What else an American man should do when a Filipino wife living in Phil. won't sign the divorce paper?

Question

I'm currently in a relationship with an American guy for almost 2 years. He was married May of 2004 to a Filipina while, I at time was just separated. This woman doesn't want to sign the divorce papers filed by my BFin the US. He still supports her and her 4 kids (from her 1st husband),even though he don't have any kid with her. They'd lived together for 6-mos. & forced himself to return back home l(ast 2005) when she asked him to leave after working on her visa and her children's & felt he wasn't wanted anymore. She refused to sign it by simply telling my BF that "she was too busy finding a job", etc. where the fact is, she knows that she still can get support for her kids if she wont. I am planning to think that she is too selfish & clever to tell my BF that "she have all the right because she's still his legal wife?

We just want to start a family & want to spend our lives together until we grow old. I don't think that we can move on if she is still there. I am terribly sad.

Answer 1

Consult a lawyer ASAP! She is using him for money and possibly access to the U.S. if she is not legit on her own. There are plenty of ways to have this marriage legally ended. He should first stop supporting the 4 children and her. She is a grown woman and until the court mandates it he has no financial responsibility to this woman or her 4 kids that are not his!

Answer 2

In most states you can file for a divorce and it's final after 1 year if she signs papers or not. He needs to look into it. Tell him his obligation to that mooch is over.

Answer 3

I think you're making a mistake being with this guy - he's not the sharpest knife in the drawer.

But that said, surly you've spoken with a lawyer about this. Especially since the kids he's supporting are not "his."

Answer 4

he needs to consult a divorce attorney of the laws. there has to be a way for him to get out of this