we are divorced by common law i never wanted to marry her; at least not for a while unitl i was sure. She tricked me by not telling me she stopped taking birth control pills.
2007-06-27 14:22:55 · 15 answers · asked by jose l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a custody agreement.
2007-06-27 14:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"divorced by common law" ? What the heck does that mean? She tricked you into having a child maybe but you never had to marry her. I have been divorced for nearly 2 yrs. The kids live with me. I always make sure I'm gone when my ex comes to get them and drops them off. I haven't seen her since she left the house, and I like it this way. Good Luck
2007-06-27 14:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell birth control pills aren't even 100% effective so YOU tricked yourself. If you didn't want her to get pregnant you shouldn't have had sex with her or at the very least YOU should have used a condom. YOU are the one responsible for not not planting the seed if you don't want it to grow. So don't blame your ex, for your own stupdity. And yeah reporting me if you want...it still won't change your stupidity.
2007-06-27 20:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't, married or not. You made the commitment by having a child together. Get over it. You are tied to this woman as long as you want to be involved with your child. Find a way to make it work for the sake of your child who is your only and first commitment at this point of your life and forever.
2007-06-27 14:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately that is what happens sometimes. Whether she tricked you into getting pregnant or not, you willingly made this child with her so now you have to help take care of it. I guess your best bet would be to take her to court to get some sort of visitation agreement. Until that child is 18 you'll have to deal with her on some level. Sorry to break it to you.
2007-06-27 14:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by DelinquentGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a no win situation... as long as your son is a minor your stuck with seeing the stupid ex... can you get unsupervised visitations or something? like picking your son up and take him to the park and then you only have to see the stupid ex at the door while she hand the kid to you.. that is no so bad is it? you can ask her the nice way to let you take your son places and agree on a time to bring him back or you can go to court and sue her for unsupervised visit your his dad you will get them if your paying child support..good luck.
2007-06-27 14:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to lighten up. she is the mother of your son and is taking care of him. and i hope you dont talk this way about her in front of your son. he will hate you for that, that is his mother and he loves her. and at one time you ddin't think she was so stupid, you obviously had sex wtih her.
second, you dont have to see her if its that terrible for you. you could spend alot of money needlessly and hire a court advocate or mediator to pick him up, that is ifyou're that immature and cannot be civil for a few moments for you child's sake.
but regardless of what you do, you're gonna have to get over this. you have a child together and throughout the rest of your lfe, you will be faced with encounters with her.
2007-06-27 21:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by *** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really want to be able to be halfway descent to her, so that you can talk about concerns of the child.
try it, and if you just fight then you could petition the court for a third party to handle the echange of child at visits.
the court is going to want a good reason why, that it would resort to that.
2007-06-27 14:35:07 · answer #8 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your son's age. If he is old enough, go to men's stuff. Ball games, mini-racecar rides, teach him golf, etc. Women hate these things. Of course, you have to teach him how to swim and ride the bike. Your son will really bond with you if you help him learn how to ride the bike and swim. Then go to the park and ride along in circles. Get your son's competition juice going so the woman won't want to tag along.
Hey, next time, don't trust anybody to protect you. You protect yourself.
2007-06-27 14:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wonder what your reasons for seeing the child are...because from the anger and bitterness you express in your post, I feel the child will feel unloved and unwanted by you.
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Sorry to hear this happened to you...I would feel very angry if I were in your shoes, too.
(Children should be brought into this world only if both parents want him/her, and only if they are both willing to make the sacrifices bringing him/her up entail, IMO.) Being a good parent is not an easy job!
2007-06-27 14:32:45 · answer #10 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to grow up and stop acting like a little boy. If your child is important to you and you want to see him you need to be an adult and put your feeling aside. Regardless about what she did to you or with you she is the mother of your child and that cannot be changed!!
2007-06-27 14:27:47 · answer #11 · answered by Oh me oh my...♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋