She is beautiful and funny. She is thoughtful and she's single. I think of her all the time, even when making love to my wife. I have not acted on my feelings yet but it's driving me crazy. What do I do?
2007-06-28 00:00:43 · 17 answers · asked by joe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let me tell you a little story about my husband and a co-worker he had been working with for years. She played up to my husband told him how wonderful he was and laugh at all his jokes.Funny how she was everywhere he was and he fell for her hook line and sinker or should i say he got caught in her web.He moved out and got his own apartment that way he could see her when ever he wanted to . As time went on he started to miss everything he had with me so we started to go out on dates like before we were married. well this didn't go over with her and he was now caught in something he did not no how to get out of.She could get him fired at anytime with one phone call and she used that to keep him.She wasn't the person he thought she was they never are. To make a very long story short he finally did get her out of his life and came back home to me and his son. To show what kind of person she really was she planted all this nasty stuff for me to find when he did come home. For your own good and piece of mind don't do it because you will be sorry . Can you think of any man who did what your thinking about doing who isn't sorry for having an affair with an co-worker.
2007-06-28 00:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, when you are fantasizing about this other woman, you are only thinking of the good side...there is also a dark side you may not see. If you start something with her, you probably will get bit and hard!!!!
It always looks greener on the other side of the fence...beware of the temptation to stray. I know this personally...it only leads to pain and sadness, brokenness and shame.
You will get caught and when you do, is losing everything around you, even people you care about really worth it? All that you invested with your wife will no longer exist and you probably will end up emotionally bankrupt and probably disrespected by the very woman you think is so great.
The other woman would NEVER trust you fully...EVER. You would lose on both ends just as soon as you get started. And my friend...reality check...your fantasies are already starting the destruction!
THINK, and RUN FAR AWAY From the temptation!
2007-06-28 01:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by BookButterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to think about why you married your wife and why you stayed with her thus far... Im sure there are good reasons... Are you willing to hurt the one you married and so call love with all your heart? If so, then do it the right way... Get a divorce and then move onto a new relationship. You owe her that much for putting up with you for so long! Or are you using her as a safety net incase this girl from work doesnt work out? I KNOW your wife does not deserve that either.....
2007-06-28 00:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by jms62394 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about the way your wife used to make you feel and I bet in the begining it was the same as this chick. Maybe you need to spice things up with your wife. If you act on your feelings its a recipe for disaster and whats to say that if it does go somewhere that in a few years you wont be feeling this way about a new chick.
2007-06-28 00:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that all men run into this problem at some point or another in their marriage. That's when you have to ask yourself, " am I going to be a grownup or act on a childish notion"? If you said "I do" then it is definitely time to mature and concentrate on your marriage and some self control rather then some little hottie you work with. I feel sorry for your wife. Please think about the pain you will cause her. She loves and trusts in you.
2007-06-28 01:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by yankeegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of your wife and the relationship you have built with her? You might consider having a fling or leaving your wife for this nice chickie but you will regret it. Think of what might happen if it does not work out and you still have to go to work. Things won't be so funny then. It's a fantasy that you should keep to yourself! Reality and Fantasy don't mix well
Try a romantic getaway with your wife to re-connect. Tell her you love her and want to please her.
2007-06-28 00:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Tintin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds familiar ;-) do whatever you think is right for you.. stand firm on it... and of course in every decision there are sacrifices that you have to be consider.. anyway you are old enough.. whatever makes you happy.. but remember that are other people that will get hurt including you.. your wife and maybe that girl ;-)
and your kids if you have.
Good luck...
2007-06-28 00:25:36 · answer #7 · answered by Petite 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It´s called lust, that distoys great relationships. Plan a sexy weekend with YOUR WIFE! Do something different with her, go somewhere with her that you have never been before. If you do so you will be happy and proud of yourself. And if this other girl is flirting on you, you should talk to her seriousely.
2007-06-28 00:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by marymari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best... you just have to move away from her already. Don't make attempts of being together alone for that matter. You just have to let it go. It's not healthy anymore, if you love your wife, do something...
2007-06-28 00:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better leave this girl alone if you value your marriage because it sounds like you are in love with this girl and want an affair with her. Remember that you are married, not single like her.
2007-06-28 00:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋