There is this guy I see often at this place of employment. He always seems very friendly with. He always seems out of his way friendly at times. Often times, I notice him checkin me out, or looking at me when I am not looking at him. He does this often - actually, everytime I am there. He makes small talk with me, and asks me how I am and asks about the "weather, etc. I ask him how he is, and he say's "I'm alright" as if he wants to tlak more. (I think). I make it very obvious I am interested in him. I flirt with him, and I am all smiles when I talk to him and quite distracted by him. It's so obvious. Yesterday, I asked his name and he told me, and then I told him mine and he seemed "surprised" - or, maybe like "whatever" when I told him. I don't get it. Is this guy interested in me, or not? I am confused now. I feel he seemed really into me, but, I can't tell.
2007-06-27 04:48:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Thanks Incubus. Please do....!!!
2007-06-27 06:23:07 · update #1
And, I really like him. I really like him a lot.
2007-06-27 06:23:22 · update #2
I am no relationship expert yet here is a simple viewpoint that i have. First ask yourself this question, how long its been since you know each other? experiences like these should only be taken seriously when you know if there is genuine interest in the person. to find out if he truly likes you...you must give time so that the feelings of love and genuine liking are revealed clearly. i always believe in having no regrets later on and to have no regrets later, you must figure out if this is genuine love/liking or simple friendly gesture to strike a conversation. time is the best teacher.
going by your words, your approach is more based on your assumptions. i guess, if you take help from your best friend in this regard it may be of some help. help like finding out more about his thoughts and views about you. by your words, we can arrive at a point that he is courting you. if you like him and he genuinely likes you...let it blossom. you are either in love or you are not...there is no inbetweenie. i really want to write more here and share my personal experiences. perhaps i can add more to this response later on.
P.S. dated 06/30/2007-there is a thin line between liking someone and loving someone. and when it comes to love...i believe in it being unconditional. its like you don't expect it back but you surely madly truly love and care.i know that this level of love can only be shown by God the living Lord Himself...what we even consider love is on a superficial level. personally i would recommend you give it more time for this feeling to blossom (but you must make sure that he also genuinely feels for you, otherwise this experience can be real painful and heartrending...as this means involvement at emotional level), let the feeling marinade and when it is time express it. i believe we go through heartbroken feelings as we expect the other person to meet a set standard. same with the other person who would like you. if we don't meet then there is discord, disturbance and all sorts of problems arise. a relationship won't last on mere love...we must make efforts to understand the other person, to give room and to ultimately respect the person as an individual. i wish you all the best in your quest for a meaningful relationship. i pray you not experience the pain that i experienced. have a happy life there. PEACE!
2007-06-27 05:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by Chief of sinners 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a situation like this at a photo exhibit I went to with a friend in NY City. I was talking too two people and I said something and i happen to look at my right and their is this guy staring at me with a big smile for a good 5 seconds I smile back and than he says did I meet you here two years ago did you work here.....well depending on how I answered him he got scared or somethingI said no I never worked here...then he looked away stood quiet and then I said what is your name and he told me and told me he was part of the photo people...anyway he totally ignored me after that haha my friend was like what happened hahaha I intimated him who knows I was nice friendly hahah to much for him to handle but you know what I kept going I met nice people that night and had fun with my friend the point is be yourself and never put your eggs in one basket talk to many guys and just have fun and if he is nice you be nice remember always there are other men in the sea always........never chase after anything...whats that saying you have to meet many Frogs hahaha before you meet your Prince good luck :))))) Have fun :))
2007-06-27 13:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by Rita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i believe he into to you but i don't know if he is ready to go to the next step just wait a little bit continue talking to him, do you know if he is dating someone? maybe you would casually ask that because guys are like that they like someone but they are going out with someone else and it takes too long for them to figure out what to do.
2007-06-27 12:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by mila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. Personally, I don't need a male in my life to validate me. Autonomy is beautiful.
2007-06-27 11:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by reynwater 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time...enjoy the flirting process and if it develops great if not you had a good time...just don't rush it...too many times we rush relationships and it ruins them...give him time
2007-06-27 12:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋