I am pregnant for the second time and 22 weeks. With my first child I felt fine during pregnancy.?

Question

The first morning home from hospital I started crying. It lasted for a few months, I was miserable and anxious and restless. I constantly worried about what I had gotten myself into and fantasized about adoption. I didnt want to hold her or anything. I said I would never have another child and went on prozac. It helped me and I've been back to normal for the last 4 years. My husband and I decided to have another baby but the depression has come back, this time during pregnancy. I orignally went of my meds but went back 3 weeks ago on 10mg of Prozac. Its not helping and my relationship with my first born is already beginning to suffer. I have trouble eating, sleeping, concentrating, and have no interest in playing with her anymore. I have to force myself to hug her and pretend to be happy and I dont even sit at the table to eat lunch with her. I find myself wishing I never got pregnant and ruined everything for her and my husband. is it just my hormones? has anybody else felt this

Answer 1

My grandmother suffered from depression after having her baby and also during pregnancy. It's a serious thing and can keep you from functioning normally and affect those around you, like your children and spouse, as you already know.

I would suggest that you keep seeing a psychiatrist because an OB is not equipped to handle this aspect of your pregnancy.

I am so sorry you are feeling this bad and I can sympathize, because I have been suffering from anxiety lately so bad that sometimes it's hard to get through a day normally and I have young children, too.

What helped me the MOST was talking to close/trusted friends and family about my problem (embarrassing as it was to me) and also PRAYING every day for help. Medical treatment will also help, but you need a broad-spectrum approach.

You are human and don't just need medication. You need support and love, too!

On days when you feel it's too overwhelming, find someone who can watch your firstborn and keep her occupied and content while you work through this.

All the best to you and baby and my prayers are with you.

Answer 2

I suffered from post partum depression - which I'm guessing you were diagnosed with after your 1st- and my ob told me that in a future pg that depression could appear again. Yes, a lot of it has to do with your hormones, I know you love your family, but pregancies and rasining kids can be very overwhelming, and the important thing is that you: don't feel ashamed because of it, don't get depressed over your depression, and address the issue now. My best advice is that you give your obgyn a call, tellhim what's going on and you say you wanna see him asap. He can give you better advice for this, because I'm not sure if you are allowed to take prozac when you are pg. Also, you can talk to your husband about it, finding support in my family (husband) really helped me get over it too. Sometimes we just need to vent things out, but if you go untreated you could end up hurting your family -emotionally I mean- . I wish you the best. I do know how you feel. Please consult your ob.

Answer 3

You need to continue to receive medical care from a psychiatrist - not just a general MD or your OB. You should also try to get yourself into some kind of therapy or a support group for mothers with depression / postpartum depression.

The fact that you are not feeling connected to your child is not a good sign and you need to seek help and follow their recommendations. Depression is very serious and can quickly spiral out of control.

Answer 4

You definitely have post-partum depression. You need to see a Dr. right away. You should read Brooke Shield's book, "And Then Came the Rain" if you want to read about someone who went through what you are going through. There are also websites that can help you.

Answer 5

Depression during pregnancy can be serious and have bad effects on your unborn....you need to dicuss this with your doctor and get as much help as possible.

Answer 6

Talk to a counselor. I'm sure they can help you out better than us yahooligans.