I am married and my wife has a friend that she is always texting. it is another woman and they always write that they miss each other every chance they get. my wife told me that she never sees the woman. I found sexual messages on several occasions between the two. i have confronted my wife plenty of times on it and she say that is just how they talk. what am i missing here? is she cheating when i am at work and if not, why does she have to be so secret. i have seen alot of things that i have not told her, cause she will deny it all from her cheating. when i ask to meet her friend, she tells me no and why do i need to meet her. why will my wife not be honest and stop hiding things from me. she claims to love me, but something is very wrong...
2007-06-27 19:53:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get the number - call it - see if a man answers...it could be she just put a woman's name to throw you off...
2007-06-27 20:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dr. Phil always says that people that have nothing to hide, hide nothing. I do think if she is hiding things there is some kind of a problem. I would say you are very right to suspect a problem.
It is not good for her to be hiding things from you. Each of your daily lives should be an open book to the other. When trust is gone there really isn't much to hold onto.
I'd press for her to come clean with everything & tell her you know there is something seriously wrong. If she has nothing to hide, then she has a lot of explaining to do.
Hang in there. It's not you.
2007-06-27 20:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by memyselfi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
#1 are you sure it is another woman? If she IS lying to you what makes you think she wouldn't lie about that.
#2 has she ever given you a reason to not trust her? As if her current behavor weren't enough.
#3 why don't you take a day off work and not tell her? Leave like you do every other day and either follow her or come back home at some odd time and surprise her
#4 do you really want to know the answer?
I do tell my friends that I miss them but we do not talk dirty to each other. You have to ask yourself -- has she ever done this before and if not why has it all of a sudden started.
She probably does really love you but if she is cheating she probably feels very guilty about it and doesn't know what to do. She probably wants to tell you but doesn't want to hurt you or lose everything you provide her.
Good luck -- I wish I could tell you you are wrong but if you feel that strongly you probably are not.
2007-06-27 20:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i agree call that number from a Public fone & see whoz on the other line ...if u find a male voice then there is somehting seriously wrong. Even then dont jump to conclusion as the relationship doesnot have to be physical.
2007-06-27 20:07:01 · answer #4 · answered by Aadil K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is no longer interested in men. There is basically nothing you can do. If you caught sexual messages, then you need to take a picture or record them somehow. When you divorce you will have proof and much better chance of not loseing your house, dog, and car. Even tho they get half, it never really is.
2007-06-27 20:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something isn't right. Being secretive wouldn't be necessary if she weren't doing something wrong...and sexual text messages? My best friend and I are very close and have been for many years, but sexual text messages are not part of our communication.
2007-06-27 21:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard enough being in a relationship, but to have a third party threatening your marriage, it can be devastating. i know. tell her how upset you are and demand to meet this "friend". sometimes, we create a situation to get more attention from our partners...if you ask the question, be willing to deal with the answer you get. if you love her, but don't have real proof of her cheating-let it be, or it can eat at you and may destroy your marriage. still, you should be more important to her than any friend! good luck-don't settle for anything less than what you deserve!!!!
2007-06-27 20:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by monicastocker74 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats something you should definetly look into, it doesnt make sense thats shes so secretive about a....."friend" i mean its okay to have best friends but why hide a friend from your spouse, that sounds really suspicous
tell her that this really hurts and that YOU DONT KNOW WHAT TO BELIEVE ANYMORE!!
tell her if she doesnt straigten this out then maybe you should seperate from her
better yet tell her she can spend all the time with her friend she wants while you go find a "friend"
2007-06-27 20:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a person won't usually hide and keep secret things unless something is going on behind your back. she hides things because she doesn't want any confrontation, because confrontation would mean she would have to admit to things that may not be right.
2007-06-27 23:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you so sure that it's another woman? Just cuz they're texting it don't mean she's cheating but the contents are hurting you and she should be concerned enough with that to stop doing it.
2007-06-27 20:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by Blue Love Aura 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Another woman? Thats not really cheating. If I were you...i'd play my cards right. The possibilties here are endless.
Good luck
2007-06-27 20:12:23 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋