I just turned 29 yrs old and my bf is 28 yrs old.We share a 9 yr old son together.We met when i was 17 going on 18 and he was 16 going on 17 senior year of highschool.Dated had all the drama of the good girl vs bad boy.He was my first everything.Broke up twice a year or little later started having a fling while he still had a gf and i was lonley college student resulting in my son.Tried for 1.5- 2 yrs after that to make it work unsuccessfully.We both did our own thing after.Four years ago we became friends again since he wanted to play bigger role in sons life than a just check.Currently we have been dating again for 2 yrs strong and he wants to talk marriage?I still feel bad that our son was concieved through my bf cheating on his ex.gf with me and i feel if we marry this will be bad karma?
2007-06-27 17:45:31 · 11 answers · asked by Andromeda M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love him and trust him i occasionally check up on him but he is always an open book with whatever i want to know.I assume he loves me because of his actions toward me.
2007-06-27 17:57:49 · update #1
Well, no one can tell you what is right or wrong as far as marriage, because that's a decision that has to be made from your heart. If you honestly love him, and he loves you then I say go for it. The past is the past and I don't believe in karma, I believe in God. Repent if you feel like you've sinned and you will be forgiven. End of story.
2007-06-27 17:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Marie Jane 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A whole lot changes in 10 years, espically the 10 years or so you 2 have been together. Think back in time, you are not the person that you were back then so why hold it against yourself or him for that matter. It was a VERY long time ago so just let it be in the past.
If you want to correct the bad Karma then you will have to find the EX and tell her that you are both sorry. It was a long time ago and she will probably not care anymore but, who wouldn't want an apology even after all of these years. If you can't find her then just talk to god and give it up to him. Confess that you feel horrible about it and have a good clensing cry and let the bad feelings just go out of you.
As for marrying him, base your decision on your relationship as it is now. If he has grown into a good strong man that is dependable and the guy you want to marry then marry him.
Let all the bad stuff in BOTH of your pasts go, it is way past time to let those things go. When your heart has truly let these things go for good you will feel so much better for it. The weight of the past is a heavy burden to bear. Confess it to god (or who ever you believe in) and then leave it behind you and move on with your life.
2007-06-28 01:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by hotelmajor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not always the case love does heel all it may take a little time but you have to look towards the future from the sound of this situation you might be afraid that when you marry he might cheat on you note you mustnever tie someone down you have to support each other to make a relationship work you have your friends and he has his but you must build your trust in each other that means be honest and you may find that you sleep better at night also if you pray and let your prayers be answered it will give you signs to watch for provided you want it to work out especially for your son because this will show that life is like a bowl of cherries it dose come with a few pitts
2007-06-28 00:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by ed b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know anything about karma but I do know if you are asking the general public if you should marry this man then I would say no. If you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him then yes you should. But this is up to you not the public to answer. Either way your son needs to have a relationship with his father. Just because he needs a relationship with this man doesn't mean you have to .
2007-06-28 00:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anniej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to stop thinking about the past, whats done is done. sounds like you both did something stupid, accept it and move on. that being said, do you trust him? do you know he trusts you. do you love each other, and are not just getting back together for your child'd sake. if you are really in love. and you really trust each other then by all means do what makes you happy. if you arent comfortable with marriage then dont do it. i know many couples who are together but are better because they arent married then when they were married. marriage sometimes complicates things. work on your relationship, take counseling or whatever before you jump into anything
2007-06-28 00:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by lydia manning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the father of your son is willing to give the boy a complete family, you should think of your son first. Both of you were very young when you conceived, but as I read your question, he grew-up and is feeling responsible. Go ahead, give your son a stable start in life.
2007-06-28 00:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
KARMA DOES NOT MAKE A LIFE, YOU DO! If you love the guy, go for it. If he says he loves you....good! JUST DO NOT GET MARRIED SOLELY BECAUSE YOU SHARE A CHILD.
PERHAPS HE HAS GROWN AND YOU NEED TO QUESTION IF HE STILL HAS THE DESIRE TO HAVE MORE THAN ONE WOMAN IN HIS LIFE AT THE SAME TIME. IT IS HARD FOR SOME MEN TO GET OVER THE VARIETY OF WOMEN THAT ARE OFFERED THEM. GOOD LUCK.
2007-06-28 01:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its fo real dont worry about i think karmas only when u intentionally do something to hurt another person but if its love whos to stand in ur way
2007-06-28 00:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by ************** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never be feeling guilty about your son. You were caught up in a moment. Don't worry about it.
2007-06-28 00:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, what's done is done. Love your child and don't ever make him feel you felt guilty for having him. Crap happens to all of us.
2007-06-28 00:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋