MY Life is not in My control....?

Question

I really love and respect my mother, but at the same time she should also understand what I want. I love this person and I really wish and want to spend my entire life with him. I met him on the internet and we both share good understanding. he is ready to marry me and me too. we are matured enough to think practically. we have not just been loving birds and all.. we know what life is all about and we do understand our responsibilities and duties. I once in the past had net connection and his family came with the proposal but it was rejected and im fine with it. And now my mom has warned me not to talk to any man over the internet but I did, was helpless with my heart. I really dont know what to do now, how to convince my mom??? I'm 23. hmm

Answer 1

Well, you are 23 yrs old and a grown woman, so legally, you can make your own decision about who and when to marry. On the other hand, I think your Mom is just trying to protect you from being hurt. All mom's want to keep their kids (even the adult kids) safe and happy. I do think internet relationships are risky because the person on the other side can tell you anything they want to about themselves whether it's true or not. Just be cautious and don't rush into anything. Try to understand that your Mom only has your best interest at heart. Be sure you know exactly who it is who you are getting involved with. If the 2 of you are meant to be together it will happen no matter what. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Your mom shared a piece of advice with you...she's not bossing you around. Heaven sakes you trusted her to offer up advice in choice years ago didn't you? Many in society are trying to convince all kids - young adults parents are idiots ...that's about the age limit that will accept it past that when and if people people mature they start cropping an eyebrow at advice that is leading to family chaos. Moms not going to stop existing because you reached the ripe old age of 23 I assure you of that. It floors me how some will take the most dumbest negative advice from people they barely know that lands them in a world of hurt and call those closest to them bossy and controlling. That's how the no-do-gooders with loads of advice get their hands on the niave.

Bottom line is at 23 you are an adult and can legally take your mom's advice or leave it. Another reality is that you are responsible for the steps you take in your life whether it works out or not. However, it's not secret that there are some very strange people out their seeking to hurt and control on and off the internet. Everyone is aware of it despite those who might ignore it. Obviously not everyone is doing this but that is a fact. At 23 do you think you have enough experience to tell the difference? It's your life and so treat it with respect.

Answer 3

The fact that you think you know what life is all about shows how little you actually know. Take a step back. I am not at all against people meeting on the internet, but some have a tendency to throw themselves into relationships. I'm not even saying you are one of these people, but you certainly seem to be. The easiest way to convince your mother is to take it a lot slower than you have been. Has your mother met this man? Try introducing him to her. Try looking at this from her point of view. Try being a bit more mature about the situation and people will most likely start to treat you as a mature person.

Answer 4

Why do you care what your mom thinks? You are an adult and you do not need her permission. Are you seeking her approval just to feel loved by her? Do you live with your mom? If you do than it would definitely make a difference if you got married. Maybe she is afraid of loosing you, do you spend a lot of time with her? Maybe she is against you getting married because she is afraid of being alone after you start spending all your time with your husband. Maybe she is just worried about the type of people you could meet on-line. I don't blame her, there are some real freaks on-line so you have got to be careful. Maybe she could meet him, have dinner all together or something to set her mind at rest. I think meeting people on-line is a good option for people today. Just be careful, consider your mother's feelings, and good luck with your new love interest. No need to rush into marriage you know, why not date for awhile and get to know each other better to make sure you are a good match. Good luck.

Answer 5

Giving advice about the future of some person is not an easy thing.
I am 35. At your age and earlier I also thought that my family doesn't understand me and I did everything my way. Now, it seems that at some point they were right.
You have your vision of life, your needs, your dreams, your hopes, but you don't have any experience yet, like all young people, and that is what makes our parents wise.
Listen to your heart but don't be deaf for any advice from your mother.

Answer 6

But you have not mentioned your mother's attitude abot your marriage. Did she propose some one or some body else in her idea? Forget abot the internet friend for a while and ask her about your marriage as you are ripe for marriage.If she have no any perfect answer you can proceed with your own.

Answer 7

well you controlled yourself to write this on yahoo. well ask your mom are you going to pay for your retirement and feed you for the rest of your life which is about 100 years old. she probably be in a wheel chair, is that what she wants, and was that her goal? does she mind sharing all of her money- cause tell her you are one expensive baby to raise. one that needs a house perferably a mansion, a car like a fararri, a bodyguard, etc etc.

Answer 8

You are an adult....start acting like one with your mother. Perhaps she'll show you a little more respect.

Answer 9

Well you're 23, you're too old to be bossed around by your mom