My 1 year old has developed a temper, when she is told NO will scream, cry & throw herself back Help.?

Answer 1

This is all normal. When she throws a fit, leave the room and ignore her until she stops crying. This will teach her that she will not get the attention she wants if she is crying.

Answer 2

My daughter recently turned one and about a month before her birthday started throwing tantrums as well. The advice I have received was be firm with her and keep saying no. If you're taking something away from her, like your car keys for example because she keeps trying to eat them...replace the keys with something she'll enjoy just as much...one of her toys or a cookie or something along those lines. This way she'll learn what's acceptable to play with and that you mean it when you say "no". Also, don't be afraid of time out. It's not too soon, according my best friend who is a nanny and my doctor. I put my daughter in her exersaucer or pack n' play (two places she doesn't like being in) for 1 minute...I walk away from her and let her scream and cry and then come back after the minute is up and cuddle her and she almost always goes back to playing and forgetting about whatever it was that upset her to begin with. This advice has helped me, though we still have our days where I hand her off to daddy cause I can't take it anymore and need my own quiet time...LOL Best wishes and hope this helps somewhat!

Answer 3

Ah the early joys of a terrible 2 child! My daughter did the same thing. She is almost 2 and I am still trying to figure it out her temper tantrums which are now a bit different. But you are not alone! I guess we could instead of saying NO, ask why? or say that is not something nice to do. I do this often and sometimes it does work. Be careful when she does throw herself back, she can hurt herself or even fall out of your arms!

Answer 4

Normal. Just don't respond to it in anything but calm understanding. Allow the tantrum to run it's course (watching to be sure she does not hurt her self or others) and then say "YOu done? Can we move on now?"

My wife was the master at this. She would watch the kid with a big smile on her face - just like she would if the child were showing her a drawing or something. THen when she was done, she'd ask her: "Feel better now?" and then move on as if it never happened. The child still didn't get to do what they wanted, which taught them that the tantrums gained nothing. AND THIS IS THE LESSON.

If you give in to the tantrum and let them do ANYTHING, y ou will get tantrums from then on to any NO you give. Be the adult. Be calm, re-assuring and of course, ignore the tantrum itself.

worked with my kids....

Answer 5

She is trying to assert her independence...a bit early, too.
This is an absolutely CRITICAL time in determining the child's future behavior.
You need to indicate FIRMLY that YOU are in charge, and her "acting up" will absolutely NOT BE TOLERATED.

The manner in which you indicate this to her is up to you, and should consider her temperament. Taking her immediately to her crib-- thus depriving her of all human comfort & company until she is calm--can be effective. You can also hold her immobile until her tantrum has burned out. you can put her in a "naughty chair" (not very effective this young), smack her bottom, (ditto), or ignore the poor behavior.

You must show her in SOME way that she is being unacceptable--and that is the key to a better-behaved toddler, preschooler, etc--all through the years until adulthood.

Answer 6

This is common with a child this age. They try so hard to tell you something and when they cant that is when they have a melt down. I found with my daughter the best thing to do when this would happen is just let her do it. Not to try to stop her because she will just hurt you. Make sure she lays down in the floor away from anything that might hurt her. She will grow out of the stage eventually.

Answer 7

She's just trying to assert herself. My one year old does this, too, but i feel like at least she understands what "no" means.
Baby signs help with tempers at this age. Babies can learn to express their needs to you and don't have to scream so much.

I'd love to tell you that they grow out of it, but my 4-year-old has temper tantrums sometimes, too. At least I can send him to his room and not have to listen to it.

Answer 8

What you need to do is when she gets an attitude you need to gentaly pop her on her hand or if you do not believe in that You could set her in a playpin and tell her no and when she goes to do what she done wrong do it again she will learn what will happen to her and will quit doing it. I would love to talk to you more about this my e-mail is [e-mail]. I hope that it works out.
Chelsea

Answer 9

I experienced the same thing when my daughter was 2. I learned to stand my ground. The moment you give in you have lost.

Also, if you can walk away and not give her attention she will learn that her behavior is unacceptable.

Good luck. It's best to get his under control before she gets older. My daughter is now 4 and is much easier to deal with.

Take care!

Answer 10

This is probably a stage she is going through. Do not give in to her. Try distracting her with doing something else and take her mind off of what she is not allowed to have.