Gender Roles Today in America?

Question

Please give me your sincere beliefs on this:

WOMEN:
---- If you are a working wife who earns an EQUAL OR GREATER SALARY than your husband, do you think that your husband should still pay the majority or all of the bills as the man in the relationship or would you split it 50-50? Or would you base the bill contribution on who makes the highest income, even if it's you? Why or why not?

MEN:
----Would you rather marry a woman who is a stay-home wife or has a low paying job? Why or why not?

---If your wife earns a salary of EQUAL OR MORE than you do, would you expect or desire for her to contribute to any bills? If so, how much: 50-50 or depending on who makes the most?

Answer 1

You are assuming that after marriage, the husband and wife are still going to keep their money in separate accounts. In most marriages, all income simply goes into a common pot. And legally, in most states, income of either spouse is treated as community property. So it is rather meaningless in most marriages to try to decide who is contributing the most to paying the bills. The bills are simply paid out of the common pot, and whatever is left over is savings that belongs to both partners equally.

Answer 2

I was married before. I made more money than my husband at some point during our marriage. Splitting the bills 50-50 made him have less money than I did afterwards. Not fair.
We just divided the bills up according to who used what the most and what we had to work with. We paid our own car notes & cell phone bills, etc. Joint bills like house payments and utilities were divided based on the % of our total income we contributed. I paid 60-40. It worked out.

Answer 3

You have asked complicated questions which can only be answered by each person. Whoever makes the most should not make a difference; but that is the ideal world ain't it. I really have not thoughts on the matter except that the one blessed with the financial know how is best to handle the money. I will advise that each partner keep a saving and checking account of their own as well as a combined checking and savings account for their bills as a unified couple such as gas and electric, etc. This is the best I can come up with without doing deep thinking and/or praying over the questions posed.

Answer 4

I'd prefer a stay at home wife over a low wage wife. The salary of a low wage job is out weighed by the additional costs of maintaining the job; transportation, work clothes, daycare, whatever. I am not even factoring in the lost opportunities to get things accomplished at home that a non working wife misses out on.

The 50-50 wage question is totally up to the spouses involved, I personally think spouses should pool their income and go from there.

Answer 5

Marriage is a partner ship. Bills should be split 50-50 or the same % amount should come out of your salary for bills

Answer 6

I would rather marry a women who is a stay at home wife. My wife right now works, but she is pregnant so she said that when she has the baby she is gonna cut back to part time so that she can take care of the baby. My wife and I have one separate account which is a shared account which we use for bills on our apartment and for groceries and other stuff we both use. Then we have separate accounts for stuff we want to buy (if I want to buy a new guitar, if she wants to buy expensive makeup, etc.).

Answer 7

I would rather she worked. Kids are a different subject, though. The way I see it, it would all be our money, and should all be spent on us rather equally. If she wanted the money to be separate, then she should pay for some of the bills, and I would have no problem with her paying more if she made more.

Answer 8

B) Homogeny Men and women are tending to share tasks that were previously divided more rigidly. It is not uncommon anymore for a man to stay home and tend to the children if his wife has a better job, just as it is not uncommon anymore to see women in roles that used to be reserved for men only. Roles are mixing, and therefore becoming more homogeneous.

Answer 9

I'm a man who has no interest in marrying a woman. I'd rather marry a man. Where do I fit into these "new" gender roles?

Answer 10

if a couple is living together, its a split, but marriage is different, you better do the signing together medical, an finance, , if anything drastic happen your family or state could claim it and not all for your wife, property, and material things etc.