Friends With Benefits? Sex Buddy?

Question

Will someone please tell me how this whole "friends with benefits" thing came into existence and how it works? I have only recently returned from overseas and I was gone a long time. So I feel a sense of cultural deprivation because I don't know about this phenomena. From what I understand by piecing it together, it is basically like a sex buddy, right? But what else does it entail? Is there ever an emotional commitment that evolves? Is that the whole idea? Is it for single people only? Young people? Do married people have friends with benefits? If you are a person who has a friend with benefits, please tell me what it is like. I really want to know.

Answer 1

ok friends with benefits to me is the most beautiful thing cuz you have a friend that you trust in and you could have sex with him. You there for them in any needs. somepeople fall in love with eachother it bearly happens. Nope married couple shouldnt have friend with benefits thats like cheating. And the important thing is that you do what ever you want and she does what ever she wants. you could always tell her since the beging ( if you find someone just let me know). if you get to feel for her than you in trouble cuz you have to realize that ur just her friend.

Answer 2

Friends with benefits is the term applied to people who are sexually involved but not emotionally involved. The idea is that these people can have sex with each other (or possible even with other people) and no one "gets their feelings hurt" because it is just supposed to be a good time.

Most of the time this arrangement does not work out because one or both of the participants develop some sort of emotional attachment anyway. Then when the other person does something that isn't kosher with this new emotional involvement, it leads to hurt feelings.

It is also sometimes used as a way to "hold on" to an ex, but this kind of thinking is nearly always going to result in hurt feelings.

Answer 3

A friend with benefits is in fact someone with whom you have an emotional attachment. However it is not the same kind of love you feel for the person you choose to marry. Normally, once you marry, the "benefits" go away, for that matter, it stops any time you are seriously involved with someone. Normally it starts (for me it did at least) as a friendship that grows and develops into the love of a good friend and then at some point, it feels right to make love, so you do. Perhaps it only hapens once (not really a friend with benefits) however, normally, when it feels like the right thing to do, it happens. When one or the other of you is in a serious relationship, the benefits stop (like I said before). However, the friendship is always there and is the basis of the relationship.

Hope this helps.

Answer 4

It's nothing new at all and no, it's not for married people or those in committed relationships (that's still just plain ol' cheating).

A friend with benefits is simply someone you are friends with (on some level) and also have sex with. Not knowing your definition of sex buddy it may or may not be the same thing although typically when I think of phuque-buddy I think of people who get together only for sex, and the relationship doesn't really have any friendship or other ties in it.

Emotion connection can occur between any people, especially those that are intimate...so yes, sometimes one or both parties in an fwb relationship will develop deeper feelings. The two can then either choose to explore them or may decide to go their separate ways because the feelings aren't mutual.

People of all ages may have a friend (or friends) with benefits...it's not age-specific at all.

Answer 5

I've had several friends with benefits over the years. Basically it is what you expect - a sex buddy. From there it can be different things for different people and depends on how long the relationship lasts. Some have no further emotional commitment but I've always found that some emotions develop. It starts as a sex only relationship and where it leads from there depends upon the people.
Not for married people - they have a commitment to themselves and its called cheating when they stray or "creep" as TLC says.

Answer 6

Yeah its like sex buddies. You are friends, but you get the benefit of having sex together. It doesn't usually have anything to do with emotion and doesn't have to evolve into a relationship. Its like you are there for eachother to have sex when you need or want it. Single people, young people, older people, married people, ANYONE can have a friend with benefits. Its can kinda be like a booty call at times. I hope this helped.

Answer 7

Right first try. Basically a sex buddy. Basically a friend of the opposite sex (unless you're gay of course) with whom you have sex. The commitment is no more than the original friendship theoretically. It works in theory and sometimes in practice but ofter on "friend" is looking for more than the other is willing to give. It'll go on as long as or until the one looking for more stops looking and looks elsewhere or one or both friends find significant others. I'm sure some married people had friends with benefits, but that's technically grounds for divorce.

Answer 8

Becoming involved in "friends with benefits" usually means that two people mess around in the sense that most couples would, but there is no "I love you" or no emotional or physical commitment involved. I've never done it personally, but several people I went to high school with did, so I know only what I hear. They are typically common in younger, single people who want "action" but don't want a commitment.

As for sex buddies, which are also called "f--- buddies", the same thing applies. It's usually two people who engage in sex, but have no emotional/physical commitment to one another and who typically don't want one.

I hope this helps.

Answer 9

I don't personally have a friends with benefits, but ill tell you what it is.

Its for single people, and usually they are younger 16-20's. And its basically a person that you can have sexual relations with, without any emotional feelings attached. Kinda like a once night stand, but with the same person over and over. And it dosent necessiarily mean straight out sex, for teens it could be making out and well, stuff like that.

Basically they are friends, but there are sexual benefits attached to that. But they arent allowed to develop an emotional commitment, its not expected.

I doubt a married person would have a friends with benefits, that would be cheating.

Answer 10

Why would you ask ?It seems as if you have the answer and already know everything...Me getting over my ex is not a problem. It's already DONE.. When you have a helpless child that is being thrust into a relationship with a manipulative insecure person..then you can easily pass your opinions on and as far as selling the house...Why sell it? The longer he makes payments on it the more equity WE (my son and I) are entitled to..So How many children do you have and what gives you the right to have enough nerve to tell me to get over my EX. As I stated I'm already in a healthy caring relationship. You may be a writer but not a very good reader.Guys like you with really big opinions - LACK in one way or another. I have a pretty good guess....in what or where you LACK....

Answer 11

Friends with benefits basically means that you are platonic friends that just happen to have sex. Unfortunately, it usually doesn't work out too well because usually one party ends up developing feelings for the other and it is not mutual and/or one party ends up with a bf/gf and the other becomes jealous and wants to continue. Basically, it is a big mess! lol