why do people think it is so wrong to be 17 and pregnant?

Question

its not like im not in a serious relashinship or dont live with my partner

also im not in high sckool and im 18 in a few months and when the baby is born i will be 18

Answer 1

there is nothing wrong with it as long as it is the right time for you and your partner it use to be quite common for couples to get married and start a family at a young age don't listen to anyone who says its wrong the best revenge you can get is to be happy lots of luck and as a new mother myself get lots of sleep before the babys born you'l need it !

Answer 2

Well in society young mums are stereotyped as being 'spongers' on society and on tv they are portrayed as being on the dole and living on a council estate. This isn't always the case but I think getting pregnant this young is frowned upon as the mother is still developing herself, and she simply isn't ready for all that becomming a parent entails. I would rather live a bit first and have a career, settle down with someone I love and make some money to support my child and then have one. In a ideal world all people would do this, but things don't always go to plan and thus some people have children at a young age like seventeen. As long as the baby is bought into a loving situation and the mother has support from family, friends and a partner if there is one, it might work.

Answer 3

At 17,our personality is still shaping up, and we are not mature mentally and physically to take up responsibilities of parenting.
Becoming pregnant is easy, but becoming a responsible parent is difficult. The decision to bring a child into this world must be a serious one as it changes your life completely. The term 'mother' is a permanent status, you can never go back. Being a single parent is difficult, especially at 17, how committed is your partner? It is a blessing to be born with the blessings of both parents, we owe it to our children.
Do you have a job that will support you and the baby?
Handing over your baby to your parents or adoption or fostering or living off welfare is not responsible parenting.
Think !!!
Others may have had babies in their teens, go by your own assessment of yourself,don't depend on others.
Think !!!

A single parent

Answer 4

Some people think at that age the person is no responsible, or lived life enough to be a good parent. Also in today's society teens are having sex and getting pregnant more and more at an early age so this is a no no in older peoples eyes. I personally say it depends on the person, my wife was 17 when we had our son and now she is 20 and we have 2 wonderful kids and she is a great mother! So you be the best you can and do what's right for you and your baby and to hell with what other people think!!

Answer 5

Aside from the social aspect, children born to young mothers are statistically proven to have a higher chance of birth defect. And then there's the child's life after the birth - at 17 can you really afford to look after a baby? Do you have a stable, loving home? Can you earn enough money to bring the child up when you have no qualifications or experience? Can you provide emotional stability and wisdom to a child?

I think it's these things that make people believe it's not a good idea.

Answer 6

I guess because they haven't had a lot of life experience. When I was in my teens I thought I had life figured out, but as I've grown older I've realised my views about things have changed. One of the things I want is to wait until I have saved up quite a bit of money so that I can afford to look after my child for the first three years of their life (before they go to nursery) and be financially secure without getting out loans etc or requiring help from the government.

I also want to make sure that I am in a relationship that has lasted a long time (at least 6 years) before having children, as so much can go wrong (and obviously still can after 6 years, but at least you have a better idea). I want my child to have a secure home life. I would want to live with my partner for at least 4 years before having kids.

Have to say that these are just my personal thoughts and my goals. Everyone is different, and what you want out of life might be entirely different from what I want! But just giving you an insight on why people might think it is wrong.

Answer 7

Because you are still considered a minor....and not QUITE an adult yet.

Have you graduated from high school? Are you going to college? Do you have health insurance? Do you have a decent job? How are you going to live? With your fiance? With your parents? Who's going to watch your baby while you're at work? Do you know how much daycare is? Do you have a car? A safe one? .............

These questions run through my mind.....

My husband and I are 28-29 years old and have a 4 yr old son.....we both have great jobs, graduated from college with masters degrees, and STILL struggle somewhat financially...we have a house, two cars, standard things....it's HARD to live these days with the prices of things going sky-high....and I just can't imagine a 17 year old being prepared enough to financially, emotionally and mentally for a child.

Sorry, but that's what I think about a child being pregnant with a child....

Answer 8

Becase at 17 (or younger) you are barely even out of high school (that is of course if you have graduated yet). So many young girls that get pregnant at an early age...14,15, 16 & 17don't have the opportunity to finish high school let alone begin college.

I don't think it is bad, but I do think it is sad to be so young, pregnant...and basically have no future. All you can do now is make the best out of the situation...I sincerely hope you finish highschool and are able to attend college at some point.

I think you may get ugly reponses merely because all of us married pregnant women are just sick of seeing posts on here from 14 year old girls that actually WANT to get pregnant. In any case, good luck to you, your boyfriend and your new baby.

Answer 9

Because at 17 you are still a child. No matter what you may think, it is simply not possible to know all you need to know to be an excellent mother at 17. And why would you want to be anyway? At 17 you have experienced nothing other than education, you can't bring a child up when you know nothing of the real world and are still new to it yourself. Experiencing the world for and by yourself; making mistakes and learning from them, seeing things that you won't get to see if you have a child to think of is what life is all about, so do that, enjoy yourself and have a kid when you are actually ready to.

Answer 10

Personally, I don't believe the pregnancy is the problem, because you can be a young mom and still be a good mom. The problem comes if you dump the baby on your family, drop out of school, and basically act like trash. But if you take responsibility for your actions and your new little life, then good for you! I'd rather see a pregnant 17 year old than a 17 year old who's had multiple abortions.

Answer 11

You've lots of things to think about here.

Firstly, you've lived a short life so far. What sort of life experience can you offer a child? You've barely left school and it's a big, nasty World out there.
Secondly, how are you going to feel when your friends are out enjoying themselves, going on holiday, shopping and doing things that girls do when you're stuck in with a baby?Thirdly, you're still growing. It can put a strain on your body as it is, but you're not fully mature physically so it can be harder for teenage mums.

You have this child 24/7 for the rest of your life with the man you're with, regardless of the outcome of your relationship.
Are you both mature enough to cope with the trials and tribulations that a baby will throw your way? It puts a HUGE strain on relationships, life experience and mature thinking will get you thorugh it yet you have so little.

I understand why you're cross but there are voices of experience, some of whom may have made mistakes similar to this, who can envisage the outcome.
None of us want you to be another statistic - I hope in 10yrs time you can look back on this and know you've done the right thing.

The younger you are, he more you think you know. The older you become, the more you realise you know nothing!