Should you be upfront about your sexual orientation if you are a gay male and have a new male roommate?

Question

I'm asking this for a friend - I think he should be honest. Please explain why yes or why no, this should be interesting. TY!

Answer 1

it would depend on how out the person is. if he plans on having a bf stay over, I think it is important

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Answer 2

Indy T has the right idea - being up front is the only way to avoid any potential problems up front. I would assume that your friend also will have to discuss the roommate bringing "friends" over for the night so why not get the issue in the open right away. If the roommate is homophobic, it is best to break off the rental relationship right away. If it is his house, why even take the chance of having a roommate go ballistic on you?

Answer 3

I'd say it probably would be definitely best to just be upfront and open about it from the beginning. It could be something that could cause serious discomfort/tension/even anger between the roommates later on. If the roommate has any problem with it, it'll be a way bigger problem if it isn't found out until later.

Answer 4

No better way to mess up a room mate relationship than to keep that kind of a secret because it WILL come out. Pun intended.

Tell your friend to tell the prospective roommate. Other wise he could end up without a roommate real quick.

Answer 5

Only if he's going to be having guys in and out all the time, just like a straight guy should say something upfront if he's loose. Otherwise I don't see why he should say something upfront, except maybe to avoid a hostile encounter later.

Answer 6

i have this same problem as im going to university soon and you have to share a room, and i am uncertain about whether i should tell him that i am gay or not, as although i understand it is important to be honest and upfront to avoid ill feeling later i am worried that he may take it the wrong way and/or tell other people and i would not want to be out to everyone at uni.

so my advice is to do what you feel best after weighing up all the possible consequences

Answer 7

While honesty is the best policy it can get you beat up if the new male roommate is homophobic.

If he feels it is that important for his roommate to know, I think he should be up front but he should chose the proper moment to bring up the subject.

Answer 8

Hell yes... nothing worse than a straight guy finding out unexpectedly that he is rooming with a gay... Unfortunately, most straights that I know have a phobia about gays, and tend to think it's like a communicable disease.... gay by association... stupid, but that is it. Your friend should be up-front and be honest. That way, any potentially nasty situation will be defused before it can happen.

Answer 9

most situations are circumstancial. in general i would say yes because in close quarters guys may walk around in underwear, use the restroom without closing the door, change etc etc and a str8 guy may not want to "put on a show" for someone that is gay.

Answer 10

I would be upfront about it from the beginning. Better to not have lied about it, and if he is homophobic, wouldn't it be better to not live there in the first place, the only thing there is trouble.

Answer 11

well when two straight guys move in together one of them doesn't 'confess' to the other "i have to be honest with you..I'm straight." I think your gay friend should find out if his roommate's view on homosexuality and if he's okay with it sure he can tell him...and if he's not...don't mention it.