what do i do?

Question

i am really depressed i go on with everything but i have a hateful son and a husband who is an *** its almost like they want me to be sad what should i do

Answer 1

Dear, you sound really depressed... if your husband is behaving like a fu**cking @sshole, well, kick him out and move on...
Teenager are hateful all the time, I think it´s normal, when I was a teenager nobody of my family members could really stand me... it´s like a period of mental disorder... just relax and don´t take it too serious.
Take care of yourself, pack your bags and go away for a weekend to nice place. Just do it for you. Relax, have a walk, go to the hairdresser and get a new style, spend your time on yourself... be MORE egoist.
Husbands come and go - there are too many men in the world to worry and stick to somebody who doesn´t deserve you!!!

Answer 2

I think we all feel a bit like that sometimes, its the hardest job in the world being a mum and a wife and getting the balance right, i dont think anyone has a perfectly happy family life so please dont feel alone, my advice to you is try not to allow your husband and your son to be your "whole" life, i know its really hard, but you need to start taking time out to value yourself and stop worrying about them so much, when we get into the routine of being the mum and wife who just carry on and take all that is flung at us....well thats how we will always be treated, why dont you start by phoning a friend and going out for lunch and a chat, or just do something totally selfish thats only about you for a change. xxx

Answer 3

Son issue - Take a stand! Don't go along with everything he does. He needs to know that you are reliable and disciplined person who will set him straight but also tough enough so that he can depend on you in times of trouble.

Husband issue - Your comment about your husband has been censored. My guess would be "a" "s" 's" that you typed. Deal with him. Be it a divorce or a confrontation, you must let him know that his behavior is causing you to take drastic steps.

If you "want" him, have his attitude adjusted. If you "need" him, make sure you change your situation (financial or otherwise) or your perspective before you deal with him. If you don't either want or need him, get a good divorce lawyer.

Answer 4

This is a serious situation that you are in. When you are surrounded by what is classified as the Alpha dogs in the house,it is difficult for you to mark your territory as the Queen. Half of the solution is to remember that your son is just that... your son.. he did not parent you so YOU shouldn't allow his hatefulness to depress you... As for your husband.. once again... people can not do to you what you don't allow... Try finding some self esteem building blocks, self love and I am sure that you will find, that once you love you enough... this question will cease existence.

Answer 5

Stop looking to them to make you happy. Let your son be hateful and your husband an ***. Go out and find something that interest you. Make new friends (girls) Take a class in something you have always wanted to learn. Join a book club, a dance class, exercise class. Men are takers, don't play into their traps. Go make your own happiness and leave them behind in your dust.

Answer 6

Your son is hatful because your husband is an ***. You need to show some asertiveness and kick some butt. You smack that kid of yours into shape and you leave that man of yours. When you aren't around to pick on and he is paying support and your son is getting the hard love he needs things will change. When you demand respect you will get respesct.

Answer 7

well you should talk it out with your husband.. sounds like they are teaming up against you.. how old is your son.. if he's a teen then their is your problem... lol.
but no really i dont think they want you to be said.. maybe you should do a family meeting
i hope everything gets better

Answer 8

A girlie night sounds just the tonic.. if that is not possible go and have sometime to yourself be it shopping or getting your hair done..

It sounds to me like your men are taking you for granted so leave them to their devices for a while and maybe they may start to apprehiate you a little more

Answer 9

Check your Instant Messenger

Answer 10

Straighten up both of them. They need you too. When you let people run over you, they will hurt you. Stand up for your rights. Punish that son of yours if he is young, and if he is old tell him that if he comes to your home, he WILL respect you!!