2007-06-28 02:00:48 · 10 answers · asked by Ricki F 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, be absolutely sure that you know what you're talking about. If possible, have concrete evidence such as photos or print out copies of emails. Keep evidence put away in a safe place and don't even mention it to your husband unless it really becomes necessary for some reason. Think it through carefully and know what you want. Do you want him to straighten out and work through this? Do you want to call it quits? Do you want him to go to counseling with you?
Be very calm and non-judgmental when you speak to him. Don't allow anger to influence your behavior. Just calmly tell him that you know and give him a chance to explain himself. Remember that men often think with the wrong part of their anatomy and so can sometimes be led into something inappropriate. Remind him that this sort of behavior can have some very unpleasant side effect, such as babies, diseases, and divorce. Then state what your expectations are and give him a chance to respond. He may need to think about it a little while. If so, give him a limited time.
Be sure you state without any shadow of a doubt that his behavior is NOT acceptable.
2007-06-28 02:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by leslie b 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need facts and it isn't that hard to do. Have someone follow him, a friend of yours in a car that he doesnt know or have a girlfriend of yours that he doesn't know well flirt with him and see what he does.
If you think he is cheating he probably is but he will deny it until you have facts to prove what you are feeling. Start documenting when he is gone for how long etc. Check his phone if you can for new numbers, write down how many hang ups, is he on the internet, etc. There are patterns that evlove. But, be prepared. It isn't easy to hear the facts.
2007-06-28 02:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't think your marriage is working out and it over because of an affair.
Unfortunately, the marriage is already ended, since he doesn't respect you enough to be honest with you or faithful.
Maybe next time he should think before he has an affair. Would that really have been that difficult?
Take care,
Troy
2007-06-28 02:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him if you can. If you mean you think he is cheating then tell him you want to have a talk and ask him about it. Of course he will say he isn't unless you have proof.Good Luck.
2007-06-28 02:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by redwidow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the questions you want to ask.. look him in the face and ask.. admitt that you feel strange about asking (if you do).. but don't wait and later kick yourself for not asking when you felt something wasn't right. Have no regrets, go into it calmly and collected and if need be explain why you feel this way.
2007-06-28 02:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by leighaloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk up to him and break the news to him. Tell him you've been cheating on him and you're a horrible person. If you think he could get violent then leave him one day and call him to tell him. Either way you need to tell him. At least you want to tell him, most women just lie.
2007-06-28 02:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by Agnostic Front 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Walk up to him and say "Are you cheating"
And be prepared for and unpleasant conversation whether he is or is not.
2007-06-28 02:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by lonnyl_99 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bring it up over dinner. Who knows, he may go for it!
2007-06-28 02:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
An oiled up pistol comes to mind...
2007-06-28 02:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am impressed. You want his permission. That is great!
2007-06-28 02:04:24 · answer #10 · answered by bubbadaguy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋