is it rage,out of control,te reign for control,attention seeking or what?

Question

hes 6-every day there is a physical altercation with him and someone else.sometimes other children /other adults.its seems futile the many discussions day in and out about not using violence to solve our problems fall on deaf ears-living as though LL HE CAN CONCENTRATE IS THE DYING/KILLING THAT HAPPENS IN TV,GAMES OR HOW HED LIKE TO DO IT/i dont know what to beleive-hes gotten what he wanted to be kicked out again due to non compliant behavior-kid just doesnt seem to get the meaning of the word no-of course hes had the time outs,the no priledges act,and even swatted but yet to no evail help im haning on by a string dads not helping screaming im going to take you to a psych center-but has deciedd its time to end this whole family thing and only wants to see him on sundays for a few hours-help-i really need help

i was taking him to behavior thearapy for a year and a half and had reached a point where he was less physical-however within 4 weeks the behavior returned,ive contacted the state,waiting,ive called a child psychatrist who cant get him into see him unitl sept.-he was the closest at a two and a half hour drive.Im feeling shame and embarressment due to this ill behavior that he is showing others-i feel i have failed and wonder if maybe i should let his dad handle this.........my son says i love you mommy -but his behavior towards me and others says not im walking a long dark road and dont see a light at the end

Answer 1

Wow you sound like your really upset, I will suggest going to counseling asap, if you presently seeing one and things havent change, then its time to switch doctors, go to youre nearest health clinics or hospitals, they usually have good refferal sources, therefore they can refer you to a good counselor/specialist. You didnt mention if your child was evaluated, maybe he has A.D.D., which affect a lot of children, I suggest you take a good time out to talk, when he is not lashing out, when your not stressed from youre daily activities, and maybe go for a walk, get an ice cream, and talk, ask him questions as if you were talking to an adult, listen to his answers and give suggestions and advice, and let him know what you will do to find a solution, do not take this time to scold him or scream at him, bite you're tounge, and explain every questions he ask, maybe this will be a good time to tell him that you will go see a doctor to talk about your problems, tell him about other people you've known, who have seen counselors, let him know this is perfectly normal and that you will try to do everything in your power to make him a happy six year old boy. You mentioned his dad left, were you having problems prior to this, little kids can sense this no matter how much you hide it, trust me I know, maybe thats why he is lashing out, try to remember when this started happening, was it the beggining of school, a new baby, problems at home with adults, as much as we think of kids as just kids they do get stressed out, and go through emotions, the only problem is they dont know how to deal with them, so they usually lash out. Good Luck!!!!!

Answer 2

Tough situation.....family counseling for you and him sounds like the best solution, the sooner the better. The longer the behavior goes on, the harder it will be to correct it. Hang in there, I know it's hard, but it sounds like you are all he has. It's most likely anger issues and with the proper help, you can get him turned around and on the right track. Resist the urge to sedate him, as so many doctors have a tendency to do these days. Drugs aren't the answer; love and communication are the best place to start. When raising kids, you have to show them the most love when they deserve it the least. Good luck and God Bless You!

Answer 3

Take him to his pediatrician, then have him referred to a child psychologist. There is something going on beyond the failure to parent here. If you have indeed gone through the standard parental roles in discipline, something else is bothering him...and you need to get help to figure it out. Is Dad in the picture?? It sounds like you might be divorced? Which could have an impact on him. If you had a bad marriage and there was arguing and what not, then he is repeating what he saw--in you and your husband as well as on TV. Don't blame him, don't count him out, get him some help---and the best thing to do is get him seen by a professional, as he may need medication or counseling.

Good Luck!!

Answer 4

Contact a social worker and explain what is happening. They can get you a lot of help. If Dad is not helping, it's time to get him more involved or, out of the picture.

If you can't afford a good psychologist then apply for help through the state.

Your child has some severe aggression issues and at 6, he should not be dealing with video games involving death. I know it is hard to monitor, but if you want to make him change, you need to change his mental input.

I'm sorry I can't help more, but your first step needs to be outside help.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

He needs a therapist. Something is incredibly wrong - your child is trying to deal with something, and his inability to do so on his own is coming out as violence. There are many great child psychologists out there who know exactly how to get the root issue out of a child, and how to deal with it going forward.

The dad, by the way, is handling this in exactly the wrong way. He needs to quit the yelling and the threats, and pulling away from this child right now is only going to make the child more hurt and confused. Tell him he needs to get back in the game - his son needs him. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

Your son is very angry and the adults around him have failed him. First have him checked out by a doctor and get a referral to a psychistrist dealing with young children. Second, no sugar, junk food, artificial colorings or soda. Third, get rid of the TV and the video games.

Start spending time with your son, read to him, take him outside and let him run off his energy. If he cannot control himself around people, then remove him from where they are. His father since he has washed his hands of his responsibility, should be made to pay for any other care. A 6yr old should never be threatened, that's abusive.

Answer 7

I don't usually suggest this because people are asking for OUR opinion, but you need to seek professional help. It sounds like your son is really troubled and needs some help working out his anger and frustration. He is still only 6 and deserves all the love and attention you can give him. If your husband is going to walk out because of this - then it is his loss. A father should stand by and fight for the well-being of their child. Until you can get your child to a psychologist, you need to remember to remain calm. Do not yell or get aggressive. Do not fight with your husband. If you are not in control it will only add to the contention and make his problem worse.

Answer 8

Okay. It may be something that is causing him to act out this way. I would take him to a physician to discuss this. I would also take away all the things that he likes to play with. No tv, no games, no extra curricular activies. I would explain to him that until his behavior changes, he will not be allowed to do any of these things. I wish you the best of luck and hope that things change for the better.

Answer 9

6? And you haven't taken him to a counselor to figure it out? You need to get control of the situation right now. Ask the school or your doctor for a referral to get to the bottom of it.

My guess is this kid is reflecting the turmoil in your household - dad specifically.

Answer 10

Call the dept of Juvenile Justice in your area and ask them for guidance.