I mean, you do everything in ur power to please this person and even when u have tried ur best---it's still not good enough.
2007-06-27 04:36:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
U guys r really good with what you've writtens o far.
well this person happens to be my MOM
2007-06-27 04:48:32 · update #1
yes
2007-06-27 04:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, stop right now. When someone loves you , you shouldn't have to please them at all. They should love you for who you are. You are also learning a very valuable lesson in life, you can't make people like you no matter what you do.
And YOU CAN'T make everybody happy. Someone , somewhere will always want more than what you can give them.
So leave that person to find the perfect girlfriend ( believe me there is no such thing as the perfect person ) and go on with your life. Someday you will find the man that will love you for who you are and appreciate you without wanting you to change anything.
Keep your head up high. you deserve it.
Good Luck
2007-06-27 04:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
I did everything in my power to make my husband happy. I got a job as an Office Manager, at the restaurant where he was the Executive Chef. I became a workaholic there, in order to see more of him and in order to bring home more money. This was all on top of cleaning the house and being his wife.
I convinced my family to invest and help him open his own restauarnt. Then convinced friends and family to help us build the place, decorate and invest still more money and time to help us keep it open.
In the end, he ruined my credit, ruined my relationship with my family and he is now my ex-husband.
This was all after supporting his MULTIPLE career changes. He was a cook, a chef, a paramedic, an installation installer, a video producer and then he went back to being a chef.
He was unemployed multiple times, leaving me to support us financially. He was verbally and emotionally abusive.
I stayed with him for seven years.
Finally, one day, I woke up and asked, "What has he ever done for me?"
I mean, he never even got me a card or flowers for my birthday or our anniversary. He hardly ever told me I looked pretty, even when I dressed up.
Because of his selfish ways, I had to give up my music career (I was studying to be an opera singer, but because I was the only one with a job, I couldn't afford to take care of us and pay for all the lessons.).
He was a real piece of work, and I'm glad he's gone now.
I've begun to enjoy life and look forward to meeting someone who thinks of me and does for me, just as much as I think of and do for them.
I wish you the best!
2007-06-27 04:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by diva_500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely....and then after a certain amount of time...in my case, nearly 25 years, you realize that it's not you who isn't doing a good enough job or not doing things correctly...it's them for not being grateful enough and so you choose to leave. You are not put on this earth to just take care of people and if you do just that, you will regret it. Let it go and do some things for yourself instead and then you will find that life becomes more colorful!
2007-06-27 04:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by me n' mona 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope this is a lesson well learned. There is no way that you can ever do enough to please someone especially if their expectations or standards are set so high that it becomes impossible to please them. These are people who have no intentions of making themselves that available to anyone and therefore, they don't really expect that you can meet their demands. Please don't keep trying. You can wear yourself out doing that. Some people are just like that. They love to see you "splitting hairs" over your efforts and they sit back and watch you make a fool of yourself. Don't put yourself through that ever again.
2007-06-27 04:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, stop now.. it's a huge waist of your time and your dignity. Obviously they don't know who you are nor want to. They do not appreciate you and if you've done it for a long time, your just being taken advantage of, sad to admit for myself. Start doing things for yourself first instead of others. You will feel better about it.
2007-06-27 04:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by Charley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to this person about how you're feeling. Point out the pleasing thing you do & their response. Just get it out & let them know.
2007-06-27 04:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by J Doe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think we all have.. But I've learned that you cant please everyone.. And you have to accept if for what it is.. People spend their lives trying to make every one else happy.. when all in all.. U should be focusing on yourself and your own happiness.
2007-06-27 04:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by Tru_New Orleanian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's when it's time to dump them and replace them with somebody who appreciates you and your efforts. That's no way to spend your life, Sweetie.
2007-06-27 04:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, but after awhile, i get tired of beating a dead horse, so tell that ingrate to go to hell and hit the road jack, and don't come back no more, no more!!!
2007-06-27 04:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋