Just wanna know if I'm alone in this!
2007-06-27 09:21:05 · 19 answers · asked by MamiZorro2 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Sunny, I hear exactly what you are saying! this isn't the case, tho! I know he is a grown man, and I don't know HOW many times I've told him, "Sheeit, you wanna leave there's the m effing door! Go! I'll live!"
HOW THE HELL IS THAT POSSESSIVE???
gggrrrrr
April, Victoria-you my girls, and I love you to the day I die!
2007-06-27 13:36:42 · update #1
Of course not! If you're in a dedicated relationship then your partner ought to be faithful. That's not being possessive. Being possessive is having a sense of "ownership," telling them they can't do things because you say so, stuff like that. It has nothing to do with not wanting to be cheated on.
Absolutely not!
2007-06-27 09:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because you want to possess him like a doll, keeping him all your own, when there are happier, sexier women out there he wants... Just kidding! But, I think women can get too possessive with their husbands, and it can have a negative effect. I worked at an office where the boss' wife was office manager (but only worked like 20 hrs. a week and came and went as she pleased). It was so obvious that the only reason she was there was to keep an eye on her husband. She ran receptionists out like crazy, me included. I thought maybe she's just a control freak about the office (she griped at every single thing I did, but then again, left during busy times when I could've used her help). But, then I interviewed at another office in which the wife had to be at all the interviews, even though she's not even a part of the business. Talk about strange - I think the receptionist told me that ahead of time as a warning. There has got to be some trust. I don't think there's a thing wrong with expecting your mate to be faithful, but you can't MAKE him be! That's where the possessiveness comes in.
2007-06-27 19:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a subject not easily discussed and therefore we often assume that the other person agree with us about how it is for "us".
I would say no, it is not possessive.
For some people sexual relations are as casual as having a cup of coffee at Starbucks. And for others is constitutes an exclusive and binging "contract". Of course it creates some friction.
What is the point in being in a relationship if one of the parties are looking for something outside on this fundamental level? Of course there are people having blissfully happy relationship where they have other partners. I don't think that would be for me and It doesn't sound like it is for you. Problems with this issue is that it chips away your self esteem and you somehow are left feeling that you aren't enough.
All best
2007-06-27 16:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh, no.
It's sad to think what our society has come to. When a person ACTUALLY TRULY believes being in a relationship doesn't mean exclusivity and being faithful to that person, I think it says a lot about the person and the community they were raised in.
A relationship, as seen by a great majority of the population, means an exculsive couple (two, for those of you who don't know what 'couple' means) are commited and fainthful to one another. The person saying it's "possessive" to expect someone to be faithful whats to do just the opposite of that and that is they want to CHEAT!
2007-06-28 03:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Trish C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no its not and Ive told you that before. If this is in referance to your less than faithful mate...Ok well ill shut my mouth on that...But, no its not being possessive. Its a normal expectation when you are with some one you consider your mate that they would be as faithful as you are. Suck it up and kick him to the curb. You know I only say this because I love you like a sis,
2007-06-27 18:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course not...especially if you two have a COMMITTED relationship. I think that the only way someone would see being faithful as "possessive" is because they aren't trying to be in a monogamous relationship which goes hand in hand with committment (in my opinon of course).
2007-06-27 18:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by ViCtOrIa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if they expect you to be faithful, but its good to make sure that you and the person you are dating have the same expectations before you get into a relationship with them.
2007-06-27 16:24:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not, its only possessive if you don't ever let your mate leave the house to do anything with their friends because you want to be attached at the hip.
2007-06-27 16:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by kila537 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! Definitely not. And if he thinks it is, then he's looking at the relationship all wrong. It's an expectation everyone should have! Because cheating is just not acceptable. :) You're not alone!
2007-06-27 22:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by sarahbarah! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No as a matter of fact that is a keystone factor in having a long and fruitful relationship. I believe it and practice it religiously.
2007-06-27 16:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by XXXXXX 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋