I find myself purging and using "morning sickness" as an excuse when I know that's not always the case. I need to stop and want to talk to someone about it but don't want everyone to think I'm weak and stupid....I don't know what to do.
2007-06-28 02:27:39 · 16 answers · asked by hpetrie1223 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am sorry you have this disorder, but all i can say to you right now is, as a mother of 4 .....
It's time to pull the reigns on yourself and (not sayin it will be easy) quit being selfish right now and think of the life you should be saving.
That's what it is NOW at this point is habit and selfishness. That baby has got to come first and purging is NOT the answer, again i know it's hard but heart over mind right now should be what you are thinking of. Tell someone, who cares if they think your weak, save that babies life or live with the consequences for the rest of your life!
GL
2007-06-28 02:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by kissmeagainnow 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh honey!! You do need to stop, the only way people would think you were weak is if you let your pride stop you from getting help for you and that little bab growing inside you! I had bulimia for 4 years (been recovered for 2), and am pregnant, I caught myself using that excuse and it coming back up and becoming somewhat of a problem again (that I quickly corrected). Find someone you trust, that can help to hold you accountable, talk to your prenatal doctor as well, they can explain the dangers of being pregnant and what can happen if your purging throughout the whole pregnancy and the dangers for your baby. Your baby really needs those nutrients, something that helped me was telling myself (as lame as it sounds) everytime I ate anything that I was doing it to get healthy, everytime I worked out, I was doing it to get healthy, overtime, your convinced of it, remember I said over time, took a few months to kick in, but just really focus on the importance of being healthy.
Your body needs a minimum of 1200 calories a day to be healthy, and also to not store fat. When getting less you start storing fat (even if losing weight, the weight you keep is all fat). People with eating disorders have really high fat percentages usually. Also do some studying about your eating disorder, read about it, and gain some information. Read some books like "The Confident Woman" or "Look Great Feel Great" both by Joyce Meyer, they really encouraged me.
Here's a great site with tons of information
http://www.myeatingdisorder.com
If you ever need to talk IM or email me, I would love to help you on this very rough road to being recovered. I am now 22 years old, and very focused on being healthy, thats what's important. I had people following me around to the bathroom to make sure I wasn't purging and it really hurt that they don't trust you (although they really shouldn't), and they just didn't understand. Talk to your family and friends, it's hard now, but don't be ashamed, it's a mental disorder that some people have and just need help getting it corrected. Talk to a youth pastor if you know any and get some encouragement from them as well. The more the better off you will be.
**HUGS** Toni Lynne
tonilynne215@hotmail.com
2007-06-28 02:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by tonilynne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing that you said that caught my eye is that you are 9 wks pregnant. I am also 9wks pregnant depending on when you posted this my baby is due in Feb. Anyway back to you with that being said thinking about your baby is not going to make you stop doing something you were doing long before you got pregnant. For me i get so sick sometimes i dont want to eat and i am not bullemic or anorexic. At other times my baby well make me eat i will feel so nauseous i would rather eat or if i am sleeping i wait to long and i know im hungry there is a problem. What im trying to say is that maybe your baby will do the same and make you eat. If not and you think this may be to hard on your own talk to your doctor. Ask for therapy to help. You are not weak or stupid you would be looking out for the best interest of your child. You might also want to find out the risks of what you are doing maybe some birth defect that may be caused will stop you. i hope this helps good luck
2007-06-28 02:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by kindra1988 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh my goodness, you are not weak and stupid for having this difficulty! It's a physical and psychological problem and needs treatment just like any other.
Please call your family doctor or OB and tell them what's going on. This is more common than you think! They can give you a referral for a good specialist that can help you conquer this so you and baby can get the nutrition you need.
Many women lose a lot of weight in the first trimester from sickness, so I would not be panicking yet, but in the coming weeks you are really going to have to have the support and help you need to establish a regular and healthy diet or your baby will be underweight and malnourished.
All the best to you and baby! My prayers are with you.
2007-06-28 02:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Veritas 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My mom had a friend with this problem, i was about 6 weeks ahead of her and at 5 months she wasnt even showing(her second child so she should have been) she went into the hospital because she went into premature labor and they put her on bedrest in the hospital for 4 weeks. You need to get help, and not worry what other people are thinking, and im sure you will find they will be extremely supportive. Remember, you are carrying a child, you need to do whats best for both you to ensure a healthy pregnancy and baby. Get help! im sure you will find you will be supported, you're not stupid or weak!
2007-06-28 02:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ryansfiance!<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can give you advise but we can not help you. My sister-in-law had a eating disorder. She was 9 months pregnant and looked like she was not pregnant at all. She hid her pregnancy from her job until she fainted around 8 months during her pregnancy. The baby drained everything out of her. Her hair she had none. It all fell out. She ate a cracker a day. Her baby came out to weighing 9 pounds. God was looking out for her baby. Now she no longer has a eating disorder she got away from the person who was causing her to starve which was her mom. Her mom had control over her life and her kid. She is doing great now, she even has a booty and boobs. And she has guys chasing her like there is no tomorrow. Find out what is bothering that is causing you to have the eating disorder. I believe you will do fine.
2007-06-28 03:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by JUICY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't be "weak and stupid", but scared and wanting to change. That's a good thing! I can only see someone being weak and stupid if they knew they had a problem and didn't want to change it. first and utmost, think about your baby. The food you eat is ultimately what is creating your baby, so if you don't give your baby any nourishment.............If you want this baby, then change right now, you can do it. The mind is a very powerful thing. Try to understand the reason because there is definitely a reason why you are intentionally sabotaging yourself, but now you are sabotaging your baby as well so the cards have changed. Good Luck!!!
2007-06-28 02:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by Hello to You! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having this child may the best remedy for your problem. You know you are in trouble with your eating disorder, but have been afraid to confront it. Now you have a good reason to seek help, not just to help yourself, but to help your child. Most people will think how brave you are to admit you have a problem and seek the help you and your baby need. Please try to think as positively as possible and do everything you can to win the battle against this disease. This may sound weird, but be selfish, use this baby as a reason to be strong to fight this battle. He or she is going to need a mommy who is strong and can overcome. With the right help YOU CAN DO THIS. Show the world how brave and strong you are and ask for the help you need, it will be so worth it when you healthy, happy child is born. Good luck and congratulations on your pregnancy.
2007-06-28 05:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by Lostlove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not weak and stupid at least you realize you have a problem which is more than a lot of people can do.
Speak to your doctor about this, at your first appointment, they should have asked you if you had a history of eating disorders or not, and you should have spoke up then about your problem. But, if in fact they did not, speak up now it's never to late to get help honey.
2007-06-28 02:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a disease. If you had diabetis and went to the doctor for help, would you feel weak and stupid? Of course not. You need to look at your bulemia the same way. If you don't get help right away, even if you carry your baby to term (which you may not given what you are doing to yourself) you will be teaching it to have the same disorder you have. You will teach him or her to be bulemic.
Seek help today. Not tomorrow. Today. It's not your fault, but you can't handle this on your own. You need to talk to your doctor today and be completely honest.
Remember, it's a disease. Just like cancer or diabetis. It's not yor fault. It doesn't make you weak or stupid. But you can't just ignore it.
2007-06-28 02:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by leaptad 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋