How do i tell my roomate and best friend, that i want to move out?

Question

I think its just time for me to move on on my own, i don't want her to feel abandoned or that she did something to make me want to move this is a desion that i think is just better for me as a adult. besides i just turned 29 yrs old and she is 31 yrs old. kind of old to be living with your bestfriend? What do you think?

Answer 1

Just tell her..
don't think so much and don't give excuse.. be honest...

Answer 2

Boy o boy! I have been in your shoes. I had been roomates and best friends with a girl since college (17) . We stayed roomates throughout our singing career and up until I married (27) That was a long time to be together. When I got ready to marry, and my finance and I sat down with her to talk to her and tell her, she was so angry! The only reason for that was jealousy! We offered to pay my part of the rent through the balance of the year. She was so mad, she turned us down. Eventually, she got over it. We were never the same again- but it was all for the best. Sit her down and let her know you have had some great years as roomies, but you want to get your own place, experience life on your own, open yourself to some new adventures. Make sure that you tell her with enough time for her to either get another roomie, or move to a more suitable -sized apartment. She may not be receptive to your move, and may not join you in your quest for apartment looking or the excitement in being on your own. Try to engage her in your choices and experience, but don't force the issue. Sometimes when roomates live together for a long time, you cross over what's yours and what is hers- try not to squabble and fight over 'who-bought-what. Hopefully, you can work that out and still maintain your best friend. Good luck. It may be difficult, but you are making a good decision. You need to know what it is like to live alone, or with someone else for that matter. It's your life.

Answer 3

I agree. If you feel like it is time to move on and move out then you need to do what is best for you. Situations like these are very difficult and awkward, but just keep letting her know that it was nothing she did wrong or that you don't want to be friends anymore it's just that you want to be on your own. You could even suggest her finding a new roommate if maybe she can't financially afford living on her own. She has nothing to be mad at you for though. Good luck, I know it's hard.

Answer 4

Tough as you don't want to hurt her feelings but if you don't do this, you will begin feeling resentment toward her and it won't be her fault - it will be yours.

I would say, "I've come to the conclusion that it is time for me to have a place of my own. I have really enjoyed living with you and I don't want to lose your friendship. I just want to try being totally independant."

And then find a place and move.

Answer 5

Things like this are never easy, however, honesty is the best policy. It is nothing negative about her, it is simply your desire to be independent and venture out there on your own. If I were her I would appreciate the honesty. Buy her a nice token of your sincere appreciation of the friendship and companionship she has provided, and reiterate the fact that your friendship remains unchanged.

Answer 6

I think you are right! She doesn't have any reason other than missing you, to be upset with your decision. As long as you give her time to find a replacement (if needed) it's fine.
Tell her you make enough to have your own place, and you think it's time.

Answer 7

Just tell her what you just wrote. It IS time for you to go out on your own. I think she can understand that. She can always find herself another roomate. Just be honest with her that's all.

Answer 8

The same way you placed it in this question. As long as you 2 arent sleeping together and she is truly a friend, then she should understand. Its a man thing! ;o)

Answer 9

u male? stay there she female...