I am a little depressed because I feel that I live to die and that my life is boring.?

Question

Nowadays, I am feeling a little depressed as I think my life is boring. I'm a student and when I graduate from high school, I'm going to college, get a degree and find a job,date,get married and then die. In a way, i think that my life is planned out.

In addition, I have no directions in my life. I don't even know what I want to be or do after i graduate!I seem to be heading nowhere, like a lost soul.

To sum it up, I feel like I'm living to die but I won't die yet as I am waiting for something exciting to happen.Sometimes, I wish my life is like a movie but that's too far-stretched.

As for my friends, I have plenty of them but I don't have a closed one.

Answer 1

Being someone of a similarly depressed mindset, I can honestly see more than a few holes in your thinking:

1) You may have a 'plan' for your life, but its really only a sketch: in other words, you think about a job as being such and such, when your actual job could be radically different. Getting a staid degree in accounting, for example, doesn't mean you have to sit in a cubicle with bad lighting; you could have an ocean view and be privledged to work on the books of some non-for-profit (who still has to pay some employees.) A sketch of life, especially when one is depressed, often forgets that it is in the details that determine how great or sucky it is.

I find your movie analogy interesting because, in actuality, movies don't just happen. Really good movies are planned, for the most part, with a script being written, a cast being interviewed and signed on, sets built, costumes made; in other words, an awful lot of preparation before the cameras even begin to role. Yes, happy accidents do happen in movies, but they are the exception rather than the rule.

Another way to look at the movie analogy is to consider this; when you sit down to watch a movie, the end is already a done deal. Although you may not know the ending (if its your first time watching) there has to be some pre-planned ending to it. What it sounds like is that your mind is writing nothing but horror movies, or really bad cheesy dramas, while you want to be the star of some romantic action-adventure.

In some movies, being 'lost' is the only way we can begin to start the journey we were supposed to travel. While the actor may think their life has no meaning, the audience and the director know that the actions of one scene must come from, and must continue towards, the actions of another scene. Do you like any movies where the actor starts off getting 'lost' and ends up finding what they were looking for? My most recent favorite of that variety is 'Flushed Away'.

Life can get interesting very very quickly, so thinking that you know how your life is going to end is, to be quite honest, more than a bit premature. Who knows, you may end up getting that adventure you wanted anyway, and finding out you didn't want it at all.

Answer 2

you sound like me when I was 17... really unsure of where to go from that point on... I am still like that sometimes....

The thing is, not everyone knows what their path is before they get started. It's only a select few that just *know* what they want to do. You are just getting started, you haven't had time yet to explore.

There is plenty in life to get excited about, you just have to find your niche in the world. Do you have anything in particular that you think you might like to do? Explore it! Find out as much as you can about something you think is fun. Chances are, you will find a career that you can make out of it.

Once you find something you feel passionate about, do it! Let yourself be free to love it!

Don't worry about the way other people say life should be. It is YOUR life, you get to be the one living it. So take charge and go where you want to go. Take the path less taken if you think you might like it. Don't live to die - live like you could die any day. Take joy in the small moments. Try to think optimistically as often as possible. When you feel a negative thought approach, banish it with a positive one!

Most of all, relax. High school is so fraught with tension. I didn't learn to let go of it until the second half of my senior year when I finally realized that that was the last chance I had to make friends and have fun before becoming an "adult".

You aren't as lost as you might think you are, and you are definitely not alone. Just try not to let yourself get bored. You need something to stimulate you, to challenge you and keep your mind from getting blitzed by senioritis.

I suggest spending the summer thinking of ways you can help others instead of focusing on your fears. Volunteer for Habitat for Humanity, or look around your community and see what is available that you know you can do. Be the change you want to see in the world.

If life gets you too down and you just don't think you can perk yourself back up, just talk to someone about it. Call a hotline, talk to a guidance counselor, or a trusted adult. It gets better, eventually!

Answer 3

You have so much LIFE ahead of you. You can basically choose the route you want it to go.
First concentrate on graduating from High School. Believe it or not, this is one of the fondest memories you will have in the years to come.
Try to think of the many good things about you and your life. Are you healthy? You have plenty of friends.
Experiment a little. Try volunteering at something, hospice,
a humane society, battered women's shelter...This might help you see just how good things are with you and your life and just might give you some "direction" for your future.
Good luck and best wishes....

Answer 4

That excately sounds like me. So i tell you what i discovered till now.
Dont worry about the future,i was the same like you very depressed and thinking as a 80 years old man,that life is boring...etc,i was worried because i did not like the normal way of life (u know as u said school,college,job,married...)
I still have these thoughts but i always get sad because although i know that i have lots of good but i m not enjoying it becasue of my negative way of thinking

So now i just put all my hopes into GOD's hand because i think that's the only thing which can make me satisfied ,i feel like u know to be loved by GOD and to have the love to love others is very fulffilling but yet i have not seen this but as i told i put my hope in GOD wether i believe in him or doubt but i have no choice but to beleive that he accepts me like this and that he has this love and satisfaction im looking for.
I hope that encouraged you,and i hope that you will find hapiness and that u dont suffer anymore or waste any time in sadness and pain especially that u r still young so dont do like me and waste some of ur best times (i m 23yrs)

Answer 5

It could be seen as depressing, definitely. Consider this, though: because you're going to die, this is your only shot at living. Millions of years from now, or even 90 years from now, "you" won't be anymore. You can either choose to look at it from a viewpoint that says it's very unlikely that you're alive right now (out of all the sperm cells that could have fertilized, but didn't; the fact that you had healthy birth, childhood, adolescence, etc.), or you can choose to see things in a depressing light. Ultimately, it won't really matter how you chose to see things. To me, the fact that no matter how badly I screw up, it's all going to eventually stop, is comforting.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

yes we live to die
lifes a test after this u will go to hell or heavan
and live htere 4ever
have fun
get a job
get a boyfriend
and convert to islam or just think about it read about it not my media
liek the books or the quran or som1 esle who converted
TRUST ME I FELT THE SAME WAY U DID NOW I LIVE HAPPY NOEING IM GOING TO HAVEAN converting was the best thing a lil hard and i was amazing

Answer 8

you are an old college student!
From here it looks like you are vegetating, set your horizons on a path of passive behavior till you die.
maybe if you started moving around, and looking for excitement, you'll find that life is not a state where you Wait in line for your turn to die.

Answer 9

I feel the same way...there is nothing I can say to cheer you up except the things I tell myself- you are the one who decides what you want to do with your life, how you want to live it and where you want to be. search yourself (even if it takes years) but never give up on finding your passion and never let fear stand in your way. life is an adventure.

good luck

Answer 10

just hold on when you feel like s**t, things will get better...and do find someone that you trust to talk to about how you feel