My boyfriend just told me that he kissed more than 3girls over the past year when he goes out with his friends. He did it when he was with his friends that he's highly influenced by. ive never done this and i cant even comprehend how i feel coz this is not my boyfriend. I dont know how to cope or get over this feeling. if it was one time i could handle but it was re-curring with girls he didnt know.
I want to give him another chance but i do i work thinks out and how can i look at him without seeing his lies. How can i trust him not to do it again. He is the love of my life and we planned to spend our lives together but this is all too much. if anyone can give me any advice... Thanks
2007-06-27 18:03:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you deserve wayyyy better than that dumb guy. he's missin out on a lot, since i see how much you care. what you need to do is 1.)smack the hell out of him, and 2.)kick him to the curb girl!
2007-06-27 18:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Tragedy™ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's dropping big hints to let you know that he's not ready for commitment. If you condone this behaviour it will only get worse and the next thing you know, he'll be having affairs and telling you about them like it's OK. If you have a problem with him kissing other girls, let him know in no uncertain terms that if he does this again, you'll consider the relationship over. Bottom line is, as difficult as it would be to get over, this relationship is only as good as the trust you have between you. If he can't respect you, why waste your time??
2007-06-28 01:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only way you're really going to figure out what to do is with a clear head. Don't let him influence you in any way so that might mean a break. Then when you're in a better place to deal with it, then let him know that you've thought it over and what you've decided.
Another thing is, if he admitted to kissing then he could be down playing a worse scenario just to releave a little guilt off of himself.
2007-06-28 02:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by Blue Love Aura 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well as you said he is the love of your life, you both want to spend the rest of your lives together. if all he did was kiss these girls although it is not right if you love him as much as you state you do then give him a second chance but know that it wont be easy. from that moment he told you he lost your trust in him and that is one of the hardest things to get back. as long as you can forgive him then there is still hope for your relationship. my wife cheated on me once, we have been married for 12 years it was at the start of our marriage. was it hard to deal with it yes it tore me to pieces. did i forgive her yes i did. do i trust her now i do but it was hard to get that trust back. i was always wondering what the hell is she doing. could she be doing it again. but all those what ifs can drive a person crazy. i had to finally let them go and just focus on us. we both still have our girl/guy nights. and you can't take those away from him that would just cause more problems. but its better to try to resolve all this before you say i do. its a lot harder to walk away from a marriage then it is a bf/gf relationship. the reason is say resolve it before that big move is because then you can just walk and leave knowing you tried but he wasn't willing to change. in a marriage you can't just do that why so those vows if you just going to walk out and leave when you knew the type of man he was in the first place. best of luck to you
2007-06-28 01:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by adrik c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well mines cheated on me too but the only difference is yours was honest. Him telling you could mean that he's seeking forgiveness or he wants out of the relationship. All I can say is, follow you intuition because you are the only one who can decide whats best for you. Dont let anyone take you for a free ride. It will hurt like hell but you'll get over it.
2007-06-28 01:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by ShellyBelly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's a cheat and a liar. He told you three . If he could say three he is holding back, If he cheat now what do you think he will do if you are married. This guy is a jerk. The problem is you are too common with him, Now you are old news to him. It was not respect for him to even tell you three. Stop taking up for him. none of this is his Friends fault.
2007-06-28 01:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why on earth would he want to tell you he kissed other girls. Maybe he's trying to make you jealous - not a good way to do it though. Maybe he's hinting to you that he wants to dump you and he's to much of a coward to tell you straight and hoping you'll dump him. To me he sounds a bit of a jerk. Maybe next time he tells you something it could to say he had sex, but it didn't mean anything. DUMP HIM
2007-06-28 01:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the shoe was on the other foot, do you really believe he would give you another chance. It's time for you to find someone that will love and respect you, He did it once, twice and three strikes he's out............Good Luck
2007-06-28 01:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by Gunny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take a break.. first see if u can forgive him... see where your relationship stands... understand well how your relationship has progressed over these years.. and do u see yourself moving ahead with him...
after that decide if u want to forgive him... but i believe u have to move on.. guys should learn their lesson that they cant take a woman for granted... in particular your boyfrined {}
2007-06-28 01:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by who ?? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's been cheating on you, I really think you should let him go, however much you love him. It's not worth you getting heartbroken even if you love him.
2007-06-28 02:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by Corrida 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋