me and this girl samantha have been friends for almost a year and we had been really good friends and i met this other friend ryan through her and we've been talking for about a month and we were really good friends. Well, i talked to samantha online today and then i got on tonight and ryan starts yelling at me and everything and he told me that samantha told him that i hate him. And i never said anything like that. i'm not the kind of person to get really mad at someone. I can't remember the last time i really was mad at any of my friends or anybody. and i care alot about what my friends think of me and it makes me really upset to think that on of them hates me. I don't know what to do or who to believe
PLEASE HELP!
thanks! =)
2007-06-27 16:31:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
this person is not your friend if she is spreading rumors about you. she is not worth your time if she is doing this. is it possible that she has a crush on ryan and is jealous of your friendship?
2007-06-27 16:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me Samantha has been bitten by the green eyed monster. Sometimes friends can become jealous when boys enter the picture. Especially, if there is no boy trying to talk to your friend. The only thing you can do is nicely tell her you have learned that she said something to Ryan that was not true and that you will not have her doing that if she wants to remain friends with you. Then, tell Ryan that you didn't say it - and that anything he wants to know - he should ask you first and not anyone else. Explain to him that you think your friend might be a little jealous and apt to say some things that are not true. Then stand back and see what happens. Samantha will either oblige your wishes or loose your friendship. Sometimes, girls have to part the ways when it comes to dating boys. Even grown women play the same games.
In a group of four girls- I was the first and ONLY one to get married - and I caught hell from girls that I had been friends with for years. I had never seen such envy and jealousy. We talked about it and soon, everybody got over it, but it was really a trip to go through. I now realize that you have to handle females with a long handled spoon about some things. It's sad- but that's just the way it is I suppose.
2007-06-27 23:46:34 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, To me it seems As though there is a lot of jealousy going on in btwn your friendships. Look, When Samantha introduced you to Ryan maybe she did not think that you guys would have become good friends. Maybe unconsciously you were putting Samantha on the back burner and she became jealous and started telling Ryan lies about you. Now the truth is, if Ryan was a more patient person he would have discussed the issue with you before yelling at you about it. I think your best bet is to talk to Samantha and find out why she lied on you.......... and once you guys talked it out then either call Ryan on three way and all three of you guys talk this out.............. I think your a real calm sweet person...... So remember if anyone starts yelling or throwing tantrums to remain calm. I wish you the best and I hope I helped you resolve your issue. Take care!
2007-06-27 23:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by JustaThought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been to friendship problems alot once it even turned as a friend ship wrecks as you can imagine. to get to the point the best thing to do is have them both come over to your house and have a really long talk .i think that your friend samantha was jealous of ryan since you have been her friend forever and maybe she was afraid that she was going to lose you but the thing i advice you to do is have a talk not a fight but a talk
2007-06-27 23:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to fix it, then you should really talk to her about it. who knows, it could be a misunderstanding. but if you don't, and you really don't think she's worth it, drop her has a friend. tell ryan that you never said those things about him, and do all this as soon as you can, before a big rift starts!
2007-06-27 23:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she like him thats all and she think that you and him tryna go with so she lied to him i bet she happy but that was wrong though she a HATER choose your friends wisely !!!! i would ask him who told him that and i would confront her and say ***** y the **** you totold him that you know we all cool and i wouldnt be her friend n e more because that was all she could have said was i think i like ryan so would you mind if we talkd instead of you and him
2007-06-27 23:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by Kadijah "s!ngle @g@!n" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your guy friend that you didnt say that. Talk to you friend girl and ask her why did do that. And maybe when she finally admits and tells y she did that, you can have her tell your guy friend what she did.
2007-06-27 23:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore them move on you could always find better friends!!or real friends
2007-06-27 23:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by smartie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋