How do I tell someone not to touch my pregnant belly?

Question

More specifically, how do I tell my father-in-laws girlfriend that it's not ok? I've only just met her on mother's day, and have since only seen her maybe 3 times. She's practically a stranger to me, yet even on our first meeting she had her hands all over my tummy. And now every time she sees me she putting both hands on me and rubbing away like I'm a little buddha or something. It's very frustrating since I don't want to be a total *****, but it's also an invasion of my privacy and makes me very uncomfortable. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Honestly, I would come right out and tell her that it makes you uncomfortable. Or, you could just reach right out and start rubbing her belly. I made "rules" that I told all of the relatives and friends as soon as I found out I was expecting. Rule #1 - no touching unless I offered it up. Either telling her in a polite way, or rubbing her belly should get the point across. I'm so sorry you're going through this! I'm 15 weeks and completely dreading people touching my belly as it gets bigger - ugh!! Good luck.

Answer 3

Tell her..I don't really know you well and I feel that you touching my belly is a total invasion of my privacy and frankly it makes me very uncomfortable.
I had this problem but with random strangers in the stores wanting to touch my belly! I was like Hell NO! And I'd turn and walk away!

Answer 4

You pretty much need to be straightforward, but put it as nicely as possible. I had this problem, and I told the person nicely that I'm sorry, but I'm not a touchy-feely person and while I was glad they were excited about the baby, I'm not comfortable with them rubbing my stomach. They were a little put off - but they got over it. And, really - tough - my body, I say who touches and who doesn't. If you're not comfortable with being up-front like that, you're other option is to ALWAYS make sure something is between you - a counter, table, your husband, etc - she may get the hint that way. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Ask your father-in-law or have your husband talk to him and have him tell her. Just explain that you don't like your belly touched. It's your body. Nobody has the right to start touching your body without your permission. I don't like it either, but I can tolerate friends and family. What I don't like is strangers doing it, so if someone starts talking to me about my pregnancy, I keep my guard up and usually put my hand on my belly so I can block anyone else's. Good luck.

Answer 6

I would TRY to be polite and just tell her that you do not want to be groped on. If that does not work, swat her! I did it to my Mother and it stopped her annoying actions immediately (we are not close, nor are we very touchy feely and her rubbing on me and talking baby talk was annoying enough WITHOUT pregnancy hormones making it worse).

I have promised that the next stranger or casual acquaintance that rubs me, I am going to grab his crotch or her breasts and just say "honk, honk"! Being pregnant does not make you public property.

There are VERY few people other than my doctor, husband and children that I want touching me so intimately. I have let a couple that normally would not be on my list because they had the decency to ask and I appreciated that so much.

Answer 7

Annoying ! Although her intentions are good .Just try telling her that you've been so irritable lately that you do not want to be touched and if she still touches you anyway you could use some humor and say 'watch out im so hungry i might bite that off' hopefully shell get the point.

Answer 8

the only thing u can do is to tell her that u just don't feel comfortable when people touching Ur belly, not only her. And tell her in the normal way, so she is not gonna get upset, but u know what, u don't even know her anyway so don't even worry about what she is gonna say after u tell that.
If u don't like it, just say it .....that's totally normal!!!

Answer 9

I would say that the baby seems to be sleeping, and you're so grateful because you've been getting kicked all day. You'd rather she not rub your belly and wake the baby.

If that doesn't work, I'd just say you don't like it. It's a really weird thing to do if you think about it. Just go up to someone and "rub" them. If you weren't pregnant, it wouldn't be acceptable. You'd be on the phone to 911! ;o)

Answer 10

Just tell her that you're really uncomfortable lately and would just like the attention off of your stomach and yourself for a while. Stay away from anything that may make her defensive... like YOU make me uncomfortable or YOU need to stop. Just say that "I have been feeling uncomfortable" ETC. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 11

Tell her point blank... I'm really not comfortable having my stomach touched. This worked for me towards the end of my second pregnancy I was huge and my belly was extremely sensitive to touch. It's your body and it all comes down to what we are taught as children about unwanted touching , it still applies.