Because of the way society is, do you think it looks bad for a mature woman to marry a younger guy? We are sort of use to the younger woman and older guy.
2007-06-28 00:04:23 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I don't think it looks bad as long as they care for each other, love each other and are friends then go for it.
I am 57 I would marry someone that was about 10 years younger but not any younger then that.
2007-06-28 03:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lynn M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are many reasons why 'Because of the way society is..', but I would hazard that society has got it right in one aspect - girls do mature faster than boys, which means say a girl of 18 is likely (not always) as mentally matured as a guy of say 26 (okay, go on guys, throw a few bytes at me, but I am sure you find it true), so the likelihood of a girl of 18 being able to get along with an older guy of 26 is much higher than that girl being able to get along with a guy of even the same age.
It is even more glaring if you choose younger girls and boys for comparison eg a 15 yr girl vs a 15 yr boy, and a 15 yr old girl with a 18 yr old boy, or you can really notice the difference in maturity when they are out there in working life already.
Hence, it is not likely that an older woman will find a younger man attractive anyway, unless the woman is in her own sort of 'mid life' crisis.
So - a guy would likely marry a younger girl, whilst a girl will likely marry an older guy.
I think I am likely to stick to that convention, if the basis for that is as I have written above. There are always exceptions to the convention, of course.
However, I think the gap in age should not be too big - I have seen very much older men going out with girls who are in their late teens or early twenties (or vice versa) - almost half to a full generation gap. I think the older person is just being selfish - the much younger person should be left to enjoy and experience her/his world, and not partake in the experience of a generation past, as represented by that older partner.
2007-06-28 02:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by autumnleaves 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I can imagine not caring if he is 10 years younger. After all, what does it really mean? Love is about two people connecting emotionally, after all.
Personally, I can't imagine allowing a relationship to flourish if the guy is much younger than that. But that is only me. If another woman wants to do this, I find nothing wrong with it. As long as the relationship IS about love, and not some kid attaching himself to a "sugarmomma".
The ONLY criteria I am unbending on, is that the guy MUST BE an adult when the relationship starts. I have three good looking grandsons, and I can't stand the thought of any of them being taken advantage of by "older women" while they are emotionally unable to make good decisions for themselves.
2007-06-28 00:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by Susie Q 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
nope, I think it is very wise, indeed. The older woman brings a needed sense of maturity to a man...the sooner the better. I have no problems with this age difference. My younger son went with a woman who was 20 years his senior. She actually was more an age that I would date, but they had a great relationship for 7 years. IT was she that ended it due to my son's personal problems with alcohol that she could no longer deal with. Age is meaningless..it is the people who are involve that has the meaning. And PS, although she made a 6 figure salary, my son made more than 3 X that amount...this was NOT money driven, that is for sure. Anyone who raises an eyebrow about "sugar mama" insults both of the couple...big time! To those I say, "get a life anywhere but around me. Take your jealousy to someone who you have something in common with, for it is NOT me. "
2007-06-28 04:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All three of my husbands were younger than I. The first was 17 when we got married, and I was 19. (He died in a car wreck). The second was 22 and I was 24. (He died of heart failure) The third was 24 and I was 32. We've been happily married for 32 years, so far.
A big benefit, I'm retired and he still has years of productive work ahead. That is also a drawback, since any social security I might collect would be taxed at around 80% because of our high income.
2007-06-28 09:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by Yarnlady_needsyarn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With things changing it's not shocking anymore to see an older woman with a younger man. I'm a 23 year old girl and I seem to prefer guys who are my age or older. I don't mind them being one or two years younger but that's it.
2007-06-28 12:46:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never marry a man younger than me, the youngets guy i ever dated was one year younger (wich is insignifiant difference) but i would not do it if he was 5 years younger, let's say. But anyway, this is the way i feel, other people feel different, it's not wrong. If you are happy together and get along well, who cares about anything else?
2007-06-28 01:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by larissa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm married to a man who is 15 years my junior. We were friends first and I was not interested in him as a potential lover. The more I got to know him, the more I liked him.
We will be celebrating our 14 year marriage in July. Life is good and we are both happy. In the 14 years we've been together, no one has ever made a rude remark or had anything negative to say about it.
2007-06-28 02:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you both are older and mature then go for it! My husband is one year younger! I think it will keep the relationship young!!!
2007-06-28 02:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by partyup84 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 6 years older than my husband, we've been married 11 years. People really don't think much about it where we live, even though it is a small town.
2007-06-28 00:11:31 · answer #10 · answered by Elphaba 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋