I've warned my kids about the toys (not putting them away after use), and they can't be told...Finally, after weeks of frustration, and a room that looks like a bomb has hit it, Ive gathered them up into 3 garbage bags. They are in tears! I'm feeling guilty. Do I carry out my threat and get rid of all non-educational toys, or carry on being a pushover and clean up after them. They are 7 and 4. Thanks in advance...
2007-06-27 09:50:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Don't throw the toys away or give them away, put them up and give your kids the chance to earn them back. I did something very similar when my kids were close to that age an it worked. If you give in now you will lose them forever, you have to take your respect from a child that young, they will test you and if they see you are a pushover or inconsistant they will tear you apart. Stay strong you are doing the right thing.
2007-06-27 11:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by gymrat0187 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you cruel sod!!! lmao only joking hun!!
I know to well where your coming from i have the same problem with my son, my advice would be tell them your not going to through them away but keep them up and don't give them back till you see an improvement and then make them realise you mean business no fuss next time they play up take the toys again and do the same they'll soon get the idea! Don't give in to whinging girl! drives you crazy i know.
Good luck hun x :o)
2007-06-27 10:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats the kind of thing i have done in the past , its shock tactics , give them the chance to empty a bag at a time and put the toys away where they belong and tell them next time you have to do this they won`t get the chance to empty the bags . Its not cruel at all .
2007-06-27 09:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not throw them out, and I would not clean their messes when they should do it. I would use time outs, 7 minutes for the 7 year old & 4 minutes for the 4 year old. I dole out the time outs when they do not clean. My kids straighten their mess, or they have a time out. I only tell them once to gather toys, and if they do not move they go to time out. After those few minutes in time out, they clean just fine, Mama.
2007-06-27 09:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give them one bag back...tell them that IF they show that they can play with them for the rest of the day and pick them up before bath time tonight, then you will give them back and that they must clean them up each night. If they don't pick them up tonight, just put the bags away for awhile. You may want to get them started picking up and then step back and let them finish. Don't throw their toys away. It will teach them the wrong lesson...and they will be very hurt and associate it with you.
2007-06-27 09:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by DinahLynne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you give in then they will see that all they have to do is cry and they will get their way. I think the best thing to do is stick by what you say. If you don't do what you say, they will stop believing your threats.
2007-06-27 09:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you are not cruel, they have been warned, and if you make threats and dont carry out, they will never take you seriously, have done it before and would again
2007-06-28 10:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by dollyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋