Ok, so I had my first baby girl this past Saturday. She was 8lbs. 13oz. and delivered via c-section. As far as my healing is going, I'm doing just fine. Yesterday was our first day home and I am so overwhelmed with different emotions, I feel like I just got pregnant again. I'm wondering is it normal to feel "not yourself" and out of it with some mixed emotions during the first few days, or weeks? I would love to hear some of your stories and how you coped with this new feeling. Thanks!
2007-06-27 10:30:29 · 10 answers · asked by Chrissy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
The first days home are very difficult for most moms, especially when it's your first baby. I had such a hard time my first few weeks with my first child and just felt miserable. People told me I had "baby blues"... and those "blues" turned into full-blown post-partum depression. Now pro-Tom Cruisers out there, I didn't end up needing medication, but if I didn't have such loving and supportive friends family and husband, I probably would have. Give yourself time...having a baby changes your entire life, especially when you've had a c-section to boot. It is normal for your emotions to be all over the place as your horomones are all out of whack, and will take some time to stabilize. On top of that you have the anxiety of a new baby. Don't worry, it will be fine. If you don't have close friends or family who have been through it to talk to, join a new mom chat group on babycenter.com or one of those other parenting websites. I would recommend it because you get the ease of knowing you aren't the only going through this.
Hang in there, and congratulations on your new baby girl!
2007-06-27 10:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by answergirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, the worst day for me was the second night in the hospital (c-section). I was having issues with breastfeeding, my daughter wouldn't latch on right and was starving and screaming and the nurses were no help and my poor husband was just looking at me like a lost puppy dog. I hadn't slept in days and I just reached the breaking point...I started sobbing (which HURT my incision!) and finally agreed to let them take my daughter to the nursery for a few hours so I could relax. I let her stay for about 3 hours then when she came back I felt much better. I did still have some emotional moments for the next two weeks or so :-)
It's different for everyone, but pretty much everyone has these rollercoaster emotions for at least a few days, weeks or even months. Just do the best you can and ask for help!!
2007-06-27 17:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is normal, but worrying. Post partum depression can hit you hard, even if you are happy to be a mom! Talk to your partner about it, and call your dr too. Remember, you don't have to be supermom, and if you get overwhelmed you can let the baby cry for a while, so you can get your emotions back in line. If you find youslef feeling panicked, or feel an urge to hurt the baby, call someone to help you ASAP!!
Every new mother goes through an emotional state. When my son was born, I cried alot. First, because I wasn't pregnant anymore (can you believe that!), then because I realized I had to take care of him ALL BY MYSELF!! (of course I had my husband, and my mother too, but I didn't know how I was going to do it anyway!!)
Try to sleep when the baby sleeps, eat when you can and don't overdo it!!! You will be fine, and be a good mommy!!
2007-06-27 17:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by parental unit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
PERFECTLY normal. It's called the "baby blues". The minute that umbilical cord is cut your body gets a rush of hormones and it can take a bit to sort them all out. You are also exhausted, just had major surgery, and are trying to figure out what "normal" is with a new baby! Talk about stress!
It should resolve within a couple of weeks. If it doesn't, or if at any time you feel completely overwhelmed or like you want to harm yourself, your baby, or anyone else please seek help from your OB. Baby blues can lead to Post partum depression which is very serious and your doctor has ways to help.
Congratulations!
Kat- Hospital Doula
2007-06-27 17:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Kathleen E 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I remember crying and crying the whole way home. I was so scared that I wouldn't know how to take care of him or what to do with him. It felt so much safer in the hospital with a nurse right around the corner.
It's very normal to have mixed emotions when you bring your child home. Don't expect to feel like your old self anytime soon...you're a new "self" b/c you're a mom now and that changes everything! In time your emotions will level out and you will only feel joy about that beautiful baby girl!
2007-06-27 17:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by Tina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your body just got done delivering a baby - your hormones are still trying to go back to normal, so naturally you'll be a bit out of whack for awhile. Try reading things at the website I provided in my sources.
2007-06-27 17:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes!! completley normal!!! When I first came home I was to the point where i thought I was a superwoman and needed to have my house spotless and take care of my newborn, soon enough I got burnt out from not sleeping a couple nights and landed myself in the ER due to dehydration (never thought that breastfeeding could dehydrate you as fast) so that made me pretty depressed for a couple weeks and then my friends came to the rescue and took me out to the beach with my newborn and made me snap out of my PPD (postpartum) I guess mixed emotions happen after having a baby, but just remember to take care of yourself more than your house, cause your more important than doing the dishes.
2007-06-27 17:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Baby blues set in around this time. My 1st daughter I started to cry over the silliest things, but it went away after a few days. If you feel worse or if you have threating thoughts call your doctor. But it is perfectly normal to be a hormonal mess right now.
2007-06-27 17:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by haileybeth79 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal. I have two little ones and the first week and a half after they were born, I felt like I was losing my mind. One minute I was happy, the next minute I was crying my eyes out. The hormone crash is crazy but at least it only lasts a week...Hang in there and good luck!!
2007-06-27 17:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's time to get knocked up again
2007-06-27 17:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by tabbylydia 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋