how do i tell my mom?

Question

i am only 14 and i am pregnant and i don't know who the father is!
how do i tell my mom??


-i need to know if i should keep the baby
-it has been 3 months

please help me with every thing

i need advice for every thing

Answer 1

I'd be honest with your mom; just sit her down and tell her the truth. As for the baby: Give it up for adoption. Killing it (abortion) would suck, and keeping it would probably ruin your future.
And in the future, remember: Sex is lots of fun as long as you are SAFE AND RESPONSIBLE about it. If you're not going to take birth control and use condoms, then please don't have sex.

Answer 2

Hun u made the wrong mistake that is really is gonna be a problem in life cuz u are gonna miss out on a lot of thingz in life honey i'm young and givin u a pep talk 1 tip u should alwayz keep never sleep with 50 other guyz if u have a man plus u are still a child when i started my period i thought now i can get pregnant and happy but u have too stop and think how is my life gonna change after this baby u should think but dont think about an abortion though unless u want a lot of money spent just tell your mom nice and calm and tell her the truth or else u are gonna be on maury show tryin to find your baby daddy now try your best and hardest to get knowledge lord knows your gonna need it

Answer 3

How do you know it is three months ?
make a list of people it might be,
does your mom know you are sexualy active ?
you are young and you are not devoloped fully inside yet(you will not be till about 21), so you need to be under a doctors care-just in case, dont do anything silly or in a hurry, you need your mom support and love, so you will need to tell her a.s.a.p, be prepared for her to be angery, cross, disappointed and shout, but with a bit of time she will see you need her and your scared, sit her down at a quite time, start with saying you sorry but scared and you need her, give her time to get her head round it then when the shock is over, you can both sit down and talk about what to do, getting rid of the baby will not get rid of the fact it happened or that you where pregnant & you may regret it for the rest of your life, i do not know how you would feel, having the baby then giving it up is harder said than done, you have a life insiade you for 9 months + horomones that dont just stop when the baby comes out, and for the rest of your life you will look at children and always wonder... We can not say you will be a bad parent just because your young, yes the shouldnt have happened, but it has, only you will know what it right, being a mom is hard-very hard but also the most wonderful blessing ever, take one step at a time, 1st tell your mom, it will not just go away, is there anywhere you can go for some counselling and support?

Answer 4

You have to tell your Mom so that you can have proper prenatal care.

You should put the baby up for adoption because at 14 you are not equipped financially, emotionally, spiritually, or any other way to handle a child. You basically (except physically) are still a child and you still need your childhood. What you don't need is more sex (obviously).

This is going to be a ROUGH time for you. Emotionally and psychologically extremely rough. Many will ridicule you and tell you how stupid you have been (this is something you have already figured out).

Your Mom will wig out at first but she will be your primary source of support. Listen to her and the doctors instructions to bring a healthy baby into this world. It will be hard to give up your baby, but it is the best for both you and the child.

If you have a pastor/priest/rabbi you need to get some counseling from them as well. This will be an emotional roller coaster for you. You will be happy one moment and sad the next.

One thing I can tell you. You CAN make it through this. You may feel guilty and hate going through the process but you CAN make it. You will be stronger as a result.

Answer 5

GEES.... when I was 19 years old I was scared to tell my mom I can't even imagine being 14. I have a 14 year old and I think I would be so upset and heart broken if she came home and told me she was pregnant but..... she is my daughter and I would stand by her no matter what anyone thought. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your mother but you should be able to talk with her, if not you should schedule an appointment with a Dr. and maybe he can help. And the other part about not knowing who the father is, would upset me as welll but like I said I would stand by her regardless besides, what 14 year old boy would be willing to help raise a child anyway.

Answer 6

Good grief.
I would not advise you to keep the baby. You're 14! You're not able to take care of it. Your life will be changed forever. And it's not fair to assume Mom will raise it.

I'd recommend adoption. You can find a good family NOW, and they can take it home right from the hospital. Our neighbors adopted 2 babies and were able to be there for the birth.

You're a little late in the game for abortion, and I would not recommend that unless the fetus is not going to make it or it is a health issue for the mother. I don't think it's a responsible method of birth control; that's something you're supposed to think of before the fact.

It's ultimately your decision. How do you tell your mom? Sometimes (like now) there's no easy way to break it. You'll just have to sit her down and spill it.

Answer 7

You will probably get a lot of rude replies to this to i'm not going to be one of them.
You deperately need to talk to your mother straight away before you get any further into your pregnancy. Sit her down and tell her what has happened. She is going to be very mad huni so please don't think I'm saying this is gunna be easy because it wont, but at the end of the day she cares about you, which is why she will go mad.
Personally I think having a child at 14 is a silly idea and you should abort. You have the rest of your life ahead of you and plenty of time to have children. Again not saying it is going to be easy to have an abortion but at the same time do you really want to miss out on all the things your friends are doing.
if you really feel you can not talk to your parents, is there a drop in centre near you to go to, to talk to someone about this. You need to do it soon as you can only have an abortion up to 24 weeks, and you are half way there!
Good luck x

Answer 8

Why do you not know who the father is? And you are 14? Wow... I don't think you are ready for a child of your own, but I'm not going to say anything about getting an abortion or putting your child up for adoption because that is entirely your decision, you better tell your mom right away because if she finds out on her own itll break her heart to know that you wouldnt even tell her on your own. You should take responsibility for your actions though, and if you think that you are mature enough to have sex then I guess you think you are mature enough to have a child

Answer 9

Set an appointment time with your mom, tell her that you need to talk without interruptions. You & your mom go somewhere private and quiet. Then start out by saying something like, "Mom, I need to tell you something and I need you to just listen first. Then let's discuss it." Wait for her to say- okay. Then say- Mom, I know this may be a disappointment or shock to you. I am pregnant. Hold up your hand as signal for her to wait. Then take a deep breath and say- I don't know who the father is. Then say, "I love you and respect your opinion mom. I don't know what to do. Please help me."

I know this won't be easy, but it is important to have your mom there beside you. Teenage pregnancies are NOT easy. There tend to be higher instances of problems in teenage pregnancies. I'll be praying for you.

Answer 10

If you're 3 months along & you're 14...u need 2 tell your mom before it's 2 late. U need prenatal care-worry about the father later. U might have 2 suck up the consequences, but u definatly need a Dr. ASAP.

Answer 11

my first reaction to this was wow. and oof.
the fact of the matter is that you felt adult enough to have unprotected sex to begin with, now you need to BE adult enough to tell you mom. like others have said, she probably will be upset, maybe angry and disappointed, but she will always love you. she probably knows you better than most other people in your life and she will be able to help you in your decision making. she knows if your family is in a financial position to help you keep the baby, or she will be able to find all the channels for you to give the baby up for adoption if that is the necessary route. Please don't abort. Many schools have programs to help pregnant teens not get behind on their education and there are many, many couples looking to adopt. Also, personally, I recommend (if your family is not already involved in one) that you find a local church to attend. God is a great friend and is ALWAYS there to listen (as I am sure your mom will be.)
Tell her soon, you "both" need to get to a doc.

Best of luck to you and your family....


And by the way, I know others have said it, and I am not judging you, but for your own SAFETY you NEED to use protection if you continue to have sex, and you should consider... limiting your number of partners....