do you think we have a right to put blame on a woman for getting beat or worse?

Question

i was watching the Bill Oreily show tonight and he was saying tht women need to be more resposible for themselfs and there children when they chose the men they date and if they did alot of these things like Jessie Davis and the wrestlers wife could be prevented what do you think

Answer 1

The woman should not be blamed if people do things to her. However, women in general should learn better how to deal with such situations and to avoid them.
Unfortunately, society likes to pick on victims, no matter the race, creed, color, sex, national origin or any other. It is the "pack instinct": attack the weak.

Answer 2

It would help if women could be more responsible, I suppose, but often a man doesn't start the physical abuse until after marriage and then the woman is so beaten down and threatened by him she hasn't got the moral courage to leave -- feeling that if she does, he will find her and maybe kill her.

Even outside of marriage a woman in an abusive relationship is made to feel it is her inferiority which causes the abuse, and not the man's lack of self control.

I almost got raped once, but the police by and I managed to get away to them. They asked if I'd testify in court--
he'd only gotten as far as putting a hand on my leg--and I was trying to talk him out of it--and I said I didn't know if I would. Partly because I didn't think he'd ever tried it before; he seemed scared, too; and partly because I knew the victim is tried in the court as much as the criminal.

The police understood my thinking, but they said "Our sympathy is always with the victim. The victim is the one we look out for". I agree with them.

Blaming the victim just empowers these men further.

Maggie

Answer 3

I used to put the blame completely on the man, as he is the one that's doing the harm. But i currently have a friend in an emotionally abusive relationship, and as much as i blame her ****** of a boyfriend, I feel less and less sympathy for her as she subjects herself to his insults! Women DO need to become more responsible for themselves, especially if there are innocent children involved. Men would be unable to beat their girlfriends if the women never put themselves in that situation (or got out as soon as possible.) That being said, I understand it is so much easier said than done, and the abuser must always take responsibility. I just hope women remember to stand up, be strong, and walk away from such situations. It can be life or death.

Answer 4

NO!

That's ridiculous! A lot of times these men are totally normal. They're loving, caring, all the right things. Only later do they show signs of aggression.

Every woman has to be careful who she dates- every person does. But it's not her fault if somebody abuses her.

Answer 5

First let's put in perspective the INTELLIGENCE of a woman that would be willing to date such a man----do you really think she has the IQ to be able to understand, figure out, and get out of Dodge quick enough not to get beaten by a man like that?

I'm sorry, I don't agree. There are a lot of beaten down women out there that do not have the courage, fortitude or brains to help themselves and Bill O'Reilly is truly incorrect on this one!

Answer 6

i think that ppl should choose their mates more carefully....
but i also think that some women have been mistreated as children and don't know or see how they could be treated better....

so...i think it all depends on the circumstances...

if someone is just desperate for attention and chooses to settle (without taking the time to understand how they were raised, or who they really are) for someone who thinks they are cute...then yes, they should be held responsible for what happens to them...

but if said woman has known this mate for awhile (has looks into his background,talked to him about his life, and meet his family) and he basically hides his true self from her until they are married, then no i can't blame them for thinking they found someone to love...

Answer 7

I agree women need to be more careful when choosing men. If they weren't so desperate, lonely, or ready to have children a lot of lives would be saved.

Answer 8

we dont know what really happened on either case you mentioned.and i do agree with oreily to a point.some women bring it on themself.and you know thats true.theres no reason to kill anyone,when its so easy to divorce.wake up and look at both sides.

Answer 9

In certain cases yes.My sister has been beaten very badly.Upon further investigation by myself i have come to the conclusion that there was no other means to get her settled down.She stood face to face and asked for it.

Answer 10

I think Mr. O'Reily or however the hell you spell his name needs to live his life in fear of another human being for awhile, before he can pass judgment. Walk a mile in my shoes or a woman like me, then say that crap.