I've been married for 3 years now and I love it at times and then I hate it. We've tried to work on our problems, but it seems that we're always getting into it about the same stuff. It's good when it's good, but bad when it's bad. I love my wife to death, but I just don't think that it's going to work out in the long run. Should I continue trying or just let it go?
2007-06-27 18:57:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you're the only one trying to make it work it's not going to work. try couseling for both of you.
2007-06-27 19:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can know the answer but ask any couple who have been together for a considerable amount of time and they will tell you that with the good times are the bad.
You say you love her to death and at some point you must have thought it was going to be forever because you did marry her. Perhaps you should take some time with her to reconnect and remember why you fell in love in the first place.
Wishing you all the best.
2007-06-27 19:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by tafka_gilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying!!! That's the problem with society today too many people are too quick to just give up. Marriage is hard work but you made a vow for better or for worse so work through it and deal with it. Think about what the fights are over are they things that really matter? Is it worth the fight? Learn to let things go you do not always have to be right.
2007-06-27 19:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by teresacmt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you love her as a wife or just a real good friend? Some times emotions are caught around how long you've been with someone, how famliure they are, and even sex. You and your wife need to have a sit down talk and decide how you both feel on this subject, but the both of you need to communicate. Dont stay if your not happy. Good luck.
2007-06-27 19:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by jessicabowen415 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from my opinion i think u shld save it while u can...i mean u both love each other it only tt thr are certain times when u get real mad at each other bout certain things... whc is nartural...
As u said u love ur wife very much ... so thr no 3rd party involved or a'thing why get a divorce when u know tt u both quarrel bout the same stuff over and over again...mayb u are not payin attention to each other, try to talk it out
or seek a marriage counseller to help you both get baq togather like the time when u both were still dating...thr always a will whr thr a way.. Good Luck :D
2007-06-27 19:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by SexyPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I have been together for 13 yrs and by all means it aint easy, we have seperated twice, but keep coming back cos we cant imagine not been without eachother...(sounds corny i know)
Just have a weekend away or talk to her and ask for a trial seperation, nothing permanent just a break so you can both work out if this is what you want. If a seperation is out of the question, go see a counsellor. You say you love her so it should be worth trying to save.
Good Luck
2007-06-27 19:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a vacation from each other.. sometimes distance helps to see things in a better truer light. think on it.. then, be honest and talk to each other.. it isn't one persons decision.. it affects two, and if children really think harder.. no relationship with arguing is healthy, if continual. why did you marry? what has turned it into the place you are now? selfishness? boredom? real love works on the relationship. commitment isn't something you change like underwear. you either are , or you aren't. The grass is greener on the other side , because someone else remembered to water it!.. Responsibility and Respect are foremost in good marriages. good luck
2007-06-27 19:12:52 · answer #7 · answered by miladyfaire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships are roller coasters with loop de loops, corkscrews & hairpin turns...it's how you handle those times that is the mark of your marriage -
If the two of you are finding that you argue about the same things over and over - the problem comes down to how you communicate with each other - and that is something that can easily be worked on, if you both agree to it. It is nothing new for men not to be able to understand a woman's point of view & vice versa...
It has to be done with a neutral third party though, a marriage counselor - he or she can help you learn the tools you need to be more accepting of your spouses thoughts, and how to effectively disagree, without it turning into a war.
2007-06-27 19:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to work it out, man. It's not going to get any easier with a different woman. It's actually going to get more difficult with future women, because you seen how easy it was to walk away from this one.
You'll also lose respect for yourself... or you may do what most people do, and that is to make up excuses and blame the other person for the split.
Take pride, and fight your battles(overcome difficulties in life).
Good luck.
2007-06-27 19:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by Nep 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The main baseline for this is are both of you honest with each other? Then, can you talk to one another without getting emotional? What is the mean drama level most of the time? I have been married three times, most of the relationships last three years. If there is a lot of dishonesty on her part it is time to go.
2007-06-27 21:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the past behind. How can you move forward when you have so much excess baggage? Problems come and go. The best solution for the 2 of you is to have a vacation and try to relax.
2007-06-27 19:30:49 · answer #11 · answered by Ray Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋