Is It Worth It to Keep working at a job where People Dont Respect me???

Question

This was about me being quiet i wrote about this yesterday but just incase you dont know they always complain that i'm too quiet, not that im anti-social, thats not the case at all, i'm just different from everyone. i speak to the customers, isnt that ever enough.

my name is always coming out of someone's mouth behind my back, they think i dont hear, but its becoming alot worse now. i dont feel comfortable at my job, and plus ive only been there for 5 months, it would look bad if i just left instead of staying there for at least a year.

they can't accept that i'm different, alot of times theres nothing to say, i can't just come up to people and start talking about things like "hey did you hear about the fight!" thats what they mostly talk about. wouldnt it seem wierd if you just came up to somebody and started to them! i dont know what else to do, im 20 and a half years old, should i suck it up and move on or just get out. (if thats the way life will be in the job field)

Answer 1

I thought that only happens in the company that I (emphasis) work at. Here it is sooo bad that one guy actually takes bribes, lies about me behind my back and does other dishonest things. Unfortunately, it is in human nature to believe the lies rather than the truth, which makes the other employees even more disbelieving and suspicious of me for no reason whatsoever. The way I chose to deal with it is to simple ignore the coworkers who are guilty of accusing me behind my back, and instead focus completely on dealing with the customers. If you show a totally professional attitude, your coworkers will not know how to deal with such professionalism because they are too childish. The way I see it, is that I come to work to do a job, not to socialize.
Your complete professionalism, which your bosses cannot criticize, will also help you to get a better job in the future.

Answer 2

If you really dislike your job and it would be easy to get a new one you may try a new one and see if its better (may want to get the new one before quittinng the current one). You may have the same problems at the new job, maybe not - hard to say.

Don't know if this will help, but when I was much younger I was really worried about what people - always wanting to make just the right impression cared deeply about whether people liked me or not. One day I just thought to myself, what do I really care. These people are not important to me, and never will be - why am I trying so hard. It was like a switch being flipped and literally overnight I flat out stopped caring what most other people thought about me. I don't mean I started pretending not to care I mean I really just stopped caring. I didn't change anything about my personality (I'm very quiet too, and still am) but I sure have been alot happier since flipping that switch. Oddly more confident too, and more successful (though the success may be due to other things).

Put another way, who cares what they think - maybe they are just idiots.

Good luck.

Answer 3

My advice is get out of there asap. It might be tolerable in the short term, but over time, it could lead to trauma. There is a law called 'hostile environment" meaning there need not be one specific thing that someone does, but the entire workplace acts hostile toward you. Try talking to a free legal services group, and document everything. Keep a memo pad with you and write down who, when, why somebody acted hostile, even if was behind your back since chances are the person wanted you to hear it. I knew a girl who put up with that for five years and she practically had a nervous breakdown.

Answer 4

It sounds like to me that you are an introvert. And there is nothing wrong with that.

You need to have your supervisor stand up for you. If they don't get out of there. You're young enough that no one will care that you only had 5 months on your resume. Just make sure to tell your next boss to be in the interview, when they ask you about your weaknesses, "I am not a very talkative person. I am friendly, but I am not a chatter box or gossip, and sometimes people find that unusual."

But don't tell your boss to be that it's the reason you left. Find something else to tell them.

No one should have to put up with BS like that, so take care of yourself.

Answer 5

Poor little girl... My advice is you should stay there and learn more how to deal with the. Smile to them. Do not shy and try to involve into their topic. They purposely let u hear ur name been speak out caused they expected that you will responce to them. If you can stay there and not leave there for this reason, you r reborned. Everywhere is the same, you can cope the problem u facing here, there is no more fear out there!!!

Answer 6

I would not quit until I have had a chance to look for somethig else. Take your time of to find a new job that might fit you better. Good luck

Answer 7

You shouldn't have to put up with being treated like that. I'd start looking for another job. It doesn't matter if it looks bad or not, you're putting yourself through emotional torment. Find a better job with better coworkers.

Answer 8

Find a new job first then quit. You never want to stay at a place where you are bullied. Be careful. Get another job.

Answer 9

You should try things in your life, that makes you happy, if this job makes you so uncomfortable,
look for another job, were people around you be more friendly. Good Luck!

Answer 10

NOW! leave that work, don't punish yourself and abosorb those funny words against you. don't wait till you become or have a nervous breakdown because of that.
GO and many jobs waiting you outside.
good luck!!!