Ladies, about your sex drive?

Question

ladies,
seems to be that the guy always wants sex more that the woman does., but i that is not always true...

when your husband makes advances, do you cringe or go with?
if you cringe, what are some of the reasons why? what are you missing from your husband ? if anything.
does this build resentment, and it is the pent up resentment that prevents you from feeling lustfull towards your husband?

Answer 1

Sounds like you need some romance! Flowers, dates, you need to feel loved not just eh, I to hump on you.

Answer 2

Ok, looks like every woman who responded is a raving nympho. Well I'm not - I cringe when my husband comes anywhere near me. My husband has never talked about anything of consequence to anyone in his life, including me, so I don't have an emotional commitment to him, and having sex with him isn't anything I look forward to - it's like being with a stranger. And this is after knowing him for 20 years! And I do get resentful, because although he knows I feel this way, he has yet to change his behavior .He says he can't change and blames it on his mother, because she's the same way. However, for some reason, he thinks I CAN change my attitude about having sex with him - being a guy, he doesn't get how the rest of our relationship should have any impact on our sex life. I'd leave, but we have kids, and everybody says they come first because they didn't ask to be born.

Answer 3

Let me start off by saying that not all women are the same...I can only speak for myself.
The only times I "cringe" so to speak is when we've had a disagreement and he thinks sex will "fix" it. For me, sex doesn't fix anything; arguments need to be settled respectfully beforehand. Women need to be "heard"...in other words, women need to talk their feelings out and know that you are hearing what they are saying whether you agree or not. I don't know if you've ever heard the saying that "Men are microwaves; women are crockpots". The warming up time, for the most part (again, I'm speaking for myself!) takes women longer because they view sex as a more emotional act than physical.
If you want your woman to feel "lustfull" as you put it, "warm" her up during the day with a phone call from work for no particular reason, just to let her know you're thinking about her; help her with dinner or the kids or the dishes...you'd be amazed at how quickly a woman warms up when she gets help around the house without having to ask for it! The only time I feel resentful is when there's alot to do around the house, I've just gotten off of work myself and am tired and then he walks in and wants to jump in the sack...do you get my drift? Listen to her, help her out and occasionally just hold her without the thought of it leading to anything but a quiet, peaceful evening...if it does go there, great! If not, respect her enough to just love her in a non-physical way.

Answer 4

My sex drive right now is the best it's ever been. We have no complaints, and I give it just as good as it is brought to me. Now, it has not always been that way. I think the partner makes a difference. If someone cringes, it could be that they're bored by their partner, and/or there is no attraction. I bet the latter because I can be mad at my dude and I still suddenly want him. It's either heated/good or it isn't.

Answer 5

Actually my sex drive is bigger than his. I get frustrated when we go more than a couple of days. That causes resentment on my part. However, it is partially my fault because I do not initiate it. I like to feel wanted and in my relationships in the past the guys have always wanted it 24/7 so it's been an adjustment.

Answer 6

The advancements cannot seem piggish, needy, or selfish... if they are advancements with intentions of making your woman feel sexy, loved, and attractive... then you are likely to keep her attention and heighten her sex drive, giving her the confidence that you love her, only her, and would do anything to make her happy.

Keep it romantic, no guilt trips, and go back to the days when you first met... the sparks are still there, they just need to be jump-started... and guys, its not as hard as it seems! Its all about YOUR mind-set going into the night... if you expect her to turn you down, she probably will... but if you will try new things and hope for the best, then you may surprise yourself and your partner :)


Best of luck :)

Answer 7

I've been married 15yrs together 21 and while my sex drive is picking up, his is almost gone. He is unhealthy, takes too many pills that affect his drive, drinks, is overweight and doesn't see the need to make changes. I'm on the verge of leaving and even that doesn't seem to make a difference. I'm by no means perfect but i'm just not attracted to him anymore, but he thinks that because we're married i should be. Outside stresses, finances & family are also big obstacles for women. We need to feel loved and that it's not just about sex especially after. Not that i want to cuddle for hours but at least kiss me & tell me you love me before you start snoring. I hope that women don't expect the romance of first dating to always be there, but guys come one let's not completely fall apart.

Answer 8

without a doubt, the resentment builds up over time. That's why when most women say it's over "It is OVER!!". It start w/lack of attention. A women needs to feel loved. By that I mean, a man needs to LISTEN to her, spend time w/her, be affectionate and and not always touch w/the anticipation of sex. We feel the need to be appreciated and protected. I know it's alot, we are very complicated. But trust me, when we give our love it is 100%. What was I missing from my husband? emotional support, his kisses and his time. You can lie so close to someone and still feel all alone.

Hope this helps!

Answer 9

My sex drive is at least as high as his, but I do say no sometimes.
1) Don't drink and get drunk and think that your spouse likes your drunken advances if she is sober, because she knows better, that you are going to pass out before anything good happens, or the alcohol will make you have trouble performing.
2)Don't lie about porn use and expect your wife to still find you attractive. She's thinking naw, go enjoy your porn and your hand, I don't want a lying skank.

Answer 10

I have a very high sex drive, so the only reason I would turn my guy down is either because it's "that time of the month," I'm not feeling well, or I'm extremely tired.

Answer 11

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