She just turned 9, and we are noticing some development starting. Would it be too early to tell her what's to come? How should I bring up the conversation?
2007-06-27 07:39:04 · 15 answers · asked by Candi H 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
As soon as she starts asking questions you should fill her in on all the details. Girls mature much quicker than boys. My stepson was the same age as her when he started asking questions and he was getting wrong info from his friends about puberty and sex. So I figured it would be better to get the correct aswers from me than to get the wrong asnswers from his friends that really have no clue. Someone is going to answer her questions one way or the other, so wouldn't YOU rather be the one to tell her? She needs to know the truth no matter how uncomfortable it may be for the both of you. My stepson (now 13) always comes to me with questions that come up because he knows I will answer him honestly. Good luck!
2007-06-27 07:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by yankeegirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are seeing development, now is probably a good time. My daughter actually had her first period at age 9! The schools generally do a general health-type presentation in Grade 4, so she is probably getting close to that as well.
My daughter really liked the "The Care and Keeping of Me" book from the American Girl series of books. I looked it over, and I thought it was pretty good; balanced, informative, but not overly graphic, and completely age-appropriate. Talked about body development, periods, etc., but not about sex for example.
Might as well get your two cents in before she gets all kind of "information" from her friends and their older siblings. Give her the facts straight now, and she will thank you later.
Good luck!
2007-06-27 07:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by zeldaohzelda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would start talking to her right now I believe conversations with children and their development should be an ongoing thing from birth. Thats not to say you go into detail with them, but discuss different things with them as they age. Children need to be comfortable with their bodies as well as informed, and talking to them can accomplish this. If she is beginning to develop then some time you can mention that as an introduction to giving her more information. I would do it when you two are alone and will not be interrupted. One question I do have is where is her mother? She should be the one to do this, but if she is not in the picture then you are a good choice to establish this relationship with her.
2007-06-27 08:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to explain it to her before it happens. Girls start puberty more from size than age. If you notice she is developing she may start her period soon. Don't let her get caught unaware and unprepared. To talk to her just sit down and simply talk to her about her body and what happens when she grows up. It needs to be in words she can understand.
2007-06-27 07:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by lestermount 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Now, every chance you get, it shouldn't be a talk, it should be a way of life.
My daughters are now 24 and 19, and I was always very open with them. Even my 22 year old son knew what to expect as his body started to mature.
I really don't understand why parents think it should be a secret untill they are old enough to understand.
Its a fact of life, and they should be prepared.
2007-06-27 07:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well my mom told me when I was 12 about to turn 13, and that was pretty late, because I had heard about from cousins, and friends. SO I pretty much knew what to expect. But, I would've preferred if my mom had told me about it earlier though, even though I had gotten my period a year after my mom had told me. So, I'd say wait until she's ten, or pretty much she just seems more mature.
2007-06-27 07:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her now. Some girls get their periods at this age, so it is important to tell her before it comes.
2007-06-27 08:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by catsmeowjrk2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now is a good time to tell her.
my mom talked to me abut all that when i was 9 or ten.
she probably already knows about it anyways, because girls like to talk about those things.
she will get used to talking about it if u tell her now.
2007-06-27 07:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her in....5...4...3...2...1 Now Run my friend run like the wind and tell her about bleeding...
2007-06-27 07:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by T t 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My parents never talked to me about that stuff. I learned about all of it in school, starting in 5th grade then we had to learn about it in 6th and 7th and I don't remember but I think I had to learn it again in 8th and then we had to learn about it again in 9th plus about pregnancy, STDs, safe sex and what not.
2007-06-27 07:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by Arête 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋