I sit next to somebody all day at work and I honestly can't stand him. It's got to the point where anything the guy does will pee me off. It is partly the things he does (types like a preying mantis, sends creepy emails to girls he fancies in the office, picks his nose all day...) and partly who he is (pathetic, self-obsessed, socially awkward but arrogant too, disgusting.....) but the thing is: he isn't going to change and I can't make him. So, the question has to be, how can I get over my dislike for him? How can I avoid getting irritated? Any help is appreciated. Thank you.
2007-06-27 04:26:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We're a small team so I can't move anywhere else or I'd be unable to do my job.
2007-06-27 04:32:11 · update #1
Just go to your supervisor. Approach it delicately so you don't look like you're whining, and say you are finding it difficult to work/concentrate with him next to you. You may want to bring up the creepy email thing, because that is probably illegal and management will have to take action on that for fear of being sued.
In the meantime, ignore him and be curt with him if he talks to you. Listen to headphones if you are allowed to do that, and if you aren't in cubicles and can actually see him, consider putting up plants or something so you won't have to look at him.
Good luck.
(Great visual of typing like a preying mantis, by the way.)
2007-06-27 04:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Yogi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, I felt like I was reading about my co-worker, but with different issues. I guess we go thru different stages.... I was ill, irate, and was all but ugly to my co-worker. (non-stop talking, giggly, she always had the best, always in the BEST mood---GOT OLD). Anyways, had all but stopped talking to her, except when I had to on business. Felt bad, but that's the only satisfaction I could get. Long story short, she's had some issues at home to happen and has really brought her down a notch or two. I know this won't necessiarly happen in your case, but she's totally changed. As for your case, I guess just get as close to ugly as you can, and then, if that person asks whats up with you, lay it out..... what have you got to lose? Or, if others are complaining, air your concerns too, and that'll be another name on the list. I'm sorry its happening to you... I went home each day so ill, and it wasn't my families fault.... Right before my co-worker had her issues, I had finally just gotten to the point of where I ignored her....keep me posted.
2007-06-27 04:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you need to re-position yourself away from this person. Being so close is not a good thing for your mental health. See if you can move to another area. If not request a transfer to a different dept. Do you have a human resources person or supervisor you can talk to?
If all else fails, change jobs. This one is not worth the stress and aggravation.
2007-06-27 04:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bypass living house. take some deep breaths. bypass someplace friendly. then think of approximately what you could say to a supervisor or HR person abut the certainty that she pushed the challenge to you and accuses you of doing no longer something. the pregnant woman element isn't your subject so some distance as HR is worried, and appearing offended at her won't help. however the artwork-place bullying desires to be confronted in a roundabout way, terrific in a calm way. even with the undeniable fact that, if i've got been you, i does not hardship doing what i in simple terms stated to do. i could in simple terms discover yet another pastime.
2016-10-19 01:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by tamayo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd find a radio station on the internet that relaxes you and listen to that! Maybe bring in a scented candle that really relaxes you...anything with lavender in it works well for me! You don't need to burn it, but just the smell will relax you a bit. Hang up pics of your friends to make your space more your own...and just ignore the guy. Don't look for reasons to hate him...just pretend he isn't even there!
2007-06-27 04:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just accept the fact that "that is him" and it takes all kinds to make the world go 'round! Although this may sound crazy to you, try to get to know him more....they say "keep your friends close and your enemies closer"....it sounds like he does a lot to get attention...if you make an effort to befriend him, he may realize that he does not have to strive so hard to get attention by doing the things that annoy you!
2007-06-27 04:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him!! Be prepaired for his attention getting behavior to increase, before it gets better, and of course let your supervisor know!! He may just leave, if enough of you take a stand! Or possibly turn himself around!!
2007-06-27 04:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you move?! Something like that would make me want to leave my job - however - every time I have felt like that I have been able to make the other person miserable and disliked enough that he or she left!
2007-06-27 04:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by JQ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can relocate do it. If not, ask yourself why you let him get to you? Who is he that he affects you so much? And if you truly can't get over his bad habits then look for another job... sounds drastic, but then again so does murder!!!!
2007-06-27 04:34:01 · answer #9 · answered by dimplez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
E mail to all your friends about all the annoying things he does. It'll help you vent. Other than that your stuck sitting next to that jerk off as long as you both work there.
2007-06-27 04:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by Ariel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋