His mom doesn't like me. All we do is hang out with his family every day and all weekend! Now he son is starting to live more on his own and she doesn't like that at all! She is rude to me and frankly I'm rude back. I don't like her at all!
2007-06-27 08:26:52 · 31 answers · asked by ang 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is STILL a mama's boy. He was worse before we were married. Now he at least somewhat realizes that I'm the only woman in his life that should matter, and making me happy is more important than making her happy. Doesn't mean it always works out that way... but he's getting there!! You've got a good foundation of 6 years, I wouldn't throw it away. He's still young.
2007-06-27 08:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by Some Lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why after 6 years is he still just a boyfriend and not a husband or a fiancee? Second, tell Mama's Boy that he needs to choose between his mommy and the woman he loves, followed by a cut off date. Hopefully in a week you'll know where you really stand after 6 years.
2007-06-27 15:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ANG the reason why I am on this website is because of this same situtation. I needed some one to talk to. I dated a guy for 7 yrs. 2 kids. He was a dedicated mamas boy. His mother hated me and my kids (her grandkids). Eventaully he sided with his mom, last month and broke my heart. Don't waste your time. Now I'm raising 2 kids own my on. Just follow your mind not your heart. Your mind will never decieve you but your heart will. MIL can be very evil. I truely believe that in order to get respect, you must give respect. Move on and hurry up. He may be a nice guy, your soul mate, but his mom will make sure that you guys are never happy together. Also later he may start to hate you for disrespecting his mother.
2007-06-27 16:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother is suffering from something called empty nest syndrome, he should have moved out a long time ago, but she can't let go of him, so he is stuck in this role!! He has a problem of also not being able to leave the next, how could you stand it for 6 years?? I really would leave him and find someone who is more independent, if your relationship with his mother is that bad now, imagine how much worse it will be if you get married or have children?? ooh!!
2007-06-27 15:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by piano19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six years, huh? You are as responsible as he is for the situation. Being rude to his mother will only make things worse. If you're ready to get married you need to move on and find someone else who's on the same page. This guy's got the best of both worlds and has no reason to want to change.
2007-06-27 15:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, here's the thing you must know...HE WILL NOT CHANGE!
You can NOT change this about him. You may love him, you may think that if you get married it will be different, it will NOT. She is a control freak and he is her doormat. If you don't get along with her now that might never change either, possible but not likely. She will play on his sympathy and guilt for the rest of his life and you will be stuck in the middle feeling left out and hurt. Trust me, he will always choose her over you more often than not. I've lived it, I've seen it in other people I know. You are in for a lifetime of aggravation if you stay in this relationship. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but you have to know what the reality of your future is with this man. Best of luck to you, I know this is a hard thing to deal with.
2007-06-27 15:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by ♠Room for One♠ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More often than not, his mother will always win over you. You cannot force him to distance himself from his mother; he will only resent you later for it. You need to let him grow up on his own and cut the cord all by himself.
In the meantime, don't get sucked into the whole rude game with this mother. If you love him, show him that you can be mature about this and treat her fine even if she is rude. Try to be positive about it and think of it this way: Better that he is close to his mother, than to have him hate and bad mouth his mother. That would definitely be less of a man.
2007-06-27 15:34:25 · answer #7 · answered by Keep on Truckin' 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in the past 6 years you think you would have figured this out. if you love him you will have to deal with it . putting your self on the edge to see that he is happy. and it might not be easy but try to be a little nicer to his mom. what if you had a child who has depended on you for 24 years and all of a sudden some girl who seems rude and mean is taking him away! all she wants is for him to be happy and not to get hurt . all you need to do is work together with her to reach that goal!
2007-06-27 15:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by FullofSass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him until he grows up. Work on yourself and see how he is doing in say 5 years to see if you still like each other then. You are too young for one thing to be thinking about the rest of your lives.
2007-06-27 15:32:35 · answer #9 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why have you put up with it for 6 years? If she doesnt like you now she never will. Even if he does grow up and get his own life she will still be there and that is a big IF. And she will be nagging, nagging, nagging. You need to move on
2007-06-27 15:35:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋