How can I get over a friends death?

Question

My friend John died on june 12 in a bike accident on vacation in germany. I'm going to his memorial service today. How can I get over it I can't seem too be happy lately. He was 12 when dies he left his parents and sister behind. Help me cope.

Thanx

I'm 12 too I was his friend.

Don't make rude comments I will report you thanx again

Answer 1

I lost my best friend in 2001, let me be honest with you, it will take a couple of years to remember that person and make you smile. its hard no doubt about it,even now if I'm upset it still makes me cry. keep busy doing the things he set out to do, remember all the good times that made you smile. only time will heal.

Answer 2

First of all, let me say that I am sorry for your friend's too soon demise, for his family and most of all, his friends, especially you. To ask for help is the first step to recovering from a death such as this. Death can be a sad occasion, especially if the person had no religious affiliation. I hope that you have some because having faith in something or someone is the best way to regain your footage and retain your happiness. You have to look past the death issue and remember the good things that John did, and that he was to you. One thing you can do to help you stay in the positive is to create a journal perhaps of poems and sayings, quotes, or short essays (blogs) that express your time and feelings for John. You might also create a scrap book (hopefully you have many memories to place in it) of things you have collected. You can write letters to John in a letter book and maintain it over your years. It is okay to be sad and to cry, but if you had a really good relationship with John, you know he is not going to want you to be sad for too long. Please make yourself available to join some groups of other teens to talk about this issue. Read books on tragedies and death to help you cope. If all else fails, be sure to talk with your parents or another adult who can help you see your way through. Whatever you do, don't sit in silence and suffer alone. I hope you have a pastor or other clergy who can talk with you also. My prayers are with you today and everyday. Be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. He is your strength for the times such as these. Lean on Him.

Answer 3

I had my best friend murdered when we both were 17. I try to remember the good times/memories we had together!
As you think or talk about the things you did some will make you cry and some will make you laugh.
Cherish the memories!
It's been 26 years and she still holds a special place in my heart!

Answer 4

You are very normal and grieving over the loss of your young friend. You will most likely never forget him or where you were when you received the news about his tragic death. Time will help you, his parents, sister and friends.
Don't try to rush and get over it. In time you will feel better and be able to talk about him, perhaps joke about some of the fun times you had and remember him in a positive light.
There are numerous books and booklets around that deal with a loss. If you continue to dwell on his death, locate some books and read. Some funeral homes have booklets available and they are free.

Answer 5

My best friend's ex boyfriend died. We were both shocked and heartbroken. He was 27, so I can only imagine what you feel. I'm so sorry that you have had to go through this. You probably have a lot of good memories. I would tell you to remember him that way. If there was a caues he was devoted to, you might want to become involved in that, too. Most of all, learn from him. Life is beautiful but it is promised to no one. Make sure not to take life for granted. God loves you and even though you're going through this, he wants the best for you. He has a plan for your life. Just like he has a purpose for your friend, too.

Answer 6

You have to let yourself grieve. Then over time you will stop feeling the pain so much, and hopefully you'll be able to focus on the happy memories.

You will never totally get over it/move past/forget, but you will be able to move on. It hasn't even been a month, you're not expected to get better with just a snap of the fingers. Give it some time.

Answer 7

Coping with death is a process you need to allow yourself time for. Death is never easy in any circumstance. Know that it's okay to feel whatever it is that you're feeling and allow yourself to feel that way for as long as you need to. There is no time frame of when you should be over a death.

My father died when I was 10 and it took years for me to accept it. Also a close friend of mine died when she was 19. I went through many different emotions but the support of friends and family helped greatly. I also visited her grave often, many times spending the whole afternoon there.

Don't be afraid to talk to people about it or if you need to be alone that is okay too. People deal with death in different ways whether they write, talk, paint or scream. Find what helps you get through it and use it as often as you need to.

Answer 8

You shouldn't be expected to "get over it". You will go through a healing process and that takes time. I know that isn't of much comfort but just let yourself feel and express how you feel about it. Talking with people (both his family and your family and friends) will really help. You will help each other along in the process. I am sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.

Answer 9

Be glad that you made a friend like him, but feel sorry that you also lost him. Pay him your respects by always keeping the memories of him in your heart.

Just remember that your future is still ahead of you so look forward to meeting new people and friends.

Answer 10

I am 18 and last year my friend died on a street bike when he went into a intersection and got hit by 2 cars simultaneously, it took me a while to get over it but i realized that somethings you cant change. and it really sucks but it wasnt your fault and you should just wish for the best for him and his family.