im a 15 year old girl and i have a 17,8,11 year old brother. i am the only girl. i used to have my own room until my youngest brother was born. and when i was 12 we started sharing a room. i have no privacy , and my mom painted everything in my room from pink to blue. i used to have a huge bed but now i have a small bunk bed. i feel like my santuary was taken away. i told my mom that i didnt like it and she said i was just hateful.
2007-06-28 02:10:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
and well the other two boys share a room. and on top of that, my little brother is a theif.
2007-06-28 04:54:46 · update #1
Oh I feel your pain.I have two younger brothers and I had to share a room with them for 1 year ( until mine was finished ) that drove me crazy.You need your space for sure.You are growing up and need privacy just tel her you have no intention of being rude you just need privacy.
2007-06-28 07:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are quite understandable. It is a difficult time for you to be sharing at all, especially with a boy, all be it your brother. You don't really explain why it's necessary for you to share with your brother. Is there a reason why your brothers can't share? If so then it is possible that your mother is as distressed about putting you through this as you are about it but can't see a solution so is reacting badly. It's not an excuse for her telling you you are being hateful, but it is a possible reason.
Clearly this is a source of conflict already so you will have to tread very carefully when approaching this with your mother. Try and speak to her about it when you are both calm and relaxed and don't get angry or upset. Listen to what she has to say and if you find yourself getting stressed ask her if it's OK if you have a few minutes to think about what she's told you so you can calm down before you can continue the conversation. Think about what's really important. Maybe you can compromise on things like the size of your bed but a teenage girl does need some element of privacy.
2007-06-28 10:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't he share the room with the 11 year old brother? Your to the point where you shouldn't be sharing a room with a male at all, regardless of it being your brother or not. You need your privacy, you are going through things that your brother is to young to know about right now. Sit down and discuss this with your parents. Tell her it's not becuase you are being hateful and don'tlove your brother but because you don't want to expose him to things to early in life. Plus, he would learn so much more about his development from his brothers and not you.
2007-06-28 10:02:54 · answer #3 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cant really blame you for being mad. Why don't you try and sit down with your mom or your dad who ever you feel is going to be more understanding and explain to them that you have no privacy the boys are always messing your stuff up and that you need a room that's just for you even if its the smallest room in the house. I'm sure the boys can bunk together. In the end its up to your parents but I hope all works out for you. ~~ Best of luck!
2007-06-28 09:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by kitty81301 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be angry! At 15, you do deserve your own space. You need to just calmly explain that to your mom without sounding like a snob or like you don't love your little brother. Maybe, if there is no other alternatives, you could put up a curtain seperating your rooms... hey, if you have a 17 year old bro, he'll be gone to college soon enough, and you can have his room!
Good luck!
2007-06-28 10:51:17 · answer #5 · answered by Super Answerer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your parents needs some serious talking!! what are they thinking?? putting you and your brother in the same room??? It's so wrong!!! And i agree with you. Girls needs extra private space than boys. Heck, how do you even change in front of your brother? Tell your mother that it's not about being hateful, it's a girl thing! Ask her how does she feel if you sleep with your bigger brother in the same room. It's common sense and you need to kick some sense into her!
2007-06-28 09:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by AyJay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I grew up with 7 sisters and brothers so privacy was not possible. We all slept in 2 bedrooms...girls in one room, boys in the other. Strangley enough, I missed the others when I grew up and went out on my own. Be patient....by the way, I think your mom is being a bi*ch!
2007-06-28 09:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit your mom down and try and find a solution to this as you are a teenage girl and do need some privacy and sharing a bedroom with a boy isnt ideal, especialy while you are an adolescence
2007-06-28 12:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by SUSAN C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess i would have the same reaction as yours..a solution to this is to have a sanctuary outside of your house (even if thi is not normal) find a place in town or wherever where you are alone and can do what you want...otherwise tell your mom that your house doesn't feel like home because you have no space of your own to think and relax or even do school work and conventrate...tell her a 15 year old needs privacy...good luck =)
2007-06-28 09:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by lisa s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand...until we moved I had to share a room with my 6 year old brother and it wasn't very pleasant. He took up all the space with his stupid toys. You're not being hateful. You just want privacy!
2007-06-28 10:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by LaVidaLoca <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋