2007-06-28 05:56:01 · 23 answers · asked by Sven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
test her... give her all your bills and nicely ask her to pay them so you wont have to be in debt anymore...
2007-06-28 06:00:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. She is your girlfriend, you should be truthful with everything. If she really likes you, then it won't matter. Everyone knows that people make mistakes from time to time. There is some kind of ratio like 1 in 4 Americans are in debt (heard it somewhere). She shouldn't be mad at you or dump you because if she did then she isn't the kind of girlfriend you want. Both of you need to talk things through and maybe she knows some way of helping you out. Theres no way to beat around the bush, just tell her straight forward. Hope this helps!
2007-06-28 13:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How new is your girlfriend? How rich is she? I am hoping that her family (and her) are not as obnoxious as some of my previous "rich" friends.
Are you worried about the debt itself or are you worried that she won't stay with you because you can't buy her all the nice things?
My boyfriend was in debt for awhile and how he approached me was very tactful. He got me to sit down with him so I can help him with the math and then mentioned to me that "we" not "him only" should keep budgets for the next while and don't get excessively expensive gifts for each other.
I liked it that he sort of got my help (without giving out money) by doing some of his calculations and budgeting. And then mentioned that as a couple we should save on each other. This encouraged me to save money as well as I was what you called a "spoiled" girl and spent money like no tomorrow.
2007-06-28 13:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by travelrookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finances are a very private thing and I would only share that information if I felt like this was "the one." If you feel you have that kind of r'ship with her, then I would sit her down and just be brave - tell her you've made stupid decisions when it came to your finances and credit. Tell her you'd love to sit down and make a plan together to get you out of this situation. If she wants to marry you and is smart, she'll know that it's the wise thing to do because if/when you marry, your debt will become her debt.
2007-06-28 13:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why do think you need to tell her? Does she want you to do things you just can't afford? Or do you want her to pay your debt off for you?
If she wants you to pay for things you can't afford then you need to divert her to other things that you can afford. If it truly becomes an issue and you have been going out for a while then you need to come clean with her. Tell her that you have over spent and have toom much debt to lavish her with the lifestyle she desires. If she loves you she will say it doesn't matter and will into let you be in situations that you can't afford.
If you just want her to give you money then may be you shouldn't be in this relationship.
It really matters why you are asking thios question to give you the best response.
2007-06-28 13:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by Spiral Wizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By leveling with her. This is especially since you presumably care for her - as a person, mind you - not as a meal ticket (you think of her as a person and not as a meal ticket, right?)
And let her know that you're working on getting out of debt (you're doing that, right) which is why you prefer to enjoy inexpensive activities right now.
Now then, if princess is a shallow material girl, she'll dump you right away - but then, at least you'll have been honest with her.
But, if she's a REAL princess, she'll be delighted that a man is being honest with her and trying to earn her love - not buy it.
You won't know for sure unless you level with her. Start with that.
2007-06-28 13:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is rich, she didn't get rich by not checking out things. She probably already know that you are in debt. I would be honest with her and maybe she can help you get out of debt.
2007-06-28 12:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with not tell her nothing. How long have u know this girl anyway...there's no need to lay all ur cards on table with someone u just met. Dont get ahead of urself buddy boy
by doing so u might ruin something good in making. There's more things to talk to u new g/f about beside ur financial woe .
Better yet if i was u i'll completely disregard her financial well being and just treat her like all my other new g/f.
2007-06-28 13:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by Thedream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're rich, I think we're all in debt in one form or another. You're not so bad to where you're ready to file bankruptcy, are you? If you are, it happens. If she's a new girlfriend, she doesn't need to know right away. Give it some time before you start telling her everything.
2007-06-28 13:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know. It may be something she would like to know. Unfortunately, for some people they have standards when it comes to these types of things, and some people don't want to start off dating someone with an excessive amount of debt.
2007-06-28 13:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by happy kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I don't see where that is a new girlfriend's business. Pay off your debts and you won't have to tell her. Makes sense to me.
2007-06-28 13:07:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋