I caught my wife in bed and I had already filed the divorce papers...should I really send this in?
2007-06-27 23:55:38 · 25 answers · asked by dopefilmmaker33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would.
2007-06-27 23:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by MrOrph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've already filed for divorce, then the marriage is over. Is she still living with you?? If so, you need to rectify that situation as soon as possible. Neither of you should have to answer to the other for your private lives any more. That said, it's incredibly rude and disrespectful of her to be having sex in your bed.
Should you send this new information into the courts? Probably not. If you live in a no-fault state, it won't make a bit of difference anyway -- and unless you've got solid proof (other witnesses, pictures, video/audio recording), it is probably not going to be valid in court. What kind of result are you expecting from 'sending this in'?
Although it's hard, the best advice is to let her go (and get her as far away from you as possible).
2007-06-28 08:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to get a new bed. You don't need to be reminded of it.
If you can't see your self ever forgiving her then divorce seems like an option.
But
Really think about it. Can you forgive her? Can you live without her? Is she truly sorry for what she has done? Maybe you can work through it with counselling.
I hope that's what you meant by your question.
Edit. Do you mean you had already filed for divorce? Whats expected.. well your expected to realise why you wanted to divorce this woman in the first place.
2007-06-28 07:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by babycakes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is expected of you is for you to stand up for yourself and don't be a "doormat" for your wife. I don't know what your circumstances are or the reasons why things have gotten this way, but this is a severe tresspass against you. She has broken your trust and your vows. It is now up to you to decide what to do next. Facing this will probably be one of the hardest things in your life, it is painful and embarrassing, and it will hurt like hell. But you must face it, you must deal with it, and you must decide whether you can still have a deep and lasting love with your wife now. Most often this kind of damage can't be healed, but on a rare occassion it can be. It all depends on you both working very hard to repair the marriage. So unless you think she is remorseful and still loves you and is willing to work really hard, then don't hesitate in filing for divorce. And if this has hurt you beyond repair, then don't hesitate. And Kudos to you for not losing it and becoming violent, you are a bigger man than I am. I think I would have lost it.
2007-06-28 07:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already filed the divorce, whats the problem? Why aren't you in bed instead of worrying about what your divorced wife is doing?
2007-06-28 07:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Getting back together with her will only complicate things. One her respect for you is not there, so she can and will do it again, then the Trust is no longer there and believe me you will never trust her again. And whenever there will be argument these issue will pop up and worsen the whole scenario. Best thing to do is divorce her and find someone you trust and who in turn will respect you.
2007-06-28 07:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw her out with the bed and dam right send them papers in.
2007-06-28 07:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot forgive her get divorced , pretty hard thing to forgive and it will always hurt you , your relationship with her cannot go on if you cannot forgive if you love her still but hate what she did it will still be hard to regain trust in her and that's the basis of a good marriage along with Love !
2007-06-28 07:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would expect you to ball up your fists, (or grab something to swing) and beat the man to a bloody pulp. And the ***** ( sorry,,,,,, your wive) I would not physically harm her, but there would be a load of humiliation in store for her before forgiveness
2007-06-28 07:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on her response to u, and how much u love her, and if this is the first time its happened. but usually it is hard to forgive it, and it will crop up later on whenever theres any kind of argument. only u can answer this, but for me it would be the end, because u will never be able to get this image out of your mind really.
2007-06-28 06:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her. I wouldn't put up with that, divorce. Sorry to hear you have this kind of trouble. Hope all goes well for you.
2007-06-28 07:16:02 · answer #11 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋