hey guys..you know what? i am one of the rare cases here that are actually depressed because my original smile was way cuter and way prettier than my post-braces smile. i feel like i have lost an old part of my identity that i can never get back, and it is all my fault. whereas before my mouth was full of strong teeth and it had a cute edge to it, now my mouth is so much emptier because i had to pull out 4 teeth for braces and my smile has no more cuteness to it like b4. it basically makes me look like a different person. i cry at times thinking about it and it kills me inside till the point where i dont even know if i can take it anymore. i know i sound weird, but can anybody out there help me cope and please help me get through this? it is hard enough that i know it is all my fault for forcing my parents to get my braces even though they tried to stop me, and on top of that, i can never ever get my old nice smile back. i was a very pretty girl b4 i ever did anything to my teeth.
2007-06-27 13:50:04 · 13 answers · asked by neffyiffy 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Whatever you do, do not allow anyone to tell you you are overreacting here--your concern is proof of how important appearances "ARE"--for you! And that is what is important.
I started my braces at age 36--wore them for year and half or so. I had seven teeth pulled--four wisdom teeth, two upper teeth and one lower tooth. The four wisdom teeth were pulled, "because we were there pulling teeth," but the other three were healthy teeth pulled because of crowding.
I know this is not the same, but I will never forget the thoughts I had that night about having "lost a part of myself." I mourned the loss of those healthy teeth...I felt like I had not merely "discarded" them, I had "abandoned" them--as if I had the power to decide that I didn't need "that" part of myself anymore! I was frightened by the power I had exercised...over myself! What else could I do to myself?!?
My ortho work turned out okay. I had problems with my "new look," but other people said I looked great--and they said it with sincerity. So I eventually believed them, mostly.
I'm okay with my look now, even happy.
I think this is all I have to say: We face the world alone in so many BIG and IMPORTANT arenas--this reality of life makes it too easy for us to claim heavy blame. You were acting in your own best interest! You did not do something bad to yourself! I'll bet you look great!
And you are not alone or to blame for anything--allow the entire world to help you to "CONTINUE" TO SEE THE DIAMOND THAT YOU "STILL" ARE!
2007-07-04 13:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by muke 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your just not used to your new look & everything will be okay. You just need a little time to adjust, and your teeth have nothing to do w/ your smile. Your lips are on the outside, right? Teeth on the inside. They are straighter and that is a good thing. Once you get that mind set, I bet you get your quirky little smile back. I have crooked little teeth and I often wonder how it would be to have them straight. Be thankful you got it done early. I bet your cute no matter what.
2007-07-05 09:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by Animalfriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure what having a "cute edge to it (your smile)" means exactly. But you have to remember that more than likely it has nothing to do with the braces, but what it has to do with is that in the meantime you have matured and you're not always going to look the same, in fact we all change, and continually. But look, if you want a certain smile, or a change in your nose, or a frown line removed or whatever, there is cosmetic surgery to change that. Just save your money, chec, out who is a good cosmetic surgeon in your area, get references from satisfied people, and have him take care of that smile, or puff up your lips, or turn the corners upward or whatever you want done. But please don't be depressed over this small matter. It's not worth that. Keep studying and eventually either you'll meet someone who you will be impressed with and happy with and they will like you just the way you are, or from your studies and education you will be able to get the money to get things done cosmetically that you want done. It's all part of life, things come in due time.
2007-07-05 08:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The attractiveness of your smile comes from deep within. So, if you feel a bit sad, then your smile will be different, not as "cute".
Are you sure there's nothing else going on???
As you get used to your nice new straight teeth, & start to appreciate how beautiful you are, then you'll find your smile will become much more cuter!
2007-06-27 14:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by Tessa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm agreeing with an earlier response, that you're probably still cute, just a different cute. My advice:
1. Get a nice collection of different colors of lip gloss, and use them. Nothing weird (like green), though.
2. Be glad you didn't start chopping repeatedly at your nose like Michael Jackson. Now HE'S freaky looking. All he has now are two nostrils in the middle of his face. Even his eyes are crooked.
2007-06-27 14:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not your smile!!
Look inside and worry about the depth of your character and what you've done to make yourself a better person. That's way more important than your teeth.
And by the way, I know lots of people, myself included, who would give all they own for a nice, white smile of pearly teeth. My teeth are dying one by one. I've lost count of root canals. I have good reasons for this, but I'm still a young person and to fix my teeth would cost $20K. Be happy.
2007-07-05 12:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should accept yourself for who you have become at first and begin to look at yourself in the mirror when you wake up and thank God and begin to say I am beautiful just the way i am and listen to the song by James Blunt "You're beautiful".
Also use some nice lip gloss, and lipstick, and get a boyfriend stop worrying yourself.
2007-07-04 16:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by Tito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is just something different to you now because you have been used to having the braces. its ike a different haircut or b/f or g/f changes take time
2007-07-05 13:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by sselepoh roticman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 13:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to adjust to a different look. My guess is that you're still pretty, just in a different way.
2007-06-27 13:55:44 · answer #10 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋