how do i tell mom?

Question

Im 15 and no, what i did was not the brightest thing at all. But im possibly pregnant now and i dont know how to go about getting a pregnancy test without telling my mom and then next to tell my mom if i am.( 'cuz "mom, Im pregnant" doesnt seem to hit it of in my thoughts).My Bf is in Michigan and my friends are yall off on vacation.My bf thinks its immpossible that im pregnant and i havent told him yet that there is a big possibility.How do i convince him that we NEED protection ??? Thanks

Answer 1

A) You don't "convince" him, you order him to use protection, or he does not get anything from you. I will forget the 15 year old being too young lecture

B) Get a pregnancy test and take it. If you do this, you will only need to tell mom if you actually are pregnant.

C) If you are, then tell Mom. Hopefully yours will be as supportive as mine was when i needed her over the years.

Answer 2

I don't think you can convince your bf to use contraception - some men really have a hatred for condoms. Maybe you should start taking the pill, which will protect against pregnancy but not STIs. If he's not prepared to take responsibility tho, don't give in and have intercourse with him - he'll sure learn that way.

If you go to your Doctor, they can do a pregnancy test for you free of charge but you may have to wait a week or so for the results. And it is confidential so they don't tell your mom unless you want them to. Sometimes they provide this service at pharmacies and the results are pretty instant. You can buy home testing kits too, they're quite cheap really. No-one need know if you don't want. But I'm sure your mom will understand - you made a mistake, and we all make mistakes - just learn from it and don't make the same one again!

Take a deep breath, relax, and be happy!

I wish you all the very best with everything!

Answer 3

Okay step 1. find someay to get a pregnancy test and see if its yes or no.

if no, tell your b/f that if he respects you and your life and your body, he will wear a condom or else he's out of the picture. I'm not going to go into "you're too young to have sex" befause obviously you are (you cant go and get a pregncancy test, how are you going to care for a child?) but what's done is done.

if yes, tell your mom. Just say "mom, I need to talk to you about something serious." at this point, she will probably have a good idea due to the fact that this is every mother's worst nightmare. since you were in a trainging bra its been in the back of her mind. so, since you know now that shes expecting the worse, just tell her "I made a really huge mistake and I need your help getting through it and making some decisions about it. I want to take responsibility and do the rtight thing for me. I am pregnant" she will cry, scream, maybe even collapse on the floor (as my mom did). But, then she'll help (hopefully). Good luck and email me if you need further help, okay?

Answer 4

go to the drug store and get one of those pregnancy tests go home and take the test it will be faster to get that done then anything else. if its negative you can relax(make sure you take it at least 6 weeks since )..If its negative, just take all the leftovers, box, wrapper, etc and put it in a paper bag, then gather up garbage from your room tie it off and don't put it in the garbage can until the day its collected and the cans are out on the street.Do it at the last minute if you can then there is no evidence and you will be okay.
If you find you are pregnant then you need to tell her right away so you can make some decisions but there is also a antiabortion groups in the yellow pages you can call them they will support you.. or call 1-800-448-3000 which is a 24 hour hot line (boys/girls town) they will help you too

Answer 5

If you have the money and the means, getting a pregnancy test from the grocery or drug store is probably be the easiest option. I would, however, recommend finding a way to visit your local health department instead. They will likely perform the test for free. If you are pregnant, they can also provide counseling for you that may be helpful in deciding how to tell your mom and your boyfriend. If you are not pregnant, most health departments also offer free or reduced-cost birth control...which you DEFINITELY need if you are not pregnant.

As for convincing your boyfriend that you need protection...I would think the stress of this incident would be enough convincing for both of you! The health department will have pamphlets about birth control options, disease prevention, etc. Beyond that, you need to stand up for yourself, your body, and your health...even if he doesn't seem to care about his (protection is for BOTH people, not just the girl!). Tell him -- no protection, no sex. If he can't respect that, then he clearly doesn't respect you and you should move on.

Answer 6

I am sure that you know that you should not be haveing any kind of sex without protection. If your boyfriend won't wear a condom then your answer should be...NO! Do not endanger the rest of your life because he doesn't want to wear a condom.
I don't know what kind of relationship that you have with your mother but you need to speak with her. Does she know that you are sexually active? You need to just tell her that you need to talk with her privately and that you have made some choices that may not have been the best and now you need her help. You can expect her to be angry...that is normal and hopefully will pass quickly. You need to get to a doctor and find out for sure if you are pregnant or not and to figure out a way to avoid that. And please remember that if you go on the pill it still does NOT allow you to have unprotected sex. Pregnancy is the best outcome from unprotected sex. A disease or HIV is much much worse.

Answer 7

before u tell ur mom u can go to the store and buy a pregnancy test. follow the directions and see what u get. if u are pregnant do not hide that from ur mother. u dont want to put that baby in any distress or urself because u can have a miscarriage. talk to ur mother privately and tell her that u know u are wrong for what u did and especially for not enforcing protection or coming to talk to her sooner but this happened and u need to go to the dr or plan out what u plan on doing if u are pregnant...........as for ur boyfriend, he needs to use protection. there is nothing cute about being pregnant multiple times or catching numerous std's. and u do know that some std's u cannot get rid of, especially aids/hiv. be smart and get on some kind of birthcontrol and make him use a condem! if he dosen't want to then u need to leave him alone.

Answer 8

Download pics of std's off the internet and show him. Say this is what could happen if you don't start wrapping it. Then remind him that kids are cruel in school and word will get out that he has an STD if he were to catch on. Or, tell him it is on average $275,000 to raise a child from birth to age 18... doesn't count college cost. I assume your bf is still in school, don't think he could afford a baby any more than you can. As for the pregnancy test, go to your local health department and ask for a free test.

Answer 9

The best way to convince the BF that protection is a must is tell him no protection, NO SEX!!!! It would be smart if you carried one in your purse They're will be Parent Center in your town/city that will do a test for you plus share important information for sexually active teens.
I know it's hard to go to Mom but sometimes that's best. She won't stop loving you and will get over her disappointment. If you talk with Mom and she knows you are sexually active she may even suggest getting the pill for you.
I haven't bothered to lecture and say stop because we both know that you won't. I will say again use protection as you are so very young and have your life ahead of you. Stay safe and I wish you all the best.

Answer 10

ok first off, dont listen to the guy that said you're too young, not that youre not, but if you are you could still deal with it. I was the same age as you when i found out and now I'm 18 and a sophmore in college. But thats beside the point. If you think you are, seriously just wait until you miss a period. Then when you do, just go to the store and buy one, no shame. Everyone does it! if you are, go to the doctor and tell the doctor that you have bad headaches and they'll do blood work and they can tell your mom for you..thats what my doctor did. IT WAS A LOT EASIER! and if you're not, then you really need to tell your boyfriend that you need to take care of yourself because you have goals in life. and if he doesnt want to listen, then girl he isnt worth it! You're 15 and you have your whole life ahead of you...really think about things.