how long would you wait for the man or woman you have loved for 3 years to grow up and get their act togther, to get a career and start supporting you and helping you.
2007-06-27 06:53:46 · 8 answers · asked by lovely 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its going on 7 months and im about to pull the plugg on thsi relationship..
2007-06-27 06:54:20 · update #1
it just started for the past 7 months, the first 2 and a half years were great
2007-06-27 06:59:30 · update #2
If things were great for the first 2 years and then all of a sudden went down the tubes as far as him pulling his weight I would say there is a problem with him as a person. I don't know what it could be as I am not with him day in or day out, but I would come right out and ask him what the deal is....I know its not always easy but I would just simply say you have seen a change in him and you don't like it and you are worried and want to know whats going on....If he isn't willing to make changes and doesn't seem to be going anywhere I would cut your losses....If you haev already given him 3 years of your life, I wouldn't waist anymore time..Deal with this ASAP and get your life moving in the right direction..good luck!
2007-06-27 07:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by benzmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happend in the last 7 months? Either love the person as they are or move on. Never get married and try to change the other person, the marriage will fail.
2007-06-27 14:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually the way it works is that this person will not make the changes you want until after you are separated. Then they finally learn and make the changes so they won't screw things up with the next person. So the next person gets the benefits of your partner being the way they should be. It's really crappy, but from my experience (both personal and observation), that's what usually happens.
And then there are the people who never change.
2007-06-27 14:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
After 3 yrs you are supposed to be moving forward, not backward, which is what you are doing. How much longer do you want to wait for someone who probably isn't going to committ? Things should be better by now. Think about it.
2007-06-27 14:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
At least you've learned this littel fact before you walked down the isle w/ him.
I say you either got to accept that that's the way he is going to be - or stop wasting your (and his) time and put this one to rest so that you can both move on to someone more compatible.
2007-06-27 14:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by aa889d 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say if you've seen this behavior for 3 years and it hasn't changed - it's not going to.
2007-06-27 13:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by FirefighterWife 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are about due for a walk!
2007-06-27 13:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he doesnt know what he is doing by now, its time to move on.
2007-06-27 14:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Charmed One♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋