My fiances 13 year old sister is "talking" to a boy. Her mom always swore she would never let her date before 15. Well now that her and her husband are going through a divorce a lot of her old rules have changed. We tried telling her that there were some questionable things on her myspace page but she got mad at us for even mentioning them and said someone hacked into her myspace and did it. Okay whatever like I wasnt 13 a few years ago. The reason why we are so concerned is because this girl is really smart in school but shes going through a rough time right now because of her parents divorce. I know that know is the perfect time for her to start messing up. Her mom and dad put her in the middle of things and dont even think twice about how its affecting her. Shes growing up really fast and no one is noticing how she starting to withdraw herself from everyone. Their mom is in denial .We tried talking to her but she gets mad, like we're calling her daughter a sl*t.Should we give up?
2007-06-27 05:58:15 · 9 answers · asked by Princess Rach 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We tried talking to her dad but he just went and blamed it all on her mom and said it was her fault and that he was going to tell his lawyer. Its all about the divorce right now, thats partly why she was angry with us because we told her dad and he told his lawyer. No one got what we were trying to say.
2007-06-27 06:18:35 · update #1
No. She's 13 and needs to feel loved and cared about. Just keep trying 2 steer her down the right path and hope 4 the best. U and ur fiance also need 2 sit ur mom in law down and let her know that things r getting out of hand and that she's shoving her parental duties under the rug, if that doesn't work-mention it 2 her father.
2007-06-27 06:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with the 13 yr old. Let her know that you are not telling on her but are concerned. Let her know that you can understand that it's not easy for her and if she needs something she has a friend in her corner who will not run and tell her parents. Try to get her to open up. Also see if your sister in law wants to spend some time with you go shopping, lunch, movies etc. Maybe taking her out of the line of fire if only on the weekend will her. If you build up a trust and not act like another mom you will be surprised how well it will go. No kid wants to be lectured after all as you said it was not that long ago you were her age.
2007-06-27 06:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have plenty to be concerned about. I would be too. Kids these days don't act like kids and are in too much of a hurry to grow up. Have you tried talking to your father in law? Is there anyway he might be a good mediator with the sister? Maybe you need to try a different approach with her (and the mother in law) as well. How are you handeling it when you talk to them? You may not feel like you are being accusatory but not thinking about how they might take your words or your tone. Put yourself in their shoes and think the best way to approach you if you were in either of their spots and go from there. But no. I do not think you should give up. When no one cares or takes action, that's when 13 year old girls get into things that put them in juvie or make them really young mommies. I hope for the best for you guys. Good luck.
2007-06-27 06:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by rinrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO BUT TAKE A DIFFERENT APPROACH. MOM DOESN'T WANT TO SEE THEN TALK TO THE GIRL DIRECTLY. DON'T BE LIKE A MOM CAUSE UR NO AND SHE WILL GET OFFENDED TALK TO HER AS A FRIEND U KNOW GIRL TO GIRL KINDA THING. IF UR THERE FOR HER AND NOT JUDGE HER BUT GUIDE HER SHE WILL COME THROUGH IT OK AND WILL HAVE A NEW APPRECIATION FOR U BUT DON'T GET HIM INVOLVED CAUSE IF SHE FINDS OUT U TOLD HIM WHAT IS GOING ON SHE WILL FEEL BETRAYED AND MAKE THINGS WORSE. GOOD LUCK.
2007-06-27 06:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to your MIL and start paying attention to your sister. Instead of getting her in "trouble" become her friend. She must desperately need someone to talk to in all this awfulness. Include her when you can, and just let her know you care about her and will be there for her.
2007-06-27 06:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO !, Hang with it, you guys are her rock, she`s just too young to know it yet. As for mom, she`s to involved with her own problems. People tent to believe that " Adults " can handle anything wisely. But they`re only human - and mom is acting just like a human. Hang in for her too, it`ll be hard but she`ll thank you for it later, believe you me.
2007-06-27 06:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by Hondaman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone "hacked" into her account then she should allow supervised correction. Don't give up. monitor the account, and followup with questions directly to her. too many wierdos and too much indiferance in todays world in the first place.
2007-06-27 06:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by dpeslinger 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes sit down with the mom and tell her what is going on the kid needs hlep now.
2007-06-30 16:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep a close eye on her and be there for her
2007-06-27 06:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by cherry♥blossoms 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋