I have one more thing to ask, can a casual sex relationship work between a 17 y/o guy and a 37 y/o woman?

Question

Mom's divorced friend has been flirting with me a lot and tells me how handsome I am.

I must admit that I am curious to get something started with her but I just want casual. Maybe even hit it and quit it. But my problem is that she is very pretty and I might not want to "quit it". I am scared that she might fall in love and I might have to hurt her or that I might fall in love with her and be stuck with a woman 20 years older than I. Should I just leave it alone and not let it happen. Lately, our chemistry and energy is there and is about to erupt.

I will be 18 on August 16th.

Answer 1

I'd be tagging that every chance I got! She knows there's nothing that can come of a relationship like that. That woman can teach you a bunch about sex.

Bang it and slang it playa!

Answer 2

You need to just go ahead and take the word "relationship" out of the question. That's not a relationship. Hit it and forget it is a sex transaction and no that never works out....um because it's never intended to.

If you asking if casual sex works between a people of any age, then yes...as long as both can have sex....I'm sure it works.

You are never stuck with anybody. I think you are mistaken that you are the one in control of this situation. Trust me, she knows exactly what and when she is doing anything. Many women just flirt and give off "chemistry" signals to people and have not intention of doing anything with it.

My guess, If you come on to her, she's likely to laugh and then her and your mom will have an interesting conversation over coffee.

I would advise backing off and leave the 37 year-olds for the older men to not understand :)

Answer 3

You are both near your sexual peaks. This is a perfect match. I had a girl that was 35 that I screwed around with all the time. I was 20. We carried on for 2 years, while I dated other girls on the side. It ended very badly, but the train ride was incredible. Trust me, your only young once. When your alone, start by giving her a backrub. Next, smell her hair. Tell her how nice it smells. Then look at her face to face and go in for the kill.

Trust me.

Answer 4

You are 17 years old and if you don't mind being with a woman that can possibly be your mom then I guess it's okay for you...Personally, I think you should just leave it alone....It's probably natural for a teenage boy to wonder what it would be like being with an older woman but, once you find out then where does that leve the both of you?? I think you should let her know that you respect her and yourself enough just to let things be....I hope it works out for you either way you decide to go***

Answer 5

Yes it can work as a FWB thing....after you turn 18. Until that point, she is asking for legal trouble. Especailly if someone finds out and gets their *** chapped over it....like your friend. Personally, I love older women, especially when I was that age. Great teachers. But seriously, dont do this until youre 18. If you think about it long enough, if this woman is willing to do it now, thats pretty unstable thinking. Is that something you want to mess with. And another piece of advice.....you are young...if you cant be mature enough to talk to this lady about it....most likely shouldnt be doing it.

Answer 6

I don't know where you are but if the laws permit it and she touches you and only if you don't want her to.....she needs to know that the laws are very tight in this country. Not really for women, they don't apply to women the same way as they do to men or at least they didn't used to but women are being held more and more accountable for their behavior in our culture. Almost always it's not the individual but someone on their behalf who files the complaint of sexual abuse so if you decide to have a relationship with this individual and it is in contravention of the law (which I absolutely do not recommend or encourage) One needs to be very considerate an judicious as to whether or not this is a prudent course to involve someone else's life with, given the potential consequences. Now is the time to behave like an adult. Con Sequence - going against the sequence or flow of events..what happens when poor judgment is exercised.

Answer 7

first of all assure yourself that this woman is interested to avoid a really embarrassing moment. If she is, keep in mind that your mother might not be happy about all this, and see it as unhealthy. But ultimately your sex life is up to you - if you like this woman and its reciprocal, and feel as though it is right for you then maybe it could work. Keep in mind that the consequences listed by you which might happen, are something you will have to accept if they come true. I don't believe love and sex ultimately come down to the lovers being the same age but be prepared, unfortunately, for the much prejudice bound to come your way.

Answer 8

Hi, Well the guy am with is 38 y/o and i'm 25 when we first seen each other there was notting there but he keep comeing around and we started hanging out together.at this time for me the feeliings i was haveing wasn't just any feelings it was like he took my heart and made it hole again because it was brokening .so i understand that you don't want to hurt her and you don't want to get hurt yourself Oh, by the way don't just hit it, and quit it because yes you would hurt her if she has feelings for you and thery'er real you don't want to do that to anyone. you sound like your a good person and that you don't want to hurt her so i say just keep things as they are and there's notting wrong with be ing in love are is it the age thing. good luck and just think about it some more.

Answer 9

Hopefully she is mature enough to not get emotionally mixed up. But you are still young and can fall in love with her, which is most likely bad. You still have a lot to learn about dating and relationships. If you can keep it casual and be cool about it, I say go for it. She will probably show you the time of your life.

Answer 10

I don't see why it couldn't work. Sure, anytime you enter a relationship (however "casual"), there's a potential for drama. But taking a risk is a part of pursuing fun, love, success, you name it. Try to keep it real, use your common sense. The thing is, you may enjoy the person's company very much, the sex may be great, you may have great admiration for them, you may even love them in a way - but it doesn't automatically mean that they're "right" for you in the long-term sense. You need to learn to recognize this, that's all. My vote is "go for it", and learn from experience. :)

Answer 11

Well.... casual sex will not be the result of your situation.
Once you take that plunge, that's it..... I personally would never judge any situation of any kind.... but she's your mother's friend. How will that affect that friendship and then your relationship with your mom ???

I am not saying don't do it, what I am saying is review all of the pro's and con's before making such a decision. You don't want to have any regrets.....