Im Pregnant Thinking Of Abortion Even Though I'm Completely Against It?

Question

Okay well a few months ago i was raped...im still getting over it and hadnt had much time to think about missing a period or what not because i've been so depressed. So now it turns out im pregnant and im totally against abortion but i really dont want to be having a child i know that i didnt want (not that i wouldn't love the baby!!) and whose father i want to burn in hell literally!! i know its not the baby's fault i just dont know what to do whether it would make my depression worse or what. has any one else been in this situation or ever felt like this? all answers would be appreciated.

Answer 1

I totally agree w/ everyone else.... have this baby & give him to another family. There is a lucky family out there that so very much wants a baby!!
My heart goes out to you!
Good luck and God bess you!

Answer 2

The bond between a mother and child is soo great. That child would help you. What a gift and a way to heal. A heard a testimony of a women who was raped and had her baby. It was truly amazing story.

I'm sure you have heard about abortion and a depression link. Here is the thing about the depression link, the depression is much worse for those who think it is wrong to abort. So you have already said you think it is wrong. I think it is a pretty easy conclusion that you would have problems with depression.

I have a really great suggestion for a book to read. It is by Francine Rivers and it is called A child will lead them. It is about a girl who was raped and got pregnant. Then decide whether or not to have an abortion. I think it might inspire you.

Answer 3

According to ABC news last Fall, 95% of women who are raped (and report it to police) have an abortion. Of the remaining 5%, they either were in denial and waited too long to get a legal abortion, or thought they could get over the trauma of the baby's conception and care for the baby. More than 1/2 abandon or put the baby up for adoption. So, that's about (according to this statistic) 2.5% who keep their baby. You think your hatred of the father isn't going to spill over onto the baby? It's possible. Secondly, in most courts, unless he is in prison, he has parental rights, which means you will have to deal with him again. If you plan to give birth, then I would suggest that you get legal advice first. I would contact Planned Parenthood, because they would likely be able to advise you better on your individual situation than someone from yahoo!answers as well as provide referrals no matter what you think you want to do.

Note: I don't know if the report included all rapes or was just speaking of stranger rape. I do believe more women tend to raise the baby of an acquaintance rape more often. In recent interviews of women in African (where abortion isn't available) who were repeatedly raped by soliders, roughly 1/3 kept their babies. For some it was a mistake, but for others, the baby was the only light for them in an otherwise terrible situation (most of these women were HIV positive).

Answer 4

I can see where you would not want to have this baby, but why don't you have the baby put up for adoption? Since you said your self that your not for it, it may make things worse for you as far as your depression goes. This is an all around bad situation for you, i'm very sorry that you would even have to make this choice, no one should ever have to, however if you DO think that having an abortion will help you, then maybe you should, but think hard about it too, this is a life changing thing that you are going to go thru, abortion or not. Good luck and i hope the right answer comes to you.

Answer 5

Oh man, I am so sorry!

First of all, ask yourself this: Can I physically and mentally go through another life-changing event right now? How much would it change your life? Would something you want to do with your life be obstructed?

Basically, you have to make the decision yourself, and don't let anyone else make it for you. Good luck!

On an opinionated note: There is nothing wrong with abortion. With such a heavy responsibility as child bearing, every woman has the human right to have total control over a pregnancy. You would be doing nothing wrong by having an abortion.

Answer 6

it is 100% your decision; no one can make it for you. now with that said, ill give you my opinion... i think, if your against abortion anyway, its going to make it hard on you. youre already dealing with depression and by doing something as drastic as that when youre against it, i feel it may make you more depressed. i never had one, but the women i know who have still wonder what would the baby have been like; what would be different if i kept it, etc... how far along are you? if it was a few months ago, you may be too far along to have an abortion; they should (and most places wont do them after the first trimester anyway) be done before 12 weeks. adoption is always an alternative if you feel you cant keep the baby... my great grandmother was raped when she was 12, and had the baby, and i very highly doubt she loved her any less than her other kids; she found an awesome husband who loved my grandmother just the same as his own as well; if you decide to keep the baby, you too will find an amazing guy sometime who will love the both of you unconditionally. anyway, off topic, lol! as i said, its going to be your decision, when it comes down to it, but abortion can hit women hard; example a friend of mine was a energetic, bubbly "party girl" (not a slut, just life of the party type) and she got an abortion last year, and still isnt the same; it really hit her once it was done, and changed a lot. good luck to you hon, and feel free to email me if you need to talk!! (you can hit my avatar and it will let you email me through there)

Answer 7

It's up to you hun. Who are any of these people to judge? I'm sure most of them (probably all) have never been in your situation and would not understand. I think that rape would probably be the only situation in which I would ever consider abortion. They can tell you to consider adoption all they want, but to me, it would be hard to carry a child for 9 months that was created out of such a tragedy. It would be like a constant reminder of what happened. So it's up to you...but no one should judge you for what you choose. You've been through a lot already! Good luck!

Answer 8

First I want to say I am sorry for what you are going through, I can't imagine what I would be like. But I do know what is like to be carrying a baby that the father didn't want. When I told him I was pregnant he told me he lied to me about loving me, and used me to get what he wanted. A complete shock! Getting an abortion was not an option for me either. But it didn't stop him from calling clinic in our area and asking when I would have it done. I would continue the pregnancy, you have the option of putting the baby up for adoption and giving some one such a special gift. Having an abortion could make you even more depressed then you already are, I would also seek counseling. There lots of resources out there for unplanned pregnancies that are not used. Everything and everyone happens for a reason. And like you said its not the babies fault, and I can tell you already love this baby and would love this baby whether you choose to raise it or put it up for adoption. My prayers are with you.

Answer 9

I also don't believe in abortion. But can understand that you were raped. Are pregnant of no fault of your own. Also raising the child would be like a reminder of what happened. I would say put the child up for adoption. That way there is a chance for the child to have a life. Hopefully with someone that would care for him/her. But if you decide to give the child up. Make sure that's what you want. You wouldn't want to mess the child up emotionally by later changing your mind. I hope everything turns out for the best. May God bless you and help you through this.

Answer 10

I have never been in this situation personally... but I do have two questions. Did you file a report/go to the hospital when you were raped? And was this someone you knew? The reason I ask is because if this is someone you knew, they might try to get parental rights. You should be able to get a restraining order. I would just lie and say it is not his if possible.

I do know someone who was raped and became pregnant. She did keep the baby and was happy with the decision. She did not associate the baby with the rape, but saw it as something good that came out of the bad. I am not exactly crazy about abortion either, but that is your personal choice.

Answer 11

You can't really ask other people about this. Only you know what you can handle. Think about whether or not you would feel guilty for the rest of oyur life for having an abortion or maybe you would resent your child everytime you looked at them because they would remind you of being raped. Would you always regret killing your baby? Or would oyu feel relieved? A good friend of mine is the result of her mother being raped. Her mother has said, that yes being raped was a terrible thing, but that she got something beautiful out of it. If you ahd accidentally gotten pregnant by your boyfriend would you be considering an abortion? Think about it.