I just recently got out of a horrible relationship with a guy. He ended up being a jerk and just wanted to use me. But Thank God I didn't let it get that far. He kind of came out of nowhere and I was single which was fine with me. But after this ordeal I feel like I need some companionship and not necessarily a relationship. Just someone to keep me busy and keep my mind off of what happened to me. That guy almost caused me to take my life. that's how bad it was. I don't know whats wrong with me. I don't want to look for anyone but at the same time I do because I'm lonely....
2007-06-27 14:40:07 · 12 answers · asked by . 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Other - Entertainment
Wow, well…I’m sorry. That really sucks *ss to put it bluntly. Well, short term I always like to sit back, relax, crack open a few thousand beers and feel sorry for myself. However, more long term I know how it is to be lonely. I got out of a long term relationship as well, and mostly all my friends and group of people we use to hang out with have either moved, or we just don’t hang out anymore. Even though I have friends, I don’t have any really close friends. I’m stuck at home sometimes on a nice Sunny day inside, rather than by a pool or on a patio having drinks with good friends.
For you I’d say…if you have a pet they always help. As stupid as it sounds my dog has always been there for me. I talk to him and he just looks at me…but, I get it all out. So, if you like pets then maybe get a new dog. You can train it, take care of it and it’ll take up a ton of your time.
If you play sports, that helps as well. Working out or playing sports will give you more confidence and take a lot of time. You could do competitive sports or join some sport and social league in your area. Like for me we have the Dallas Sport and Social club. They are in a lot of cites. Also, try www.kickball.com. I play kickball and it’s fun, social and you can meet people.
If you don’t play sports, or if you do try www.meetup.com. They have tons of singles events, and meetups for just about everything you could think of. Or, if you are on www.myspace.com there are some groups on there as well. Check it out. What ever you do, please don’t take your own life. My father took his own life, and I think that is a very selfish way to go out. It has a far more reaching effect on the people around you that love you. Best of luck to you, I hope things turn around. Hang in there and they will.
2007-06-28 02:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When "getting back in the water", do not do it with the same type of person in mind ("Those who do not learn from the past are doomed to repeat it."),..or out of despair.
Take some time to do a little introspection (not reflection - let that go). If you find yourself in sad thoughts or reflecting on the past too much, talk to friends, family or a companion,..or find something else to do to occupy your mind until you've achieved some distance. Do NOT wallow in thoughts of the failed relationships or visit old mementos (like photos, songs, places) because the pain can start to feel good and turn into self-serving folly. (Been there, done that.)
I offer that there is nothing wrong with you except for a little heartache.
Hold your head up. Best wishes.
2007-06-27 14:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lost Panda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually what you wrote is not a question, its a condition/feeling you are at/with. Questions can be answered, but condition/feelings have to managed by yourself. You can tips from others. I used to do unusual things to keep me busy to be out of such things. For example, i was not at all a good reader, but after similar incident, i started,tried my best to sit and read.
Second tip is, Never ever expect anyone in this world to keep you happy / do good / say good to you. It is the same for lover, family, friends.
Worry about what you do to others and not what the guy did to you. Because EOD you are not answerable to what he did, you are only answerable to what you did to others. If you are doing good to others, then dont worry.
Finally, abt your statement " i am feeling lonely" you came to this world alone and you will leave this world alone. Except yourself all others you meet are people who travel with you during this journey.
i am sorry if i was not clear or sound rude, takecare and all the best
2007-06-27 20:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by Share_Learn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to get out of yourself. Visit somebody in a nursing home or a hospital, volunteer at the recycling center, join a political party. Do something worthwhile.
Work on a suicide stopper in your spare time, it doesn't have to mean anything to anyone else, it only has to work for you. If you e-mail me, I'll describe mine.
2007-06-27 15:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about spending time with friends and family, the people that mean the most to you.
2007-06-27 14:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by minz_7781 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
live life one day at a time and dont rush into a relationship
2007-06-27 17:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by bcauseofwinndixie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the fealing.I too am single have been for a while now.someone just to talk to would be nice.
2007-06-27 19:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by Desperado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be someone who surely will see your true heart and soul and the beauty it projects.
2007-06-27 14:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Git A Man lol
2007-06-27 15:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by clint 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No one can like you untill you like yourself.
Be you're own best friend.
( I'll smile for you today!)
2007-06-27 17:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by Wabo man 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋