree with every single word you said.

I think a whole lot of homophobia originates from phobias about butt sex. Most homophobics reduce all gay relationships to that single act. They are unable to understand that gay people love each other for reasons that have nothing to do with butt sex but they just can't get past it...A lot of them seem to think it's okay for straight people to have butt sex, though... Go figure....Everybody ought to restrict themselves to judging what is best for them and not everybody else...

Answer 9

I think straight people have just as many lustful relationships as gay people, if not more. Love is the same between gay people as between straight people. It takes time, and it grows.

Answer 10

I fell in love with my girlfriend before I had any type of sex with her. The reason people only talk about sex is because thats what disgusts everyone. thats what everybody wants to know about. And when people think of homosexuals, all they think about is the sex part. I don't know....