I got in a fight with a good friend who's a bit stubborn and I need help!!?

Question

I was IMing one of my friends a few weeks ago and we got in a fight. I asked her a question and she wouldn’t answer my question but kept saying “llama.” I tried not to get disturbed and I ended up saying “Could you please just answer before I get ticked off? If you don’t want to answer just say you don’t want to answer!” And she ended up saying: “You know what? You get mad about nothing! I’m even not going to be your friend anymore.”

The fact is I wasn’t getting mad at her. I asked nicely and she blew up. I have tried to talk to her about it. She’s so d!nm stubborn that she just gets mad at me when I try to explain it to her. Its very immature. Shes also telling me I’m doing this or that and I tell her that she shouldn’t judge someone, but she’s still acting like an idiot. I feel bad because I liked to be around her and she was one of my best friends. How can I cope with this? What should I do? I don’t want to stalk her and I’ve waited at least 3 weeks and she’s said nothing to me.

I wasn't exactly the one being immature, if you read the whole thing. :P

Answer 1

As lame as this might sound, I think she got her feelings hurt because she was trying to be funny typing back Llama and/or apparently, what ever the question was that you were attempting to ask her, she did not want to answer either. I understand that you are confused by this and that you do not understand what happened. The sad fact is, that you may never know. I have had friends like this because some of them were totally self absorbed. I would recommend IM'ing her with the word Llama. Just keep typing it to her a few times. Then tell her that you are sorry if you offended her but that you really needed her input. Let your side of it go. But I will tell you one thing though, if you find that you are always having to apologize for one thing or another and you do not understand what you keep doing to tick her off. I would also highly recommend finding a new friend. Chances are that she may be one of those women who want everything her way or no way without any compromise. That does not make a true friendship. You should not have to constantly apologize for being you. Sometimes letting go of a friendship because it is not healthy is very very difficult. But sometimes it is very necessary! You might want to re-evaluate your friendship with her.

Answer 2

I'd look for new friends. She is probably acting like that because she doesn't want to be your friend anymore. That is really immature. You're probably better off. Let her pout, and move on. If she comes around and you are still interested in being friends, then fine. If not, then it is HER loss.

p.s. This is a good example of one of the problems with IMing people a lot. There is no voice inflection, facial gestures, or body language to read, making it very easy to be misunderstood. What a shame. Good luck!

Answer 3

write her a letter and send it to her or leave it on her door and write down all your feelings on that paper and if she really cares then she will read it and give it a chance if not then she ain't that great of a friend. true Friends done stay mad at each other for 3 weeks and since you were trying to explain to her then she should have understood at least by now. so write the letter and if she doesn't respond then the best thing to do is leave it alone and find new friends.

Answer 4

thats a tricky one! i have a friend who if Very stubborn and she is always right and gets ticked of so easily over nothing! but mostly when we get into fights we just start talking to one another after a day or two. but just ask her if she is still mad and ask her why she is mad if she doesnt respond say that you are fed up with this and you dont need her if she is going to be like this.

Answer 5

If you like being around her so much then why are you fighting. Don't you realize how childish all of this is. You ask a question, she doesn't want to answer . Please guys grow up. If you don't get along then you simply shouldn't be friends. That's all there is to it.

Answer 6

if shes your Friend you will make up all good Friends make up eventually its happened to everyone we all fall out with are best mates sometimes just tell her your sorry and eventually she will accept it if she is a good m8 so don't be so worried.

Answer 7

IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE ALSO BEING A BIT IMMATURE ABOUT THIS SITUATION ALSO BOTH OF YOU NEED TO REALIZE WHAT TRUE FRIENDSHIP MEANS AND STOP ALL THE CHILDISHNESS

Answer 8

Why didn't you just call her..llama is Spanish for call.

Answer 9

it's not a problem just go and say you are sorry and that you will not do it again.