Tell The Truth?

Question

Whether you are married, in a relationship, or not, do you really feel that people are interested looking for love or not. In my experience it seems that men are only looking for some one to have sex with. All they want is an orgasm, doesn't really matter who gives them that. Some women are only looking for men to give them money or sex. Even marriages sometimes only seem to be about social status, and not having sex outside of marriage, just something to soothe there conscienous. What do you think?

Answer 1

I personally love conversation and could spend all day talking about politics, religion, art and would love to of found a spouse to talk to and thought I did. After 12 years of marriage my wife no longer wants to talk about anything, but her diet and her company's petty politics. Anything more global she thinks is a waste of time to talk about, so she reduced her own role in our marriage. As for sex, I do enjoy sex, but not with my wife. Its hard to have passion for someone who is small minded about the world.

I also whole heatedly agree with you about wives wanting money for sex and I blame it on a distorted sense of self worth. Some how many wives think they are worth more or are loved more by what they can get their husbands to spend on them. However, this is a dangerous game because they run the risk of OVER valuing their worth and building resentment in their spouse.

Answer 2

Men are looking for a built in maid, do the cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, child raising. Women are looking for a little bit of everything all rolled into one big hunk of a man. She wants love, money, social status, help around the house, romance, protection, the list goes on forever. Basically we are all looking for that some one that can fulfill the needs that we have that only a person of the opposite ( or same) sex can fill. Good luck.

Answer 3

Everyone's looking for love. Not everyone has the patience and character to be alone and hopeful.

Some men settle for sex. Some women settle for money.

Women have an easier time getting sex without being in some sort of relationship. Men often have to commit to someone less than ideal to have any sort of sex life at all.

Answer 4

I, personally, have been dating my boyfriend for three years, and he is the complete opposite of the men you described above. He is such a great person, and he loves and respects me for who I am. We share a lot of the same hobbies and have lots of fun together. We have more than a physical relationship, we are emotionally and spiritually attached as well.

And, I hope that I dont personify the women that you described above. My boyfried really isnt all that wealthy (we are college students), and we have gone through a lot together.

I think when you get to the bottom of this question, you have to realize that in order to be really, completely happy in a relationship you have to be willing to sacrifice, and nobody wants to do that.

Im not saying my relationship is perfect, because (believe me) we have the typical disagreements, etc., but I think that you have to have a deep connection in all facets of your life in order to be happy with someone.

Answer 5

You are talking about extremes here. It's a jaded mentality. Not all men are solely looking for sex. And i'll tell you, my marriage is not about any sort of status. It's about us loving eachother and being eachother's best friends and creating a exclusive "club" of only two members where we have lifetime memberships.

Love is not dead and it is very very real. It just depends on who it is, I guess.

Answer 6

i think woman are looking for someone to love them and to love but men really just want a companion. someone to take care of them, wash their clothes, cook dinner and of course sex. that's why not many men can stay single. they don't like to be lonely. woman on the other hand could stay single for years.