Why do many people seem to want rights/authority, but not the responsibility that goes with it...?

Question

I do not understand some ppl. They say they want a good marriage but many don't do what needs to be done to keep it. If you don't want to be married anymore, don't you think the RESPONSIBLE way to handle it is to deal with it??? Avoidance and denial hurts both people. What also gets me is, the person doing all the avoiding, has the nerve to EXPECT to not be avoided when the shoe is on the other foot. If you treat situations/circumstances that way throughout your marriage, be prepared to be be avoided and denied the same way you did that person.
I feel this way b/c I was avoided, denied, lied to and manipulated by my spouse. Now he wants to move on with his life. But I am not ready to deal with him yet for I am so angry at the unresolved issues we had. Now I am being harrassed b/c now he wants to get through with things. Am I wrong for not wanting to deal with situations? Now I need time to think, I'm being rushed. Anyone else feel this way besides me??

Answer 1

He doesn't want to be married, so his way was to avoid talking and trying to work it out. He wants the easy way out. No, I don't blame you one bit for feeling the way you do, but taking time to think about it will not stop him wanting out.